What am I doing wrong?

[Landon7]

Alright, this is going to be a bit long... Bare with me boys.

Let's start off about me. I'm a 17 year old junior is a large public high school. I'm pretty above average in looks except for the fact that I'm pale and have acne scars scattered around my cheeks. I'm fit, I play rugby, box, and I'm a starting WR for football and play guitar. I'm ****y and have a high self-esteem. I started reading all the PUA stuff about 6 months ago and it really did change me. So far I've gotten any girl.. seriously! I attended a party a few weeks ago in which I hooked up with 4 girls and danced and talked to 31 other girls. To one kid, I was described as "swimming in P**sy". I do get flirted on (awkwardly, sometimes by female teachers). I've never gone past getting head, so I guess you could call me a virgin.

So it seems great right? No.. There's a problem. I fall in love with a single girl sometimes.. and I can NEVER get her. She could be a 8 and I can easily talk to another girl who's a 10.. but not her, not the 8. For some reason I never can get the girl I WANT.

I'm getting sick of it.. Right now there's this girl I'm falling for. She's in my cooking class and she approached me first through a friend. She's already joked with me and she'll give me some looks every now and then. I've already made her laugh once in which SHE HAD TO LOOK AWAY from me because she was laughing so hard. So sounds like I already got her in the bag right? Yeah, maybe before when I gave her no attention. But now, she's all I think about. I really, really need help in getting a foul proof plan in getting this girl and overcoming my oneities. I know she's into me.. But I'm afraid I'll destroy it somehow. So, what are some good tips?

Thanks bros

 

[Krueg]

Don't try too hard!

 

[LearningSlowly]

Here's some two pronged advice:

Don't plan anything. The future is unpredictable and plans never work. Trust in yourself and take the opportunity when it comes.

Lose the ego. You are successful because of the hard work so far. Stay humble and hungry and be less of a douche.

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

You like this girl so much that you want to date her? You might want to change how you act around everybody else then.

Assuming you're telling the truth about getting all these women at parties, you probably have a reputation then around school of being a douche. If this girl doesn't seem like the slutty type, then she isn't likely to hook up with or date the douche. See your problem?

Starting acting with less of an ego to everybody in general, and stop flirting or hooking up with or dancing with every girl you see. If you really are interested in this girl, you're going to have to show her you don't just want in her pants (which your reputation would lead her to believe).

Just be chill, don't be a douche, and keep it in your pants.

 

[Landon7]

Thanks for the info guys. I've definitely been trying to change my personality and tried to stop being a douche. Hookups are starting to feel like nothing now.. I actually want to feel what it's like to be in love with someone. To have that magical feeling in it.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Keys to a relationship are indepdence and mutual support. There is no woman who can make you happy. But if you make yourself happy and she makes herself happy, your relationship will multiply it.