What are some subtle IOI's a girl who doesn't know you sends out?

[Masculinity]

I have a good idea of IOI's, but I get the feeling I missed some of them. These come with experience and some of you in here have a much longer experience with women than me. So I must ask: What are some obvious and not so obvious signs that she's interested (even though you haven't approached her)? Please be detailed.

 

[FrizePolo]

where can I find a list of IOI's? Anyone knows?

 

[ultimate2526]

here's what i found

*She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age (make her guess)
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She's disagreeing but laughing
*She's punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like somthing, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
*On her way out, she reapproaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, intereact with you, or have isolation with you

Passive IOIs

*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn't flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistence to avoid feeling like a slut)


The most important IOIs to look for are:

*She reinitiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you

 

[ultimate2526]

Might look like a long list to memorize but it's just basic stuff.

However, you might have that list memorized but if you don't approach when you get the IOIs it will be all worthless. Taking action when girls give you signals is everything.

 

[ultimate2526]

Another one that's not on the list would be she checking you out. She looking you up and down.

 

[Jaylan]

best IOI: she grabs your junk :yes: lol

 

[ultimate2526]

best IOI: she grabs your junk :yes: lol

That's not an IOI, that's an IOS (indicator of sex) as in she wants it tonight!

 

[bigneil]

(What ultimate2526 said).

The single biggest keys IMO:

1) She holds eye contact.
2) She smiles.
3) She extends her hand when you ask her name.
4) She asks your name.
5) She asks what you are doing later.

 

[BettorOffSingle]

I have a good idea of IOI's, but I get the feeling I missed some of them. These come with experience and some of you in here have a much longer experience with women than me. So I must ask: What are some obvious and not so obvious signs that she's interested (even though you haven't approached her)? Please be detailed.

This is sad, becuase I learned this stuff by getting OLD, and becoming the "old creepy guy" women would avoid if I still approached them.

To begin with, imagine how a hot chick would react to me -- fat, 44, not a great appearance, nothing on which to stand out -- approaching them. What would they do?

1. They would NOT establish proximity, to avoid my approach
2. They would NOT respond at all to an approach, and would leave
3. They would be barely polite and find an excuse to end the conversation
4. They would NOT engage me in any conversation more than they had to

Why?

5. Because they have ALREADY RULED ME OUT FOR SEX.

Now let's flip this. If she's intoo you:

1-2. She will establish and maintain proximity.
3. She will not be heading for the exit or to break proximity
4. She will inject topics into the conversation that would have led me on.

Also consider this:

5. If she avoids and disengages from me becuase she's ruled out sex with me, obviously, if she's in proximity, talking to you, and not heading for the exits at the earliest possible excuse, she has NOT ruled you out for sex yet!

It's scary to think but just about ANY chick you can keep talking to for more than 10-15 minutes is probably one who has given you SOME chance of seducing her, if you can read her mind or guess what it is that unlocks her sexually, i.e., causes her to detonate. By LJBFing her from the get-go, you give yourself time to figure out what this is.

Don't learn the hard way like I did just how much opportunity you really have in your prime. It's more than you could ever dream possible.