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What “NEXTING” really means IMO

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Let me tell you, I read posts about nexting a chick for reasons that are dumb.

You next a chick cause she didn’t reply? Didn’t meet up? Didn’t want to meet up? Look at yourself... that’s not why YOU NEXT a chick.

This is why you NEXT a chick.
You **** her, hang with her, she does dumb **** you don’t like... you NEXT her.

I sent chicks on the next plane in middle of vacation, on their own dime of course. I NEXTED them, cause I’m TIRED of them.

To be TIRED of them, you must have ****ed them already.

you can’t “next” a chick cause your texts or whatever are going no where. You game sucks.

now here is the positive:

if a chick gave you her number, has responded and been responding even though it has gone no where, understand she gave you a CHANCE, to do whatever... when you have that CHANCE, you must walk into her life as if you rule it. You don’t take texts and calls that go no where. You don’t go out to have things go nowhere.

you only NEXT chicks that you slept with, when you’re tired of them.

you can’t next someone that literally didn’t give you more than few digits and few texts... that’s not nexting.
 

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Disagree.

People next chicks all the time when they show low interest.

It's the right thing to do.

It simply means you cut them out and move on.
 

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understand she gave you a CHANCE
I gave her a chance, Im the more established and accomplished individual not her

ask a beautiful woman what her trade is ?

she will run around like larry out the 3 stooges
 

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Disagree.

People next chicks all the time when they show low interest.

It's the right thing to do.

It simply means you cut them out and move on.
Well fundamentally, the girl NEXTED you first because she showed disinterest first.

You're NEXTING her when you've banged and got tired of her. The girls got the power until they put out. Women know this.

You as the man, just threw in the towel and moved on. You refuse to be a beta simp, you just made yourself useless in her eyes. And she's not gonna come back around unless it's to get you in a beta role.

Most of the time, when you NEXT a girl, the girl already NEXTed you and you're framing it to where you just moved on. You had no f**kin' choice but to move on.

When you aren't in first place, this is what happens. It's the girl giving you everything that keeps you as an orbiter or ego boost or fan.

When you make a move, ask her out in terse terms if she dodges once. Either we do or go x at y time or bugger off. She might get mad because she'll lose a source of attention, but she'll call the 6th guy in her phone quickly.
 

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The game is like tennis. When you hit the ball to her, She has to hit it back. If she lets the ball drop, then she either nexted you or playing games. The proper move is to not pursue until she makes another effort.

Romance is like an element in chemistry. You remove a hydrogen molecule from H20, and it is no longer water. It becomes a different element altogether.

Likewise, If you remove her having to reciprocate out of the equation, it is no longer a romantic relationship, but a one sided supplicating relationship.

What you label the relationship between you and her does not matter. That’s just surface level. You can even be married to a woman and not experience true romance.

What does this have to do with the topic? The guys who are nexting are not really nexting. They are just making the proper move. Call it whatever you want.
 

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You're NEXTING her when you've banged and got tired of her. The girls got the power until they put out. Women know this.
This is assuming you put all the emphasis on the secs. Doesn't always work that way IMO.

You ever been on a first date and the girl does something really stupid? Next.
Good Behavior and personality is a real thing good thing to put high on the desirable qualities to look for.
 

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Well fundamentally, the girl NEXTED you first because she showed disinterest first.

You're NEXTING her when you've banged and got tired of her. The girls got the power until they put out. Women know this.

You as the man, just threw in the towel and moved on. You refuse to be a beta simp, you just made yourself useless in her eyes. And she's not gonna come back around unless it's to get you in a beta role.

Most of the time, when you NEXT a girl, the girl already NEXTed you and you're framing it to where you just moved on. You had no f**kin' choice but to move on.

When you aren't in first place, this is what happens. It's the girl giving you everything that keeps you as an orbiter or ego boost or fan.

When you make a move, ask her out in terse terms if she dodges once. Either we do or go x at y time or bugger off. She might get mad because she'll lose a source of attention, but she'll call the 6th guy in her phone quickly.

Fundamentally, I don't care. If she doesn't want to go out, she doesn't. Her loss.
 

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Well fundamentally, the girl NEXTED you first because she showed disinterest first.

You're NEXTING her when you've banged and got tired of her. The girls got the power until they put out. Women know this.

You as the man, just threw in the towel and moved on. You refuse to be a beta simp, you just made yourself useless in her eyes. And she's not gonna come back around unless it's to get you in a beta role.

Most of the time, when you NEXT a girl, the girl already NEXTed you and you're framing it to where you just moved on. You had no f**kin' choice but to move on.

When you aren't in first place, this is what happens. It's the girl giving you everything that keeps you as an orbiter or ego boost or fan.

When you make a move, ask her out in terse terms if she dodges once. Either we do or go x at y time or bugger off. She might get mad because she'll lose a source of attention, but she'll call the 6th guy in her phone quickly.
In social circles, the man has the power of validation. The game is a lot more balanced. Especially if you are a popular guy within your circles. Women are deathly afraid of losing validation with cool guys in their circles. In the caveman times, this meant possibly being socially ostrasized or even being stoned to death. This is deeply ingrained into their reptilian brains.

I've nexted women just for giving me confusing looks. I wasn't being an a$$hole, it was just a product of abundance. I reasoned to myself "If 5 women gave me a look of admiration, why should I waste my time with women who give me confusing looks? NEXT." Any hint of my disapproval and the confusing looks suddenly become supplicating.

But it wasn't always women supplicating and submitting to my validation. There were women who also battled with me. We eventually put our egos aside and barter. I validate her while she gives me sex and good behavior.

The notion that women have all the power before sex only happens outside of social circles. They don't care about your devalidation because it has no repercussions. And there is no competition anxiety. There aren't other women competing for your validation so there's no chance for her to finish last.

This is why social circle game is the natural way of doing things.

Guys out in the dating field give half of their power away.

Validation is a very powerful negotiating tool. Some women even trade sex for validation.

The downside to social circle gaming is that it will make you extra entitled. You will no longer be able to tolerate any hint of BS from bar/club chicks. And there is ALWAYS a level of BS coming from bar/club chicks. When I left my social circles and went back to the field, I actually spent a lot of time yelling at women for how entitled they were, lol.

In social circles you will know what it's like to be a valdiator and this reality is too intoxicating to let go. The bar/club chick would also know what it's like to be the validator having hundreds of guys approach her. In the end, it's usually a stale mate. Neither the guy nor the woman wins.

When I became popular in social circles, the only game I allowed myself to do was throw women a bait. If they don't catch it. I just move on.

That's pretty much the best game you can run. Throw women a bait and give them an opportunity. If they don't jump on it, take away the opportunity.

This other game - the PUA game of going up to women and trying your best to validate yourself TO them is the absolute worse thing you can do because you are just falling into their frame where they get to validate you and determine your worth.
 
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Yeah your game may be bad, but why continue to text her if she has low interest?

There is very little you can do over text to raise her interest anyways, if it was a date yiu could make it work with good game but then again you wouldn't be in that situation if you had good game.
 

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Disagree.

People next chicks all the time when they show low interest.

It's the right thing to do.

It simply means you cut them out and move on.
It's about time management. Let them waste some other dude's time.
 

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I gave her a chance, Im the more established and accomplished individual not her

ask a beautiful woman what her trade is ?

she will run around like larry out the 3 stooges
I ask her if she discovered herself, and after she finishes telling me which colors, movies, careers she wants to pursue, I ask her if she so knowledgeable who is she if we were talking 5,000 years ago, before these colors, careers, etc, who is she than?

Ask any female, even your sister.
 

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Yeah your game may be bad, but why continue to text her if she has low interest?

There is very little you can do over text to raise her interest anyways, if it was a date yiu could make it work with good game but then again you wouldn't be in that situation if you had good game.
If you’re replying to me.

I said I fly them out in their own time. My texts are for business and women to be told “we will talk later”, and later means when I want to talk to them.
 

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Guys I make a lot of money. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not some billionaire. But I make a lot of money and hang out with people that make a lot of money. They are older, the ones that treat me their vital sign to their corporation, and others that make best under my system than anywhere in our industry.

we always have young hot smart girls to join the team.

it’s always been said, if anyone of them, guy or girl, whatever age can’t work with me theyneed to leave. I’m very used to women being nice, then telling me bad things about their relationships and if “only” etc...

im very disciplined tho. I like to find women that don’t work for me, etc... get to know them etc, just being a normal guy, not “flashy”, dine and wine etc.

Most of these women are crazy. You must next them. They all get old, get fat, or really skinny, they all go through hormones and ****... it’s not easy finding the “one”.

so it’s easy to “next” them
 

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The game is like tennis. When you hit the ball to her, She has to hit it back. If she lets the ball drop, then she either nexted you or playing games. The proper move is to not pursue until she makes another effort.

Romance is like an element in chemistry. You remove a hydrogen molecule from H20, and it is no longer water. It becomes a different element altogether.

Likewise, If you remove her having to reciprocate out of the equation, it is no longer a romantic relationship, but a one sided supplicating relationship.

What you label the relationship between you and her does not matter. That’s just surface level. You can even be married to a woman and not experience true romance.

What does this have to do with the topic? The guys who are nexting are not really nexting. They are just making the proper move. Call it whatever you want.
You remove Hydrogen, you have oxygen left. I am not sure if you remove all hydrogen molecules or just 1.
 

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NEXTING is part of the old PUA system. Who said PUA was dead in the other thread? We are still using terms used in the 00s here. Part of PUA/game is NEXTING, and also the FALSE TIME CONSTRAINT and EJECT. That is you open a chick with some line, give a false time constraint (ie. you are with some friends, or have to go to so and so,) and then leave. Stop for a few seconds, turn around and ask for her email, and then her phone number .... the number close. Then you EJECT.

But other refinements of game would say not to EJECT, but go on an INSTA-DATE and extend the interaction.

Good to see an old PUA thread here circulating around. Thought NEXTing was obsolete.
 
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