Application
As I woke up one morning I looked in the mirror at my young but tired face and thought of my routine life.
"What am I doing?" I asked myself. I threw on some clothes and went out there into that scary, nasty place known as the world.
I haven't looked back since. Right now, you're reading a thread on the Internet. Yeah, it's sosuave.net, so it's supposed to make you a better person. Supposed to make you a man. But these threads won't do anything for you until you shove them into APPLICATION. Get out there and do something. Use the knowledge this site has given you and apply it. Use it. TRY.
Proximecs
It has been proven that the more you are exposed to people, the more people you will meet. It is this simple principle of proximecs (the study of distance and how people use, manipulate, and identify their space) that should motivate you to GET OUT. Sometimes I'm sitting at home watching TV and although the program might be entertaining, I'm still left asking myself - What am I doing? I lace up my shoes and get out there. Studies have shown that in a bar or club, the most effective spots to meet people are not the corners where people usually tend to formulate, but the entrance (once again going back to proximecs).
So sit at the entrance. Does that mean the ladies will flock to you? Of course not. It's pretty simple - you will be exposed to more people. More conversational opportunities will open up. It's up to you to take them.
I try to hit the gym at least 4 times a week. Since joining the gym I have identified so many faces it's unbelievable. I feel like I know these people, even if the depth of our conversation hasn't surpassed where we live or what we do. These people aren't always women- they are people. And you're a person. So why shouldn't you interact with other people?
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit." - Aristotle
Make it a HABIT to get out and see people, even if you don't meet people the very first time. You will meet people. Sometimes I get out of the house just to drive around. I'll park somewhere and listen to some music, just chilling out in my car.
"Incog, you're not going to get laid by sitting in your car alone!"
When did I ever bring up getting laid? It's about opportunities, and how YOU can CREATE them. Yes, YOU!
"No great man ever complains of wanting opportunities." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Sometimes I admit it is good to focus on individualism. No doubt. Sometimes Friday nights should consist of a laid back night at home with some hot chocolate, watching late night TV. You know what else that night should consist of? The fulfilling thought that the other 6 days of the week - you made the most of them. Whether you got an HB9's phone number or not, you seized every opportunity to achieve forward mobility in life. This starts on a small scale. If you are in for the night where other people are out partying, it's probably best to keep that to yourself. Don't post that myspace bulletin. Don't answer that phone call. You made up your mind and your decision will improve you.
"If you have an hour, will you not improve that hour, instead of idling it away?" - Lord Chesterfield
Set Goals
The important of goals is stressed throughout this website. And I'm certainly not going to beat a dead horse. I will provide some quick examples in modern life. Make it a habit (see Aristotle quote) to get out and be around people. Go alone or with a friend. Talk to people. Not only in communication but in all aspects of life you should be setting goals. The other day I was shooting some hoops at the gym alone, and it hit me. What was I doing? I was shooting the ball - but I wasn't motivated to make it. I told myself I'm not leaving until I hit 20 jump shots. Twenty jump shots later, I was on my way.
Don't Externalize Blame
Nobody likes a man who blames his failures on anything and everything around him. Accept failure - along with accepting it, EMBRACE it.
"A failure is a man who has blundered but is not capable of cashing in on the experience." - Elbert Hubbard
CASH IN on your failures. Life's a big swap meet.
I want everybody that feels this thread to, upon finishing it, close the window and get out of their house. Do something without worrying about what others will think. Take action and just DO something! It's that simple. No need to make things harder than they already are. I leave you with a quote from Rocky Balboa, which I just saw in theatres - you should check it out if you get a chance.
"You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done. Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!" - Rocky Balboa
So now, it's time to pose to you the question: What are you doing?
- Incog
As I woke up one morning I looked in the mirror at my young but tired face and thought of my routine life.
"What am I doing?" I asked myself. I threw on some clothes and went out there into that scary, nasty place known as the world.
I haven't looked back since. Right now, you're reading a thread on the Internet. Yeah, it's sosuave.net, so it's supposed to make you a better person. Supposed to make you a man. But these threads won't do anything for you until you shove them into APPLICATION. Get out there and do something. Use the knowledge this site has given you and apply it. Use it. TRY.
Proximecs
It has been proven that the more you are exposed to people, the more people you will meet. It is this simple principle of proximecs (the study of distance and how people use, manipulate, and identify their space) that should motivate you to GET OUT. Sometimes I'm sitting at home watching TV and although the program might be entertaining, I'm still left asking myself - What am I doing? I lace up my shoes and get out there. Studies have shown that in a bar or club, the most effective spots to meet people are not the corners where people usually tend to formulate, but the entrance (once again going back to proximecs).
So sit at the entrance. Does that mean the ladies will flock to you? Of course not. It's pretty simple - you will be exposed to more people. More conversational opportunities will open up. It's up to you to take them.
I try to hit the gym at least 4 times a week. Since joining the gym I have identified so many faces it's unbelievable. I feel like I know these people, even if the depth of our conversation hasn't surpassed where we live or what we do. These people aren't always women- they are people. And you're a person. So why shouldn't you interact with other people?
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit." - Aristotle
Make it a HABIT to get out and see people, even if you don't meet people the very first time. You will meet people. Sometimes I get out of the house just to drive around. I'll park somewhere and listen to some music, just chilling out in my car.
"Incog, you're not going to get laid by sitting in your car alone!"
When did I ever bring up getting laid? It's about opportunities, and how YOU can CREATE them. Yes, YOU!
"No great man ever complains of wanting opportunities." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Sometimes I admit it is good to focus on individualism. No doubt. Sometimes Friday nights should consist of a laid back night at home with some hot chocolate, watching late night TV. You know what else that night should consist of? The fulfilling thought that the other 6 days of the week - you made the most of them. Whether you got an HB9's phone number or not, you seized every opportunity to achieve forward mobility in life. This starts on a small scale. If you are in for the night where other people are out partying, it's probably best to keep that to yourself. Don't post that myspace bulletin. Don't answer that phone call. You made up your mind and your decision will improve you.
"If you have an hour, will you not improve that hour, instead of idling it away?" - Lord Chesterfield
Set Goals
The important of goals is stressed throughout this website. And I'm certainly not going to beat a dead horse. I will provide some quick examples in modern life. Make it a habit (see Aristotle quote) to get out and be around people. Go alone or with a friend. Talk to people. Not only in communication but in all aspects of life you should be setting goals. The other day I was shooting some hoops at the gym alone, and it hit me. What was I doing? I was shooting the ball - but I wasn't motivated to make it. I told myself I'm not leaving until I hit 20 jump shots. Twenty jump shots later, I was on my way.
Don't Externalize Blame
Nobody likes a man who blames his failures on anything and everything around him. Accept failure - along with accepting it, EMBRACE it.
"A failure is a man who has blundered but is not capable of cashing in on the experience." - Elbert Hubbard
CASH IN on your failures. Life's a big swap meet.
I want everybody that feels this thread to, upon finishing it, close the window and get out of their house. Do something without worrying about what others will think. Take action and just DO something! It's that simple. No need to make things harder than they already are. I leave you with a quote from Rocky Balboa, which I just saw in theatres - you should check it out if you get a chance.
"You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done. Now, if you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain't you. You're better than that!" - Rocky Balboa
So now, it's time to pose to you the question: What are you doing?
- Incog
