"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What are the generic email / texting rules?

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i know its been covered here and there, but there are too many conflicting ideaologies, so lets define it here

so if emailing or texting, how long do you wait between pervious contacts, or when replying to the email/text, and how does it change when the girl is:
(a) romantic interest
(b) social friend
(c) work friend

i think general rules are to keep it short and brief and to not allow continuance of the conversation via email, ie give an answer and dont ask any follow up questions - end it there, and i think for (a), you shouldn't be emailing or texting at all
 

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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Personally I dont really pay attention to these "rules".

If I feel like texting a girl(wether there's any romatic interest or not), I'll text her. Same thing with emails/myspace(if they happen to add me).

Like yesterday while waiting for my dad to get off work (he let me borrow his car), I texted a girl I'm interested in because I was bored, and we kept the text going back and forth for about 15 min(then I just stopped because my dad got out).
But I wont over do it or make it into a routine.
 

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I try to keep them rare (not too rare, but make it a treat for her), tell her something out of the ordinary (not just "hey, sup"), and i try to keep the correspondence short.

what i like to do is shoot a text over to her, reply if she does, and then pull back
 

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and what about timing issues? especially when replying to emails/texts

what's the tradeoff between replyign quickly so you catch her in the same mood she was in when she sent it, and between waiting to show that you have a life and are busy?
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ACK. You guys really have no clue.

It's best if you don't do them at all. Belive I have tried everything including what Valley said with lots of girls. None of it worked, they either pay no attention to it or get creeped out.

It's really best if you keep your interactions in person, it adds way more value to you.
 

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Bvbidd said:
ACK. You guys really have no clue.

It's best if you don't do them at all. Belive I have tried everything including what Valley said with lots of girls. None of it worked, they either pay no attention to it or get creeped out.

It's really best if you keep your interactions in person, it adds way more value to you.
so if the chick initiates, just ignore it, or say let's meet in person and we can talk about it? even if it is the mindless drivel they normally want to talk about?
 
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