What are the reasons good relationships end

[pdx1138]

My last good relationship started going down hill when she was pushing for a near future with kids.

Thats not something I want. Her interest began to spiral down after that conversation. I was "wasting her time" if I didn't want kids.

That and I was beginning to get bored with her to the point that on a sunday morning I would rather leave and do my own stuff than hang out with her all day.

The excitement for me had run its course after 3 months.

I do wish it had turned out differently, we had so much in common.

 

[vatoloco]

Theoretically if u can convert a close female friend into a gf (rare but it does happen) then you already know her annoying habits. You also know that she is compatible with your lifestyle. Some girls have told me that even if they have known a guy well for years and then start dating them, they still switch up their good behavior into insecure sh** tests. They say that they are just better friends than gf's.

You wanna know why they say "they are just better friends than gf's"? Because they love the "newness" of things. Once a woman knows ABSOLUTELY everything about a man, there is no curiosity on her part. The mystery is dead. Women are like kitties. They love chasing after that new toy. After the new laser light. Once they're accustomed to it, they pay no more attention to it. It has now become BOOOOO-RING!

My current girl and I have been together for two years now but we're still discovering new things about each other. Why? Because when we met, we were "Perfect Strangers" (God, I loved Balki and his care-free attitude!) who knew nothing of each other but were physically attracted to one another.

Mystery at the early stages of dating is absolutely necessary.

And I'm not talking about the "Cat in the Hat"!


Edit: Once you get a girl, how do you keep things "fresh" and "new"? Easy! Emotions:

So, like I mentioned in my post on the thread I mentioned at the beginning, "bad boys" are never boring. They provide the wide range of emotions that women crave, even if not all those emotions and/or actions are positive). You don't necessarily have to be a "bad boy" to get women. But you do have to be exciting in that respect in order to get them and keep them.

From here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1830833&postcount=89

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Pandora, There must be fifty ways to leave a lover.

You Just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

But Pandora,no need to be drastic,just down size the relationship and find more love interests...never had much luck with upgrading relationships with friends,what are others thoughts?

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Because men put up with generally inclining disrespect until it's just too much. In the end he tries to check her on the disrespect but it's too late. All the respect she has for you is already lost.

 

[In2theGame]

We're talking about "good" relationships here, so I assume most of these will last a fairly long time. I think the fact is most relationships have a shelf life. There is a thing referred to as the "seven year itch".

I think it's too simplistic to say the guy turned AFC, and that's what doomed the relationship. I think no matter how "alpha" a guy is, at some point the novelty will wear off, and the girl won't be so excited by him. Like if a guy marries a supermodel, at some point after banging the same body year after year, some of the passion is going to drain out.

At this point, people (and women especially) are going to be more susceptible to the excitement of the possibility of a new relationship. They may develop a crush on a new person, have an affair, or branch swing to another guy. That's how I think most "good" relationships end.

Keeping yourself fresh and learning new things may not help either. I've seen studies that show that people are more likely to have an affair when they enter a new environment or situation. The excitement of the change leads to new possibilities being considered, and an affair may occur.

NAILED IT!

 

[sharkbeat]

Pretty much everyone nailed it. Here's my additional two cents.

In a LTR, men and women alike get used to each other company and they no longer thought of him or her as someone to pay attention to. This results in behavioral changes toward each other: ignoring the other person (knowing that s/he will be there), judging each other, wanting to change the other day person, not taking care of oneself (e.g. gain weight, no longer taking showers before sex). Once a couple enters this stage, the relationship becomes fragile. Somebody new will be seen as interesting.

 

[Boilermaker]

Dear Pandora, There must be fifty ways to leave a lover.

You Just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

I love you Scara.