what a sh&$tty night at a nightclub yesterday

[ddarkjedi]

Man, I was frustrated in trying to hookup with at least one HB yesterday. Didn't get one number. Still trying to improve my game thought. Most of these girls I tried to talk to had there B@$tich shield. Some of them were friendly but gave me the usual excuse " I have a Boyfriend Line." This one particular girl that I saw was a HB 10 Brunnette. She had the most stunning and amazing A$$ I ever seen and goregeus legs of hers. She was defintely the hottest babe at the club on that night. I tried to talk to her and said, Hi, How's it going? She completley ignored me on purpose. I'm like WTF, May be she didn't hear me at first. Saw her again on the dance floor, tried to talk to her again. She ignored me again and tried to avoid me when headed straight towards her. Her Blonde friend HB 7 stop me in trying to talk to her and said "Go away, Leave her alone. I'm like, what a f#4king B@#itch. I even told her to her face and walked away, the blond chick I mean, and didn't feel like talking with anymore girls. Later on the night I told the Brunnette she was being rude and the biggest B$#tch I ever meet. The HB doesn't even know me. Ignores and avoids me. What a racist white B@#tch who doesn;t like a goodlooking Asian Guy. I have been told that some girls think I'm hot or cute. This was the second time I saw this Brunnette for the past month and had the guts to approach. Man,what a F$#cking B&$itch. That was a hell of a night. I probably run into her again. The hottest brunnette ever. End of that story. Anyway, most of my friends don't even go the Bars and nightclubs because they either have a girlfriend or there married. I'm basically left out, with another friend as well. I'm either out with one buddy or going solo to the bars and nighclubs every week. Its really SAD, there so many girls that are b$@tches and stuck up. Can't wait to move out of Michigan to either Southern Calfornia or New York. Probably Calfornia because there are less stuck up B$@tiches out there.
Hopefully i meet even hotter girls out there.

 

[aolsuxs]

There are a number of things I can comment on your post and I am sure other members will get to it but due to my lack of time right now as well as my laziness I will comment on one thing.

There are few things in the world that piss me off more then racism.

However one of those things is when people of color don't get there way (I didn't get a promotion, X girl doesn't like me, etc etc.) and blame it on racism.

From what your post read she was a *****, yes, it could be a number of things, She could have a bad day, you may not interest her, she has a bf etc etc. However to blame simply on the fact your asian and she is white and call it racism is pretty weak. Boo freaking hoo.

BTW. I am asain as well and grew up where it was 95% white, so don't even try to preach to me how much racism you got.

 

[xblitz44x]

"Most of these girls I tried to talk to had there B@$tich shield."

Listen, chicks who are attracted to you, don't have bytch shields. Period. They won't make it difficult to talk to them, and as soon as you initiate conversation...so long as you're making them feel comfortable...they will jump right in and make the conversation happen. There is a good chance she wasn't attracted to your looks the second she laid eyes on you. From that second on you were finished. There wasn't a line you could have a used, a pattern you could have recited, or a beer bottle you could have floated in front of you that would have changed that. But you have to understand, it's not YOU, it's whats going on in HER mind so don't take it personally. All you can do is go in there, and start a conversation. If you do it right, and she responds well, you're in. If she makes it difficult you know to not waste your time and move to another target.

"Later on the night I told the Brunnette she was being rude and the biggest B$#tch I ever meet."

It's not worth it. It won't change a damn thing for you or the next guy. That WAS rude but she's probably too immature to even see that after you've pointed it out. Girls are clubs are so superficial that they won't even feel BAD about being rude if they aren't attracted to your looks. Sick world. Just don't let it bother you and remember that she is the idiot that's passing up a good guy. And remember to demonstrate your true self.

"Can't wait to move out of Michigan to either Southern Calfornia or New York. Probably Calfornia because there are less stuck up B$@tiches out there."

Heh, then you don't know a THING about Cali. Cali is probably THE worst. Good thing is there are so many hot chicks that you can afford to be 'blown off' and still have a bunch of other hot chicks to talk to. It's funny that you diss Michigan but some of the PUA's I know are out of Michigan. If you are really having that much trouble, try some Asian clubs. You may have more like. Just relax and do ya thing boy. Be real and present yourself to as many people as you can...when you've found the one that clicks you'll know. It's just a matter of time (and for you, patience).

-Blitz

 

[marqZAL]

Listen, chicks who are attracted to you, don't have bytch shields.

Amen..thats the bottom line..if a girl is digging you...she let ya know 9 times out of 10.

 

[StuartScott x 2]

You should have stopped trying to talk to her after you got rejected the firt time. She wasn't feeling you for whatever reason, it doesn't matter and you made matters worse by trying to confront her. You just look like a straight up loser. Just move on, there's plenty of girls out there.

For example, if some telemarketer was calling your house trying to convince you to purchase some "free" vacation to the Caribbean for $25 (I thought it was free) and all they needed was your credit card info, after you said no the first time, wouldn't you just get annoyed if they kept on trying to convince you to buy it?

I mean, sure she could have been nice to you and made conversation but she would have just been leading you on. You would have been all happy and stuff and then when you tried to close, she would have rejected you, instead she saved you time and energy by just rejecting you straight up.

 

[Lionheart]

Women do the picking AND the choosing in clubs, they are non verbal environments that are the closest thing nowadays to the mating dance

StuartScott x 2 : "if some telemarketer was calling your house trying to convince you to purchase some "free" vacation to the Caribbean for $25 (I thought it was free) and all they needed was your credit card info, after you said no the first time, wouldn't you just get annoyed if they kept on trying to convince you to buy it?"

I do a job at a market research company to fund my degree, and I like to liken the dating game to market research.

If only 1 out of a 100 people will do a survey, you ask 500 people and get 5 surveys.
If someone is Not Interested - no amount of coaxing will change their mind, it will just annoy them.
If someone is borderline interested, you can talk them into it, and then they will either get bored half way through or will find the survey interesting.
If someone says no, it's their loss, don't take it personally and ask the next person.

This is very simliar to playing the 'numbers game' in dating....and there is no room for sensitivity.

 

[vectorz]

Originally posted by ddarkjedi
Can't wait to move out of Michigan to either Southern Calfornia or New York. Probably Calfornia because there are less stuck up B$@tiches out there.
Hopefully i meet even hotter girls out there.

BWAHAHAHA! You're crazy. California babes are THE MOST STUCKUP ANYWHERE. ESPECIALLY to Asian guys. What you wrote in your post about the way she blew you off... that's actually very mild compared to the way she would've blown you off if she was a typical Californian. They make these grotesque horrified faces as if you were some monster. *MOST* (not all) non-Asian chicks out here in Cali, DON'T dig Asian guys, and they're downright MEAN and rude about it too. So if you think coming here is the answer to your problem, you're in for a HUGE surprise.

 

[vectorz]

Originally posted by xblitz44x

Heh, then you don't know a THING about Cali. Cali is probably THE worst. Good thing is there are so many hot chicks that you can afford to be 'blown off' and still have a bunch of other hot chicks to talk to. It's funny that you diss Michigan but some of the PUA's I know are out of Michigan. If you are really having that much trouble, try some Asian clubs. You may have more like. Just relax and do ya thing boy. Be real and present yourself to as many people as you can...when you've found the one that clicks you'll know. It's just a matter of time (and for you, patience).

-Blitz

This is EXCELLENT advice, Blitz. For once we agree! But whenever *I* say something to this same effect (to advise this guy to hit Asian clubs) , OH MAN, all hell breaks loose and the flaming starts.

 

[vectorz]

Originally posted by aolsuxs

There are few things in the world that piss me off more then racism.

However one of those things is when people of color don't get there way (I didn't get a promotion, X girl doesn't like me, etc etc.) and blame it on racism.

Well I wouldn't take it as far as to call it RACISM cause that would suggest that she is HATING your race.. It's more of racial discrimination. And if you REALLY are ignorant enough to not see that SOME (A LOT) of chicks just don't like Asian guys just because they're Asian, and you REALLY believe that girls don't look at your race as an issue, then you're completely kidding yourself. I know your post was very deep, but let's be realistic. You don't live in a Disney movie, my friend.

 

[marqZAL]

(A LOT) of chicks just don't like Asian guys just because they're Asian, and you REALLY believe that girls don't look at your race as an issue, then you're completely kidding yourself. I know your post was very deep, but let's be realistic.

Im white, but i would never date a asian or black women...very rarely do find them attractive. I dont hate the races..they just dont get me stiff like white girls, hispanic(as long as they arent mullato) or Italian/Jewish girls

 

[TheMachoMan]

Some girls won't like you, some girls will. Try getting EC first and smile, if they smile back - go ask them how they're doing. If they give you the bïtchy "who do you think you are" look - forget about them.

And if you want to try talking to girls that doesn't show any interest, you shouldn't use "how's it going?". Say something funny (question or comment) to show her that you're much more interesting than she first thought.

 

[htemorp]

Don't be so down on yourself. I know a dozen girls up here in Seattle that only dates Asian guys. They're all at least 7-8+! No lies...

 

[htemorp]

ok, I am sitting here all bored and shiet, so I pulled up few links from google.

http://www.jointcenter.org/DB/factsheet/marital.htm

Racism will always exist in this country, might as well add that to the constitution and the national anthem. But you shouldn't let it effect you.

 

[vectorz]

Originally posted by htemorp
Don't be so down on yourself. I know a dozen girls up here in Seattle that only dates Asian guys. They're all at least 7-8+! No lies...

No, I don't disagree with you. There ARE a DOZEN (literally) girls out there that DO like Asian guys.

 

[STR8UP]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
Listen, chicks who are attracted to you, don't have bytch shields. Period. They won't make it difficult to talk to them, and as soon as you initiate conversation...so long as you're making them feel comfortable...they will jump right in and make the conversation happen.

I completely disagree. This gives WAY too much weight to the looks side of the looks vs. personality debate.

Fact of the matter is there are MANY women in a club at any given time that will snub you regardless of whether or not she finds you physically attractive. Of course they are there to stroke the 'ole ego and LOVE IT when anyone hits on them but they have no intentions of giving anyone the time of day.

I went to a club with my ex and her friend. I was with them but hanging back watching what was going on. I watched them swat the guys away like flies without even looking at their faces. One guy didn't take the hint and got the one finger salute. Still didn't take the hint and he got flicked in the ear. How's that for a b!tch shield? It had absolutely zero to do with looks.

And to the original poster-

If you let this get to you you'll NEVER get anywhere in the clubs. And don't automatically assume that if someone doesn't like you it's because of your race. That's ridiculous.

 

[aolsuxs]

Originally posted by vectorz
Well I wouldn't take it as far as to call it RACISM cause that would suggest that she is HATING your race.. It's more of racial discrimination. And if you REALLY are ignorant enough to not see that SOME (A LOT) of chicks just don't like Asian guys just because they're Asian, and you REALLY believe that girls don't look at your race as an issue, then you're completely kidding yourself. I know your post was very deep, but let's be realistic. You don't live in a Disney movie, my friend.

Perhaps your right that racism was much too strong of a word and racial discrimination would be a better choice. I totally agree with you that race is a issue and some chicks just don't like asian guys and no I don't live in a Disney movie as Ive experienced more then my fair share of racism/prejudice. My point at hand was just cuz some girl didn't like him he immediately jumped on saying she was racist. Thats a little absurd in my mind.

As I said in my original post there are a lot of people of color who blame their lack of success in various stuff on race which may or may not be true, but race is used way to much as an excuse.

But hell if he thinks all white girls are against him, so be it.

 

[nan3109]

MAYBE SHE DOESNT LIKE ASIANS BECAUSE THEY ALL GOT SMALL PENISES!!

 

[vectorz]

Originally posted by aolsuxs
As I said in my original post there are a lot of people of color who blame their lack of success in various stuff on race which may or may not be true, but race is used way to much as an excuse.

Well, if you're an Asian male in an all white community (where it is proven that the majority of white women DO NOT prefer Asian men), then I don't think it's an excuse. It's a valid observation. An observation is not an excuse.. it's a means in which to be able to make a better decision of where to redirect your efforts for better success.

 

[vectorz]

Originally posted by nan3109
MAYBE SHE DOESNT LIKE ASIANS BECAUSE THEY ALL GOT SMALL PENISES!!

This is a VERY valid point. I had a ONS w/ a white chick this past weekend, and she expressed very same statement. Of course, does not apply to me

And in the past, at least every OTHER girL i've been with either said it straight out or had a look of shock that I'm normal (sized).