OK here's my story. I am 17 years old, in my second year at college and planning to go to University next year. I'm really down on life at the moment for many reasons, but the primary reason is that I have never had a girlfriend, and just seem to have problems with girls in general. Before I start my story, I want to make it clear that it will be quite whiny in places. Yeah, yeah, nobody likes to hear someone go on and on about their 'woes', but I need to whine to get everything out in the open in my first post, after which I will resolve to improve.
The main problem I have is girls who seem to hate me for aboslutely no reason. Girls at college who I have never spoken to I will see giving me the evils from across the classroom, or giving me that kind of evaluating look, but with contracted pupils which goes to show that their evaluation is negative. Furthermore, I will be walking around a town shopping, going about my daily business etc and I see lots of girls/slightly older women staring at me. Some people would say this is a good thing, however it's the way they stare at me that lets me know that they aren't liking what they see - they always have that deer in headlights look combined with contracted pupils which makes it seem as though they are totally freaked out. Now I know I'm not the greatest guy in the world, I am under no illusions about my looks, but I don't think I look awful either, certainly not so bad that I warrant all these negative glances.
Speaking of which, I often find that in some mirrors I think I look quite good, when in others I look like total crap. Why is this, and is there any way of knowing what kind of mirror is most accurate? (e.g. smaller mirrors, bigger mirrors, square mirrors, rectangular etc).
In relation to all the above, I would like to say that I have a good personality, I am always a good laugh when out with my friends, am positive (I hide my negative mindsets in front of others), have the correct body language showing confidence and assertiveness, I dress well, yet I still seem to be disliked by girls straight away. Until recently I was quite shy around girls and never really expressed myself, but this has changed for the better now. However, being shy around girls shouldn't in any way make any difference to girls who have never even spoken to or know me, let alone random people in the street.
Basically I would like to know why things might be the way that they are. Am I just destined to be hated by girls for reasons that I cannot fathom? Please help, it would be greatly appreciated.
Btw, please don't just say 'read the DJ bible' as that isn't exactly appropriate for my question. I am already confident, well dressed etc but am taken against for whatever reason.
P.S - Hope this is in the right section as although I am under 18 I'm not in high school anymore. Thanks.
The main problem I have is girls who seem to hate me for aboslutely no reason. Girls at college who I have never spoken to I will see giving me the evils from across the classroom, or giving me that kind of evaluating look, but with contracted pupils which goes to show that their evaluation is negative. Furthermore, I will be walking around a town shopping, going about my daily business etc and I see lots of girls/slightly older women staring at me. Some people would say this is a good thing, however it's the way they stare at me that lets me know that they aren't liking what they see - they always have that deer in headlights look combined with contracted pupils which makes it seem as though they are totally freaked out. Now I know I'm not the greatest guy in the world, I am under no illusions about my looks, but I don't think I look awful either, certainly not so bad that I warrant all these negative glances.
Speaking of which, I often find that in some mirrors I think I look quite good, when in others I look like total crap. Why is this, and is there any way of knowing what kind of mirror is most accurate? (e.g. smaller mirrors, bigger mirrors, square mirrors, rectangular etc).
In relation to all the above, I would like to say that I have a good personality, I am always a good laugh when out with my friends, am positive (I hide my negative mindsets in front of others), have the correct body language showing confidence and assertiveness, I dress well, yet I still seem to be disliked by girls straight away. Until recently I was quite shy around girls and never really expressed myself, but this has changed for the better now. However, being shy around girls shouldn't in any way make any difference to girls who have never even spoken to or know me, let alone random people in the street.
Basically I would like to know why things might be the way that they are. Am I just destined to be hated by girls for reasons that I cannot fathom? Please help, it would be greatly appreciated.
Btw, please don't just say 'read the DJ bible' as that isn't exactly appropriate for my question. I am already confident, well dressed etc but am taken against for whatever reason.
P.S - Hope this is in the right section as although I am under 18 I'm not in high school anymore. Thanks.
