"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wes' Training log.

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WesCottII

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Quagmire, of course I read the thread, I have too much respect to do any other :). I just need to work it into my workouts, and that takes time, 'coz I change slowly :).

In answer to your question, it's the lockout. I can get it up (ooo, the sexual connotations....) past my knees, but then it's a case of "humping" it up the thighs. Suggesting its a back problem? Hmm, starting to annoy me now. :cuss:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't know, you can do GHR's so it would suggest it isn't hammies.

If lockout is the problem and hammies are alright than that would suggest your back is the issue. Solution=rack deads.
 
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Upper body max effort 24th March 2008

Bench - 5RM @ 90kg
T - bar Row - 20/40/60/80/100kg X 8
Incline bench - 25/30/35kgX8 35X6
Weighted situps - me +10kgX10 (x3)
rear delts - 35X12 X3

Right, working back into today, after a couple of heavy days on the lash. I made certain on the bench press to go right down and almost touch the chest, which felt really good, but still tweaking out a couple of form problems.
Inclines were a dissapointment after reaching 37.5 last week, but I put that down to more exertion on the flat bench.

P.s. Does it help anyone else to be pissed off when you lift? I've notcied that when I'm fired up over something, I have more motivation to go out and hammer the weights, and get some Pr's. I've been known to put other people off in the gym, for being really angry.
 
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WesCottII said:
Upper body max effort 24th March 2008

Bench - 5RM @ 90kg
T - bar Row - 20/40/60/80/100kg X 8
Incline bench - 25/30/35kgX8 35X6
Weighted situps - me +10kgX10 (x3)
rear delts - 35X12 X3

Right, working back into today, after a couple of heavy days on the lash. I made certain on the bench press to go right down and almost touch the chest, which felt really good, but still tweaking out a couple of form problems.
Inclines were a dissapointment after reaching 37.5 last week, but I put that down to more exertion on the flat bench.

P.s. Does it help anyone else to be pissed off when you lift? I've notcied that when I'm fired up over something, I have more motivation to go out and hammer the weights, and get some Pr's. I've been known to put other people off in the gym, for being really angry.
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You should be touching the chest, not almost touching. So I assume the 100 k for reps were actually half reps then ... no surprise.

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Come now MM, don't come to conclusions without knowing the full story.

I am sure Wes knows to go down and touch the chest, from what I can see he says he has form issues and I am guessing some form of pain.

When you bench remember the bar should be coming to your upperabs/lower chest. Read this for some tips:

http://www.t-nation.com/findArticle.do?article=body_115b600

Helped me nail my form.

And the incline is just plain mad. What the hell are you doing. I need to be too the point because something is messed up. 35kgx6? You should be doing at least 70kgx5...

I will let you tell more of the story before I say anything else though. Is the bench set at 45 degrees? What are your overhead pressing numbers like? Do you have shoulder pain?

As for getting pissed of and lifting-can't do without it. Crank up the music and attack the mother****ing bar :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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Quagmire911 said:
Come now MM, don't come to conclusions without knowing the full story.

I am sure Wes knows to go down and touch the chest, from what I can see he says he has form issues and I am guessing some form of pain.

When you bench remember the bar should be coming to your upperabs/lower chest. Read this for some tips:

http://www.t-nation.com/findArticle.do?article=body_115b600

Helped me nail my form.

And the incline is just plain mad. What the hell are you doing. I need to be too the point because something is messed up. 35kgx6? You should be doing at least 70kgx5...

I will let you tell more of the story before I say anything else though. Is the bench set at 45 degrees? What are your overhead pressing numbers like? Do you have shoulder pain?

As for getting pissed of and lifting-can't do without it. Crank up the music and attack the mother****ing bar :D
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Incline Dumbell Presses ...

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Time to get back into this.

Well, I'm back.

After an operation on my knee four months back, and contracting tendonitis in my right wrist (which I still have), I'm starting my Westside training log again.

I have been training in the interim, just nothing structured.

Monday - Upper Max effort

Bench Press - Warm up, 5RM @ 70kg. Loads down on before, but my wrist gives me so much pain on this.
T-bar row - 20/40/60/80/100kg X 8
Incline barbell - 60kg/70kg/80kg X 8
Rear Delts - 35X12 X3

Felt good to be back in this. The wrist is a huge problem however.
 
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Thursday - Lower Max Effort

Deadlift - Warm up (bar, 40kg, 100kgX8) 120/140/150kg X 5/5/3 (New PR)
Squat - bar/40kg/60kg/100kg X8/8/8/7
Weighted Hypers - 3X8 w/10kg medicine ball
Swiss ball hamstring curl - 1min's worth

Pleased as punch with the deadlift. I spent one week doing it solidly to see if I could blast through the 130 kg I was stuck on, and it paid dividends. Now the only problem is I got "told off" for doing them by a 50kg fitness instructor :rolleyes: Too much noise apparently, and management don't approve. I have to be careful with squatting now, after my op, as I have the knees of a 90 year old.

~ Still hovering around the 70kg mark, which is pissing me off. I get stronger but have trouble adding weight? Guess I best start eating more.
 
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Friday: Upper Body Repetition Effort

Bench Repetition - Loaded the bar with 50kg and went until failure X2
Pull/up chin up - Bodyweight pullup 8X2 Bodyweight chinup 8X2
Bradford Press - 30KG 3X10
Skullcrushers - 32.5 3X10
Barbell curl - 40kg 3X6
Abs Circuit.

My wrist is fcking holding me up. Bench, dead, skulls and curls are affected the worst atm.

P.s, here is the routine I'm following

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=920894
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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take note, mate
this is west side for skinny bastards more like, not true westside barbell.

Good benching, 5x90 is solid!
 
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