Recently, i've been trying to design and refine an all-new type of approach. It involves an extremely validating opener that translates into mid-game with deep rapport building and a lot of 'qualifying from a position of power,' given to you by her desire to live up to your high initial opinion of her. I decided to test is on a 9.5, and not surprisingly, my delivery sucked because i was using all-new material for both the opener and mid-game. She brought the boyfriend up after only a few minutes. "We've been together for one year." But a funny thing happened when she said that. Instead of thinking "damn, now i can't have her," i thought "one year! whew, that coulda been me!" McMaax mentioned to me earlier today that seduction is very addictive. He's right, it's become a hobby, and the thought of spending an entire year with a one girl is a little scary all of a sudden. For an entire year, imagine not being to approach another girl. Imagine not being able to make another dirty sexual joke. Imagine not being able to get a single phone number. Imagine not being able to **** a single other girl. Imagine having a proverbial leash tied around your neck, limiting you from doing what you really want... for an entire year! With these realizations, i am now moving away from seeing girls as potential girlfriends. Instead, i'm starting to see them as sources of fun and excitement, or rather people i can share with the excitement that is already in my life. Hopefully, this insight can provide some guidance to those who still see girls the way i used to. Remember, when it comes to dating, what you seek will always elude you. Guys who really want girlfriends can never find one! Guys who are terrified of having girlfriends have girls chasing them!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"We've been together for one year"
- Thread starter Krassus
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Miles Davis
Senior Don Juan
So true, Krassus.
Running your game on women requires that you have that mindset to seduce. Whether it's intense or light matters not, just that it's there. A guy who is so focused on having a girlfriend cannot effectively seduce, his mind is just not set in the correct place for that to happen.
I enjoy reading your tips.
Running your game on women requires that you have that mindset to seduce. Whether it's intense or light matters not, just that it's there. A guy who is so focused on having a girlfriend cannot effectively seduce, his mind is just not set in the correct place for that to happen.
I enjoy reading your tips.
Trumpetman
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I've seem to notice this too. You get one girl to be your g/f and then you can't do anything with all the other girls. For a whole year, that would just seem to get boring for me idk.
Brandon
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
thecraftylefty
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That is what it is all about. Because when you're out carousing with and meeting new, different, and exciting people constantly, not only do you learn about these cool people, but you learn about yourself. You learn what you would eventually like and expect out of a LTR later on down the road, if that's what you really want (which most of us do, however far down the road it happens to eventually occur). And those kinds of experiences are priceless.
You'll kick yourself in the ass later on when you're 30 or 40 because you decided to stay with your high school sweetheart instead of awakening the person you could have been simply because you were blinded by what you thought you wanted, without knowing and experiencing the variety of fine men and women around the world that life offers.
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