What are ways to get IL back high up again?

[Akilles]

I've been here for long, and this is my first time posting.

Just wanted to know, what are the ways to get IL back up in a relationship? I'm in a relationship of six months and going, and i realize that my girl is not what she used to be. I'm sure that i haven't been an AFC, being too desperate.

So my point is, i really like this girl, and i don't want to lose her. However in the events of which i do, i, no doubt, will leave like a man. But before i do, i just wanted to know what are the things to keep IL high, and get them back up high in a LTR.

Thanks in Advance,

Akilles.

 

[Five To One]

You said shes not the girl she use to be. What has changed about her that you dont like?

 

[Akilles]

I guess i should say that she is less interested now. She becomes alittle passive, and that's pretty much it.

 

[Akilles]

Anyone?

 

[AlexTheGreat]

what did you do to get her interested in the first place? Are you still doing those things?

There are two people in a relationship, and you can't say that she has changed without looking at yourself as well. You need to figure out if you've changed, if you've become more passive, less challenging, less fun, less creative.

From what I've noticed, my girl's energy level is mostly a reflection of my own: if I'm bored, she will be bored; if I'm energetic, it'll be contagious to her.

If she seems passive, take her out on a date and show her a good time. And if she still acts the same way, then you should become a little more passive and restrict your time with her. If she seems to be pulling away, you should show her the best of times, but in VERY LIMITED AMOUNTS!

I believe the best way to rekindle lost interest is to leave her wanting a lot more! Return to your original state of mind, from 6 months ago, and try to pick her up again like she's a new girl you've never slept with.

 

[DonGorgon]

Next Her And Wait Or Her ... Or Next Her And Go Find A Nother Girl Who Likes You More...

 

[AKA FLEX]

I am going to tell you the secret to IL. CHALLENGE! PERIOD!

You are no longer a challenge to her. Women are driven to crazy mad levels when they are with a man they can't control. And it is hard to fake being a challenge, because eventually you will crack and go non-challenge. To be a real challenge, you need to have a busy, active, and satisfying life outside of this chick. Once you get that you will call less often, be less available, will learn to say no to her, etc.

The beautiful thing is that you can literally turn her from nagging ***** to psychotic nymphomaniac by being a challenge for about 5 days. This is how sensitive a woman is to challenge.

I agree. Back in my AFC days, I always noticed that when I was the one who started losing interest in a chick and pulling away, her interest level ALWAYS skyrocketed into the stratosphere.

Too bad it took me so many years to start putting that information to use with chicks I actually wanted to be with.

 

[Outsider]

Start selling drugs, roll around with 3 fly honnies all the time and I bet things will start to change around the crib with your wifey.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136122

 

[aix237]

Only thing you can do is back off further than she does. Look shes backing off and youre chasing her in some sense. Do the same better do it more than she is doing. Like do not answer her phone call and do not return it for like 5 or 6 hours. Do some sh1t without her and leave your phone so you have no choice but to not answer the phone and return it. I was dating this dumb b1tch got in a fight cause she was being an idiot and acting super standoffish for no reason. So i left didnt contact her left my phone at home and was gone for like 8 hours. I get home and have 3 missed calls and 1 text asking if im mad at her all from her. Call her up she answers right away. Simple do that out of the blue shell get high IL again.

 

[Mavrick]

The best way to get IL back up is by not trying to get it back up. Back the fvck off. Let her wonder. The more she wonders, the more she becomes interested. The only thing you can do is fvck it up or leave it alone. It's that simple. If you waste your time on low interested women, then you have no pride in yourself.

 

[pseudo_afc]

I had the same problem but it was quickly fixed after we stopped spending so much time together. That means sleeping over less, seeing her less, and having HER miss you. The less time you spend together the more she will appreciate your company in the long run. One of the most invaluable pieces of advice I've found on this forum is this:

For LTRs, keep things SHORT and MEMORABLE.

I'm not exactly sure who said it but I saw it on a different thread. Hope this helps.

 

[Akilles]

Sweet. Thanks for all the advice. 'preciate them.

Hope i will be able to get her IL back up high, without trying too hard. That done, i could be a challenge, yet being able to have her enjoy nothing better from no one else, and allowing me to have the best of both worlds.

I'll keep you guys updated.

She does mention that i have begun to be boring. But i suppose that's when we text cuz i'd reckon that i have been rather passive whenever i do reply her text. Guess it contradicts with me when i'm out with her, causing her to think otherwise?

Kudos to you DJs.