What are the biggest red flags for you?

[derby1]

This is a great example of the perplexities that engulf men when they expect a women to be accountable or gallant.

I mentioned it a while back, my uncle is a counsellor he runs it as a charity, women use the counselling service and DO NOT donate as a group. they have no code of honour when it comes to men and the service men give.

However if you help there child they donate as if you are a king.

if men are thinking that after putting a womans shed up, in return she will drop 4 beers around his later, like a man honourably would. Men are wrong.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I said in general. It is an "if" you did thing.
If thats your boundry then go with it.
Any other red flags from this chic?
Well to be honest you are complaining about it to a forum so...i dunno bro maybe your just not that into her

I’m not complaining. If there’s one thing I hate about this forum is if you bring up anything you’re labeled as the most beta traits imaginable.

I’ve seen more whining on this forum about stupid **** then I’ve ever done so don’t even give me that.

I brought up what happened and what I plan to do about it. I brought it here for guys to weigh in. Nowhere am I complaining about it.

As for other red flags, she’s obviously trying to manipulate me into a relationship but that’s normal imo and something I can handle as nexting is the easiest option for me.

As for “maybe you’re not that into her” I’m not looking for a wife, Disney man. Being into her has nothing to do with anything. I enjoy the sex

 

[SargeMaximus]

Huh??lol
Relax dude your snapping out. Now i can see why your struggling over a usb stick. The weak dudes always resort to the name calling but ill take it as a compliment tough guy.

Whatever dude. I see you’re one of those guys who is tough on a forum but a virgin in his real life. Ignored

 

[darksprezzatura]

All women would have some red flags.

[Do not pass go, Do not collect $200, Run]

- Absent Father / Daddy issues
- Abusive Mother/ Mommy issues
- Severe mental health issues/ Medication/Therapy
- Drug abuser/Alcoholic

[Critical]

- Tattoos
- Piercings other than ear lobes
- Lots of guy friends/No girlfriend group
- Low interest/Enthusiasm/ Compliance
- Flakes twice without rescheduling


[Medium]

- No hobbies
- Spoiled
- Bad with finances/Manipulative
- Unemployed
- Recent break-up/Looking for rebound.
- Tries to control/dominate plans

Any of these red flags - Disqualify as potential LTR.

 

[powersize]

All women would have some red flags.

[Do not pass go, Do not collect $200, Run]

- Absent Father / Daddy issues
- Abusive Mother/ Mommy issues
- Severe mental health issues/ Medication/Therapy
- Drug abuser/Alcoholic

[Critical]

- Tattoos
- Piercings other than ear lobes
- Lots of guy friends/No girlfriend group
- Low interest/Enthusiasm/ Compliance
- Flakes twice without rescheduling


[Medium]

- No hobbies
- Spoiled
- Bad with finances/Manipulative
- Unemployed
- Recent break-up/Looking for rebound.
- Tries to control/dominate plans

Any of these red flags - Disqualify as potential LTR.

This is what I was looking for. Thanks mate

 

[derby1]

why didnt you lead the convo and advise her to buy you another usb stick?

"id appreciate when your out, if you got me another USB 16gb one, for the one you broke last night"

her response will tell you everything you need to know

 

[SargeMaximus]

why didnt you lead the convo and advise her to buy you another usb stick?

"id appreciate when your out, if you got me another USB 16gb one, for the one you broke last night"

her response will tell you everything you need to know

Her response already did. I’m not into making people be something they aren’t

 

[Kotaix]

All women would have some red flags.

[Do not pass go, Do not collect $200, Run]

- Absent Father / Daddy issues
- Abusive Mother/ Mommy issues
- Severe mental health issues/ Medication/Therapy
- Drug abuser/Alcoholic

[Critical]

- Tattoos
- Piercings other than ear lobes
- Lots of guy friends/No girlfriend group
- Low interest/Enthusiasm/ Compliance
- Flakes twice without rescheduling


[Medium]

- No hobbies
- Spoiled
- Bad with finances/Manipulative
- Unemployed
- Recent break-up/Looking for rebound.
- Tries to control/dominate plans

Any of these red flags - Disqualify as potential LTR.

Agree with all of these, but I would add single mothers to this list, probably in the critical area

 

[derby1]

Her response already did. I’m not into making people be something they aren’t

what you have to realise is, women havent got honour pre-programmed into them like men. they are rescued from every life decision they make by men, and think men are clowns. Most women dare there chap to leave everyday knowing hes that cucked he wont go nowhere.

you have to be the guy that says "Hey, you hold on a minute, I want word with you"

 

[SargeMaximus]

what you have to realise is, women havent got honour pre-programmed into them like men. they are rescued from every life decision they make by men, and think men are clowns. Most women dare there chap to leave everyday knowing hes that cucked he wont go nowhere.

you have to be the guy that says "Hey, you hold on a minute, I want word with you"

I disagree, if she’s daring me to leave I can leave easily and find another girl

 

[oldmanofthesea]

• Saying she loves you inside of 2 months
• Extreme appearance styles such as crazy or strange hair, tons of tattoos, strange clothing
• Tons of guy friends, even if they are 5 leagues below her
• Complains about things a lot (anything - the world, people etc)
• Glass is half-empty outlook/attitude
• Sh*t tests
• Easily angered/offended
• Lack of hobbies or interests
• Jealousy/insecurity
• Entitlement

 

[2Rocky]

Drug use or alcohol abuse.
Uses the word "fur-babies"
Smokes
fake eyelashes
"smoky eye" or Cleopatra eyeliner
has Adams apple

 

[Juanto]

has Adams apple

I think you would have a different problem there....

 

[derby1]

I disagree, if she’s daring me to leave I can leave easily and find another girl

I'm not on about you, what you have to realise is men have devalued themselves to the point of desperate clowns. shes probably never come acros a guy who holds her accountable or tells her to replace something shes broke.

you have to mould her or get rid of her, either scenario suits you

 

[SargeMaximus]

I'm not on about you, what you have to realise is men have devalued themselves to the point of desperate clowns. shes probably never come acros a guy who holds her accountable or tells her to replace something shes broke.

you have to mould her or get rid of her, either scenario suits you

I have abundance mentality and despise drama. Nexting is the only option. She’ll be coming back and then I will either make sure I don’t bring my sh*t around her, or just stay away. Either suits me.

I think the best policy is to stay centred and accountable within your areas of what you can control. Women cannot be controlled and I refuse to try because they play the manipulation game too well and can make you control her how SHE wants to be controlled, which makes you just as much her b*tch as anything imo

 

[AttackFormation]

I'm not on about you, what you have to realise is men have devalued themselves to the point of desperate clowns. shes probably never come acros a guy who holds her accountable or tells her to replace something shes broke.

you have to mould her or get rid of her, either scenario suits you

The only way the culture can change and become healthier for everyone involved, is if men as a collective start holding other men accountable for having no healthy sense of dignity. We cant blame women for the way white knights, simps and soyboys treat themselves, allow themselves to be treated, treat women, and how all that affects women. WE have to change.

 

[derby1]

We cant blame women for the way white knights, simps and soyboys treat themselves, allow themselves to be treated, and treat women. WE have to change.

I agree its totally mens fault, theres no pimp that blames women for mutiny on his ship

 

[BMX]

pvssy tats

 

[Imarriedawinner71]

My biggest red flags while I was looking for a wife.1. Not wanting marriage 2. Feminist view points 3. Non - Christian.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Agree with first point. If you disclose anything some posters just scan it as a way to diss you.

I find just being honest is disarming. I am not perfect, I make tons of mistakes, I am not a “10” and I’ve never said I was an alpha. Most men are betas, so guaranteed most posters, they might not be betas in terms of being simps but a forum to help men with women generally will be 90% plus non alpha. Posters who come here to pick fights and belittle other men and their problems and desire to learn and build knowledge behind a keyboard are ironically the most bitter betas as it gets.

imagine being a stud, leading other men, and in your spare time you hop on to a “learn about women” forum to vent anger on other dudes. Erm…but, LOL

Agreed. It’s mostly projection and in his case I assume the guy is jealous I have a fwb. But that’s what the ignore button is for. I don’t use it often, only when people are being malicious and spiteful. Differing opinions are welcome, belittling insults aren’t