What are good responses for this sh!t test

[boynamedsue]

lets say you see a girl, that flaked out on a date one time, at a club. she comes up and starts talking to you and you play it cool and kind of give the cold shoulder

or

say your trying to hook up with a girl when your alone with her and she declines your sexual advances and wants to just talk..so you give short answers almost like a "freeze out." she asks why are you being short?

i understand these are both **** tests to see if you will give in to their frame, but what responses would you give for each situation?

 

[OamImrsNemo]

lets say you see a girl, that flaked out on a date one time, at a club. she comes up and starts talking to you and you play it cool and kind of give the cold shoulder

or

say your trying to hook up with a girl when your alone with her and she declines your sexual advances and wants to just talk..so you give short answers almost like a "freeze out." she asks why are you being short?

i understand these are both **** tests to see if you will give in to their frame, but what responses would you give for each situation?

First one...I would pretend it never happened and seem very disinterested in her. If she brought it up I would interrupt her and say oh oh my I am so sorry I had some stuff (filler here) and so I could not make it. If she does not bring it up continue to be disinterested in her and finally interrupt her and be like sorry there is a hotty with a body down there I wanna dance with..

Second one...Again disinterest your horny you wanna fvck you can talk later....don't waste your time..

 

[J. Darko]

What makes you so sure these tests even exist? What what you do if you were a confident guy having lots of fun? And why are you not confident of what to say to begin with?

You might want to answer those questions for yourself.

 

[xdreamz]

these are not **** tests my friend... she is not playing dumb with you she is being genuine. the first situation looks like an epic fail on your part...even though you didn't create enough attraction to get a date, you saw it as a threat to your ego...many people can identify with you, so can I. Just remember that it is just a game, and all is fair, try not to let it get under your skin like that.

the second situation is more of the same. we cannot be resentful for these kind of "rejections" we just have to learn from them.

 

[boynamedsue]

in both situations they are playing dumb. if a girl flakes on you when your suppose to go out with her, its only natural to be dissapointed, despite if you have back up plans. if you didnt care about going out with her then why set up the date in the first place?

she will recognize you are being different in her presence so my question still remains how do you respond to these tests? she is trying to get you into her frame and the afc would respond, " well you flaked on me so im pissed," or in the other situation "why would you come back to my place and not want to hook up."

the only frame control i can think of is saying "im not bothered its all in your head" but thats not a great response.