I know you're supposed to ignore the girl and get over her, but what if getting some sort of revenge on her aids in getting over her? It's not like I'd keep on bothering her after the revenge. The revenge would help to cope with her rejection and her being such a b*tch to me. What do you guys think?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What about getting revenge on the girl?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Revenge never helps you get over someone; it just helps massage your ego. It will be just as hard to get over her as if you didn't do anything mean to her. Revenge is a d!ck move. Just get over it and move on.
EDIT: Also if you need to attack other people to prop yourself up then you have personal problems that you should be dealing with and working on. Your emotions shouldn't be that dependent upon the actions/feelings of others. That is why it is a d!ck move.
EDIT: Also if you need to attack other people to prop yourself up then you have personal problems that you should be dealing with and working on. Your emotions shouldn't be that dependent upon the actions/feelings of others. That is why it is a d!ck move.
GameTime76
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The best revenge is living well.
I think we should phone the police. If you get that upset and want to get revenge on a girl who wasn't attracted to you and didn't want to go out with you, what would you do if she told you even worse? Rape her? Kill her?Demystify said:I know you're supposed to ignore the girl and get over her, but what if getting some sort of revenge on her aids in getting over her? It's not like I'd keep on bothering her after the revenge. The revenge would help to cope with her rejection and her being such a b*tch to me. What do you guys think?
Instead of improving your life and working on creating a product that will help mankind, you are putting your energy into hurting this girl. Not good.
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How would you feel if some fatass warpig got revenge on you because you weren't interested in her? Not calling you a fatass warpig dude just that people are free to choose who they do and don't want to pursue a sexual/romantic relationship with.
If it is a relationship that she broke off then GameTime's response is the best
If it is a relationship that she broke off then GameTime's response is the best
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
revenge is for fags, douchebags, and women.
If you get revenge on her, she knows she made the right choice by getting away from from you. If you ignore her, and be cordial and nice to her if you run into her, she will ALWAYS wonder if she fvcked up by letting you go. ALL my ex's kicked themselves after letting me go. They all want me back, and I moved on. Thats the best revenge you can do.
Of course, one girl screwed me over around xmas, once, and it felt pretty good when I blew a load in every pair of panties she owned. Thats not really revenge so much, cuz I didnt tell her, and it was harmless. I wanted to deliver in plain package, a copy of our homemade sex tape to the guy she left me for, but I resisted. That would have been lame. keep it as a fantasy, it works better, and you can preserve your dignity.
If you get revenge on her, she knows she made the right choice by getting away from from you. If you ignore her, and be cordial and nice to her if you run into her, she will ALWAYS wonder if she fvcked up by letting you go. ALL my ex's kicked themselves after letting me go. They all want me back, and I moved on. Thats the best revenge you can do.
Of course, one girl screwed me over around xmas, once, and it felt pretty good when I blew a load in every pair of panties she owned. Thats not really revenge so much, cuz I didnt tell her, and it was harmless. I wanted to deliver in plain package, a copy of our homemade sex tape to the guy she left me for, but I resisted. That would have been lame. keep it as a fantasy, it works better, and you can preserve your dignity.
Tell people you found a pic of her without makeup and show them this one:
http://www.grimmemennesker.dk/ugly-people-498.htm
http://www.grimmemennesker.dk/ugly-people-498.htm
This. Dont even bother. You're better than here, prove this by not stooping to such low levels.GameTime76 said:The best revenge is living well.
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No, that's very weak and feeds on itself.Demystify said:I know you're supposed to ignore the girl and get over her, but what if getting some sort of revenge on her aids in getting over her? It's not like I'd keep on bothering her after the revenge. The revenge would help to cope with her rejection and her being such a b*tch to me. What do you guys think?
Internal frame of reference, not external. Without fixing that you'll always be an emotional basketcase.
And, everyone who replied so far had good input and advice.
Well, except for r0cky, he'll just get all his stuff stolen, his cars keyed, and his pets murdered by girls in the future if he keeps that crap up....and that's all that will happen if he's really lucky, otherwise he'll get set up to get in a fight and get arrested as well as other "fun" stuff. And, you will as well Demystify if you keep this sort of attitude.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I'm in the Mood
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Revenge? Revenge is for villains...don't you pay attention when you watch movies?
The hero steals the villain's girls btw.
The hero steals the villain's girls btw.
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Dont do revenge, itll just bite you in the arse.
I have a best mate ( who i now question our friendship ) because he goes PSYCHO basically at trying to get revenge and making their life miserable. Sending hate emails, sms and stirring lies into heads.
It pisses me off and its so immature. Why cant you just let them get on with their lives and yours to. Thank them for the lesson learnt bad/good. and move on.
It's immature, beta, weak, retarded, unnecessary, when you plot revenge. I hate it, and disagree witha nyone who tries to do it.
Get your head straight and stop making others lives miserable cause YOU are miserable.
Oh wow just thinking about it makes my blood boil...
btw not angry at you, just angry at the way people act when they cant handle situations - and resort to emotional unlogical sabotage
I have a best mate ( who i now question our friendship ) because he goes PSYCHO basically at trying to get revenge and making their life miserable. Sending hate emails, sms and stirring lies into heads.
It pisses me off and its so immature. Why cant you just let them get on with their lives and yours to. Thank them for the lesson learnt bad/good. and move on.
It's immature, beta, weak, retarded, unnecessary, when you plot revenge. I hate it, and disagree witha nyone who tries to do it.
Get your head straight and stop making others lives miserable cause YOU are miserable.
Oh wow just thinking about it makes my blood boil...
btw not angry at you, just angry at the way people act when they cant handle situations - and resort to emotional unlogical sabotage
ThatMysteriousGuy
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Very true.I'm in the Mood said:Revenge? Revenge is for villains...don't you pay attention when you watch movies?
The hero steals the villain's girls btw.
But, for some reason when I read that the following popped into my head
http://www.filmsquish.com/guts/files/images/james-bond-goldfinger.jpg
That's ok, DJ Bond got over it.
PS: DJ_Tekinkel also posted some good info and perspective on this major hurdle in personal development you have to overcome Demystify.
This whole thread should be saved to your desktop and then printed out for you to put in your wallet and read a few times a day until you "get it".
Also, I'd like to add, WHEN YOU FOCUS YOUR ENERGY ON NEGATIVE, YOUR MIND SWITCHES TO SEEING REALITY IN A NEGATIVE WAY IN GENERAL.