Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm not saying they wouldn't, just that it's a very simple and easy response to give where as you the response you gave was detailed and un-generic. Appreciate the feedback
No No No!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Excellent ideas, I am out of a ltr post 6 days no contact and what has helped me has been focusing on the negative and taken offense to being mistreated and disrespected. I have many ex's that will always be my friends who I care for, but this girl has crossed the line and for that I will never forget it therefore I am pissed instead of hurt over the nonsense..btw she tried contacting me 3x last night, a fake oops fb message, then asking how i was then a long message because I did not respond to any...F her
Sounds like your typical ASD that activates after a breakup. They don't want to feel ill will as a female or not be judged by others by not being amicable towards you after the breakup. They like the attention post-breakup without reciprocation of getting back together or anything getting physical. I think that's their way to confirm/self-validate that they made the right call to break things off depending how you're handling it post-split. I've had ex's that liked to keep their ex's around as orbiters or self-esteem boosts when re-initiating contact. If she was toxic to you exhausted, then you're doing the right thing by ghosting...
thanks yes she was way toxic. diagnosed bipolar and anxiety a few months ago. just mean and hateful, not even nice anymore..i wasnt ready to move in so she has been mistreating me ever since, months now. I broke it off last week, we agreed not to talk. then those messages last night just looking for a reply, then one tonight confused why i wont respond to her in any way and then immediately another response of anger and hate saying she will never forgive me and now has taken all the love she had for me and it is now hate....all this because i have not responded to her.