What approach should I take. Newbie and a wimp :)

[Jay25]

I'm ready to stop my wimpy ways and need advice with something.

I met a girl online who i really dig and I am very attracted to, We have been talking for about 2 weeks or so, now I have made the mistake of being too needy, She has kinda drawn away a bit and hasn't called me back or has fallen asleep. I have only seen her twice but we talk daily and i'm trying to get headed back in the right direction. for the last 2 days or so i have been getting less frequent responses from her and I want her to be more attracted to me than i am to her. I want to take her somewhere really cool within the nextfew weeks but i dont wanna be needy or anything like that, what is my best approach, i'm sick of being the wimp in the relationship and im not going to be anymore.

 

[Htienvu]

First of all you need to stop talking/texting to her daily, you think this is great but it will turn her off quickly. You're communicating your neediness to her. She's already less responsive to you, step back and stop being needy.

Contact her less frequently and when you do try keep it light and fun, most important of all try make those communications count. Meaning make sure you ask her out at the end of it.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

I'm ready to stop my wimpy ways and need advice with something.

I met a girl online who i really dig and I am very attracted to, We have been talking for about 2 weeks or so, now I have made the mistake of being too needy, She has kinda drawn away a bit and hasn't called me back or has fallen asleep. I have only seen her twice but we talk daily and i'm trying to get headed back in the right direction. for the last 2 days or so i have been getting less frequent responses from her and I want her to be more attracted to me than i am to her. I want to take her somewhere really cool within the nextfew weeks but i dont wanna be needy or anything like that, what is my best approach, i'm sick of being the wimp in the relationship and im not going to be anymore.

If you've been communicating daily with a woman you met online just 2 weeks ago, then you need help beyond this particular situation.

What I mean is this - you need to rebuild yourself from the foundation.

Think about it - you're getting all worked up over a girl online. Not a girlfriend. Not even a sexual partner. Some girl online who you've known for 2 weeks.

Why are you talking to her daily? Why have you allowed yourself to feel more attracted to her than she is to you (again, a woman you haven't even slept with) ??

You want to take her somewhere really cool? Why? What has she done to deserve this? Any of it. The daily phone calls. The constant attention. What has she contributed to your life?

I'm not trying to sound like a jerk, but I hate reading about situations like this. I hate seeing a guy who thinks that daily phone calls is a way of building attraction with a woman. I hate when a guy is getting mixed signals from a woman, and he thinks the solution is to "take her somewhere really cool".

You're ready to stop your wimpy ways? Well, I ask you this....Are you ready to walk away from this woman? Because that's the point when you stop being a wimp. When you realize that girls are replaceable, and you can walk away from them at any moment if they displease you.

Are you ready to sacrifice this one girl if it means that you'll build yourself into a man who can get many women, and who can lose the women who show lukewarm interest? If you're not ready to drop this girl, then you're not ready to stop being a needy wimp.

 

[Jay25]

That was inspiring and you are 100% right. If need be I'm willing to drop her. Your right i sound like an utter puss.

i just had to post this follow up because this is the most hilarious thing ive ever hear.. so she texted me this morning my phone fell in the shower i had to get a new one... am i crazy to think wow that is the biggest line of bs in the world.... so i called her on it and she got all defensive and trying to reassure me i said have a nice day at work and she hasnt answered since lol...