What are DJ's ultimately looking for? Answer here!

[Masculinity]

We log in to our computers and try to make sense of women. We got through all different kinds of stuff, some funny, some sad, some upsetting, but overall we get the idea and continue to row the boat.

When you bang girls or spin plates, do you ever just think about what you want in the long run? Or do you just bang girl after girl without thinking a single thing?

 

[vatoloco]

Back when I was an AFC in my twenties, I had a silly idea of what I wanted: a cute girl who would love me unconditionally.

Now that I'm a Man in my thirties, I realized that what I want is to lead a good, fulfilling life. Do my own thing. Have fun with my friends and family. Have a blast riding and working on my bikes. Keep learning a new thing everyday.

When a good woman shows up, she will come into my world. We will then travel along in this wonderful voyage called Life.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Finally, a poll with some all-around good choices that actually apply to most situations. Well done, Robyn.

I had been out of the dating scene for a long time and only got back in when I reached my 50s. Wow, what a shock it was to find that the climate had changed so drastically. The declination of character of women in America is profound and virtually universal, thanks to the deadly combination of mass media and their being naturally wired to recieve all of their values from outside of themselves.

So now I'm looking for a woman to settle down with who has old-school values and a tight body. I'm hunting for a true rarity, but they do exist. My recent girlfriend turned out to be BPD (as an aside, I always truly feel so sorry for them), but she had most of my other requirements.

I like vatoloco's answer. He pretty much nailed how I look at it. Life first, women second. When you get your life handled, women start to take their rightful place as an adjunct to your life and not the end-all and be-all.

It seems to me that living to get laid is its own form of slavery.

I'll be interested to see how this poll turns out.

 

[loveshogun]

Interestingly enough, I'm looking for none of the above. Here's what I'm actually working for:

1) Competence in Ballet and Modern dance
2) Regional championship in competitive Latin dance
3) Published and respected novelist and short story writer
4) Working knowledge of Spanish, Russian, Portuguese, German in addition to languages I already know
5) The security of knowing that after having accomplished what I want to accomplish that I could roll over and die happy under any circumstances thereafter

For me, women are the rest stops on the highway of life.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Lol i picked the last option.

 

[Masculinity]

Thanks Atom Smasher!

I'm actually not surprised by the results, although I estimated the third option to be the top answer. This poll pretty much answers my questions about what DJ's on this site are after. Most of us want to have fun, but we want a nice, responsible, emotionally and psychologically healthy woman who "takes care" of us.

I'm satisfied with the responses. Now I now many of you pretend to be bad boys to get women, but you're looking for an ultimate goal.

Cheers to our success!

-Robyn

 

[Warrior74]

Where is the "just enjoying life and having fun" option? Because to be honest, women come and go. There are guys in retirement homes getting laid right now as you read this. So...you know...its all good bro.

also that last option is one based in fear. A terrible mindstate. Lumping everyone into one catagory and determining their motives before even meeting the person. Its much better to just say..what will be will be and lets enjoy today, right now.

 

[neghitzbrah]

When you really think about it... most of us are here to make a change. At one point we may have been a total AFC, walked all over by women.

I was in a 5.5 year relationship. Went downhill to a point where I got 0 respect. I'm here to make a change to myself to make my life worth living. Just been 2 months and already I'm getting the respect, attention, and feeling good about myself. People see changes already.

That's the reason why I wanna become a DJ.. women are no object. I respect them as human beings, and like to understand them. But like everyone on this forum, the main change is make ourselves in charge of our own life.

 

[f283000]

Maybe I have too much energy or too much secks drive but everytime I walk outside I see a new woman I want to make love to. I just want to get good enough to seduce any woman (or most women) I want that I see out in this world. You know get really good at approaching random women like PUA's.

Of course that probably won't happen not enough time but if I could get 1 new woman a week i'll be happy.

 

[Progress]

Be able to love myself and others around me, the rest just comes once you truly get a handle on that!