What are the biggest red flags for you?

[mjb3617]

If your talking about sexual abuse, especially when she was a young girl? Then yes they are seriously damaged.

Many of these girls become full on sluts by age 17-18 I have seen many get involved with stripping/porn etc.

Most will experiment with drugs, or self harm.

It's unfortunate what happened to them as children, however you can't fix the damage.

They will give you the most amazing sex.. Fullfil your every fantasy.. However long term they are poison!

You're correct. My ex had scars on the inside of her thighs and arms from cutting. Unsuccessfully attempted suicide. Admitted to doing LSD in the past. Not sure if she did anything else.

She was still messed up from all of that stuff and she was mid 30s. Add in all the tattoos, piercings, ear gauges, and her stance on wanting her uterus cut out of her body (because she hated having a period) and that makes for one very interesting experience.

Her self-esteem was poor and the victim mindset was unreal. She never wanted kids or marriage. She knew she was damaged goods.

 

[soulforge]

Weren’t you acting needy before, and then got your shi1t together before nexting?

Nope never anything needy.. Arranged two dates, but she cancelled both times as she couldn't get a sitter for her kid.

However she gave 4-5 blow j0bs at work, but getting to sex stage became tasking.. So I decided to next

 

[tightsocks]

Sounds like ever woman i have ever dated


How did men even get to such a pathetic state? Modern man has no dignity or self respect. Nobody in my fathers generation would have signed up for onlyfans.

Simping has gone global.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

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[derby1]

Basically it all sums up to acting like you are high value male who keeps his sh1t together

Dont Act ......Become

 

[powersize]

Dont Act ......Become

Working on it man.

I am 7.5-8 HB, 184 cm, 85kg shredded guy, workout at the gym, keep my diet, have a white-collar work in a bank, make above average money than people in my country, speak 3 languages fluently and 2-3 on some basic level. Jumped with parachute 3 weeks ago from 4k meters and wanna try other risky things. I get the compliments from men and women about my look and shape. Yesterday I talked with the random guy at the gym who is a personal trainer and he thought I am a trainer as well cause of my shape.

My biggest problem is that if I like the girl - I attach to her way to quick. Even though I would not put her as a prize but the moment my emotions are engaged - I am in high risk to screw up. And I think they feel it. They all see how you start to behave, became softer, started to tolerate some sh1t they make. They start to lose interest cause you are not that grounded guy who they need to work on to make things physical, now you are another beta guy who would jump to my bed if I only ask.

And even though I try to have that ADGAF mindset and be indifferent it is not fully working for you if you do not talk to other girls. I need to constantly hunt and do not be that lazy guy who will only go out on Saturday night, approach or not some girls. And with the feel of mission completed goes home and start thinking about that 1 chick again over and over. I know there are hundred of women who dream to be with me but if I am not proactive and sit home most of the time - they will not appear to me.

I started again cold approaching girls on the way to work, home, at the gym. The hunt should be everywhere where you see at lear 6 HB girl or above. I need to work on the quality of my social circle - I have a couple of friends, but I mostly spend my free time alone. I know how to handle myself alone cause I live already 4 years in a different country where English is not a native language. Once I reach some level in this - I think I will get that missing part of the ultimate abundance mindset. My self value will improve cause of the all girls I met during that time, and the friends that I can always spend time with if I have no plans on the weekends

 

[derby1]

I am 7.5-8 HB, 184 cm, 85kg shredded guy, workout at the gym, keep my diet, have a white-collar work in a bank, make above average money than people in my country, speak 3 languages fluently and 2-3 on some basic level. Jumped with parachute 3 weeks ago from 4k meters and wanna try other risky things. I get the compliments from men and women about my look and shape. Yesterday I talked with the random guy at the gym who is a personal trainer and he thought I am a trainer as well cause of my shape.

My biggest problem is that if I like the girl - I attach to her way to quick. Even though I would not put her as a prize but the moment my emotions are engaged - I am in high risk to screw up. And I think they feel it. They all see how you start to behave, became softer, started to tolerate some sh1t they make. They start to lose interest cause you are not that grounded guy who they need to work on to make things physical, now you are another beta guy who would jump to my bed if I only ask.

And even though I try to have that ADGAF mindset and be indifferent it is not fully working for you if you do not talk to other girls. I need to constantly hunt and do not be that lazy guy who will only go out on Saturday night, approach or not some girls. And with the feel of mission completed goes home and start thinking about that 1 chick again over and over. I know there are hundred of women who dream to be with me but if I am not proactive and sit home most of the time - they will not appear to me.

I started again cold approaching girls on the way to work, home, at the gym. The hunt should be everywhere where you see at lear 6 HB girl or above. I need to work on the quality of my social circle - I have a couple of friends, but I mostly spend my free time alone. I know how to handle myself alone cause I live already 4 years in a different country where English is not a native language. Once I reach some level in this - I think I will get that missing part of the ultimate abundance mindset. My self value will improve cause of the all girls I met during that time, and the friends that I can always spend time with if I have no plans on the weekends

you seem to have a good concept of it. The reason I say dont act is because you will do something to show indifference-high value, then make a simple mistake like travelling to the chics house AFTER she has disrespected you.

another mistake i made was getting my ex jumping through hoops, everything was going great, she warmed up and gave me some P*ssy. the morning after i started talking about us being back in a relationship.

she taught herself there and then, my last 8 weeks of macho man D.G.A.F was an act. and she went totally cold knowing she had me.

 

[powersize]

you seem to have a good concept of it. The reason I say dont act is because you will do something to show indifference-high value, then make a simple mistake like travelling to the chics house AFTER she has disrespected you.

another mistake i made was getting my ex jumping through hoops, everything was going great, she warmed up and gave me some P*ssy. the morning after i started talking about us being back in a relationship.

she taught herself there and then, my last 8 weeks of macho man D.G.A.F was an act. and she went totally cold knowing she had me.

I think we make those mistakes cause we do not have any other plate in the pipeline. I do not know about your case, but remember my threat "Fuked up tonight"? This was the chick I played good game pretty much all the time (I did act kinda weird at work - basically was ignoring her which was not the best idea back to the time), she initiated most of the time, asked couple of times why I act like that with her.

But basically she was the only one I had for 2 months. I got too lazy to go hunt and as a result got attached. One time I met another chick and we scheduled a date on Friday. And guess what, that first chick texted me and wanted to meet. I texted I am busy this Friday and said "You buy drinks and come over next evening". I was in that position that I knew I am going on the date with the second chick today so I did not give a fuk if that first chick accepts or not. And she did. And she asked me 2 times why I was busy which I lied of course. And I fuked that chick in the morning and the night before. And she even told her friends how she spent the night with me. But then again I got too lazy with hunt and focused on that only chick. End of the story you know I think.

So the bottom line - have 2-3 plates (depends on your free time) you are dating, always hunt and keep your prospects open, back off everytime the chick makes it hard for you, (lucky you have other girls now to spend time with). I think if I had back to the day 3-4 girls which I was dating I did not care if that girl did not want to fuk this night. I would just play it cool, and pull back.

 

[tightsocks]

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Instagram is the new backpage. Girls are tricking off all over the place. "I'll fly you out and buy you a birkin bag as long as I can fvck you the whole time." It's prostitution.

 

[Juanto]

“Red Flags” isn’t something I really look for. Normally if you are looking for something you find it. I’m observing and listening.

Of course I don’t do traditional relationships either.

what type of relationships do you do?

 

[2Rocky]

I remember one I was counselled on ... Hairdressers ...Avoid them like the plague...

High maintenance, and addicted to drama. Listening to women ***** about their love life warps their expectations.

 

[Juanto]

I like a deep exciting connection but we will never be “together”. I think it ruins something nice and rewarding.

So no monogamy?

 

[bario]

Over 30 and never had a boyfriend or in a relationship!

 

[derby1]

remember one I was counselled on ... Hairdressers ...Avoid them like the plague...

yep and usually crazy for coke/booze

 

[sigma335]

Over 30 and either never been married or never had a child

 

[3agle 3yes]

In a nutshell, when women display overly Masculine behaviour, such as:

• Gets into fights (this is a BIG one).
• Too much swearing.
• Doesn't wear enough skirts, dresses, tight clothing (another BIG one).
• Too easy. If she's too easy for me, she's probably like this with some other men (BIG one too).
• Doesn't ask for help, because she thinks it will look “weak”.
• Doesn't want children.

Other behaviours include:

• Hardly takes interest in other people.
• Gossips.
• Isn’t reasonably friendly with strangers.
• Woke.
• Talks too much (generally means she's confrontational and is attracted drama).

Oh, and one more. If she gets too happy when she’s happy (for example she buys lots of people gifts because something good happened), the opposite is CERTAIN and even more emotionally. This one gets many people.

 

[2Rocky]

Question for the folks who responded ...Do Red flags simply rule out RELATIONSHIPS, or will you play with fire and attempt an ONS if you see certain Red Flags, or is a certain red flag a STOP -BLOCK-RUN sign...

 

[dude99]

Question for the folks who responded ...Do Red flags simply rule out RELATIONSHIPS, or will you play with fire and attempt an ONS if you see certain Red Flags, or is a certain red flag a STOP -BLOCK-RUN sign...

That is up to the individual whether the just tell them to pound it and walk or whether they stay for a ons or just have as a FWB

Red flags tell you what you need to know about that person and their level of quality.

Red flags tell you this person isn"t worthy of my time, money, attention or resources.
So whether you FWB them or ONS them or next them is up to you. You just do not commit to them.