DonGorgon
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no erotic sexual contact at all.. she talks about other dudes she has or plans to F..
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What are some friendzone signs
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Idk my friends kept telling me to ask her out and ****, but she's a busy girl. I thought she liked me because she kept giving me signs, so lol idk. I asked if she was busy one weekend but it was the holidays and I asked her if she was busy again and she said she had to hang out with her friend. I know she wasn't lying though. I should have asked better I guess lol. Since school was out I was debating on whether to ask her again since she can't be that busy during the summer. There's a lot of history, but I don't feel like explaining it.
Well in that case since she is out of school, summer is a perfect time to ask her out. If she likes you, she will give you face time. Once you are one on one with her, you are going to have to make a move to she whether she likes you in a romantic or platonic way.
Rejection is better than REGRET so go for it bro!
Rejection is better than REGRET so go for it bro!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well I was thinking of waiting 1 or two more weeks before I texted her. I haven't texted her since last Friday btw. I was just going to open with a hey and than say we should definitely do something this summer. If I get a yes I'll just tell her I'll just text her whenever to express my dominance.
This is a HUGE one I ignored from my "girlfriend".Mike32ct said:She keeps her back to you the ENTIRE time she's grinding you in the club. (She's essentially avoiding a makeout and scanning the room for taller and hotter sausage).
Read the 2 strikes rule in my signature. Stop complicating yourself.JPlaya said:Idk my friends kept telling me to ask her out and ****, but she's a busy girl. I thought she liked me because she kept giving me signs, so lol idk. I asked if she was busy one weekend but it was the holidays and I asked her if she was busy again and she said she had to hang out with her friend. I know she wasn't lying though. I should have asked better I guess lol. Since school was out I was debating on whether to ask her again since she can't be that busy during the summer. There's a lot of history, but I don't feel like explaining it.
the main thing to understand about "friendzone" is - it isn't the girl that puts you there, you put yourself there with your own behavior, she merely confirms it
Look at your ACTUAL friends (male or female). how are they with you and how are you with them - hanging out, fun, easy, do stupid stuff, its relaxed, you don't worry about how you act, right?
Now look at the girl you are in the so called "friendzone" with - is it like the above? NO. you want to show you are caring, that you will listen, that you are a "good guy" - all the things real actual regular friends don't do. You don't act naturally, you are trying too hard to seem "worthy", and...you aren't fun or relaxed or a laugh. this makes it obvious that you have put the girl on a pedastal (friends don't put each other on pedastals)
the girl sees all this and says LJBF but she doesn't really mean this in particular, because you're not acting like regular friends at all - she just means "i can tell you are kind of being a bit intense about me when you don't even know me, and you are kind of being a bit heavy about it. you really aren't that much fun" - because you aren't fun!
dudes them try and get out of this "friendzone" but they're not even friends in the first place, not natural regular friends, it isn't possible when one pedastals the other
healthy relationships AND healthy friendships rely on people seeing each other as equals, not having ulterior motives, being easy and fun to be with (no weird unspoken pressure to be something else). Thats when you are actual friends, and not this "friendzone" things
Loads of people sleep with their friends - friends are fun and easy people to be around, it happens more than you might think. some girls ive been friends with for ages and never thought about in that way, it can easily happen
this isn't "friendzone" - friendzone isn't you being friends with a girl - its when you are overly attentive and make a girl feel uncomfortable - actual friends would never do that
Look at your ACTUAL friends (male or female). how are they with you and how are you with them - hanging out, fun, easy, do stupid stuff, its relaxed, you don't worry about how you act, right?
Now look at the girl you are in the so called "friendzone" with - is it like the above? NO. you want to show you are caring, that you will listen, that you are a "good guy" - all the things real actual regular friends don't do. You don't act naturally, you are trying too hard to seem "worthy", and...you aren't fun or relaxed or a laugh. this makes it obvious that you have put the girl on a pedastal (friends don't put each other on pedastals)
the girl sees all this and says LJBF but she doesn't really mean this in particular, because you're not acting like regular friends at all - she just means "i can tell you are kind of being a bit intense about me when you don't even know me, and you are kind of being a bit heavy about it. you really aren't that much fun" - because you aren't fun!
dudes them try and get out of this "friendzone" but they're not even friends in the first place, not natural regular friends, it isn't possible when one pedastals the other
healthy relationships AND healthy friendships rely on people seeing each other as equals, not having ulterior motives, being easy and fun to be with (no weird unspoken pressure to be something else). Thats when you are actual friends, and not this "friendzone" things
Loads of people sleep with their friends - friends are fun and easy people to be around, it happens more than you might think. some girls ive been friends with for ages and never thought about in that way, it can easily happen
this isn't "friendzone" - friendzone isn't you being friends with a girl - its when you are overly attentive and make a girl feel uncomfortable - actual friends would never do that
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
FortunateSon
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I have a very close female friend and she has no problem touching me, having banter with me, arguing with me, flirting with me and she texts me pretty much everyday and she'll ring me too. Hell she fancies me rotten but will not get with me because I am heading off to the Army soon.
My point is the whole friend-zone concept is all in your mind. It is very possible to get with a woman who is your friend at some point in your life. It doesn't always happen, but it can so never rule out anything.
My point is the whole friend-zone concept is all in your mind. It is very possible to get with a woman who is your friend at some point in your life. It doesn't always happen, but it can so never rule out anything.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
You guys are overthinking all that friendzone crap and how one should care or not care too much. Friends actually do care and do listen to each other- that's why they are friends, the feeling of easiness and fun comes from having no particular interest in sex or any other commodity. All this friendzone thing is about her not wanting anything from you ( maybe attention in some cases)- no sexual desire at all, nor boost in social status, nor money. You on the other hand, want something more, the ulterior motive is there and she can sense it. Easy as pie. If the sexual component is missing- you are only good to be her associate. Thus friendzone is not a legit thing, it's a conflict of interests.
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