"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What Age of Girls/Women Do You Attract?

tone_loc

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What's up all, I'm posting here, as I'm in my late twenties, so I'd like to get information from those in my age group.

I'm having a dating dilemma. I tend to be attracted, physically that is, to younger women (18-25). But emotionally and intellectually, I tend to be attracted to women closer to me in age, 25 and over.

I really prefer not to "play the field" or "spin plates" but instead have a steady girlfriend, like I have in the past.

I feel like when I date younger women, I am more sexually fulfilled, but when I date women my age, I feel more emotionally fulfilled. There doesn't seem to be a happy medium.

How do you think I should work my way through this situation? What do you all do?

Also, I'm not really into the club hopping scene, for a variety of reasons.

Peace,

Tone
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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guru1000

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You should attract 18-25 with no problem into your late 30's.
 

trajhenkhet02

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I usually attract younger. Recently I've been attracting ladies around my age. Not saying it's on purpose but rather how things have just balanced out.
 

Jitterbug

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I'm 25 turning 26, mostly attract 18~25, with a few late 30s and a few creepy 40~50 thrown in for good measure. I've never dated 25~35 though. They tend to go for 30-something guys.

I don't think I've ever been "intellectually attracted" to a woman. What the hell does that mean?
 

Casually

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I'm 25 now, and I think I've hit the sweet spot where I'm attracting women that are both younger and older than me.

Younger women can sometimes be a little immature, but I've also met plenty of young girls that have surprised me with their level of maturity. Definitely a lot more mature than I was at their age. At the same time, I've also met plenty of 25 year olds that are not only interesting people, but very physically attractive as well. So these women are out there.

If you're looking for emotional maturity, you're probably wise avoiding the club scene. Try joining a club, or taking cooking classes, or dance classes, or some activity that interests you. If you're good with cold approaches, try bookstores and coffee shops and the like.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gangster Of Love

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guru1000 said:
You should attract 18-25 with no problem into your late 30's.
You got that right!:up:
 
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