"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Were you forbidden from dating outside your race, religion, social status etc?

El Payaso

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How did it go? Just curious.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Masculinity

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Good question, as long as some users don't start race-bashing. I was never officially forbidden from dating other races, but I did see a trend in a family member's behavior as it related to my plates' races. When I had a White girlfriend, he really favored her. Once when I was seeing an Asian girl, he made derogatory comments about her. The same thing happened when I talked about having a Black girlfriend. As much as I dislike to admit it, this family member is prejudiced. I do not discriminate any race, but I have seen others do it. It infuriates me and I called them out immediately.
 

Jaylan

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I grew up in a diverse metropolis, so it was never really an issue. I know my parents would have preferred I only date girls from our ethnic group, but my interests growing up were not typical of a non-white city kid.

And Im just talking 10 to 15 years ago, so this wasnt super long ago. But it doesnt take a super long time for kids to change. Today so many different kinds of kids have all sorts of hobbies and interests that I wouldnt be much unique if I grew up today. And Ive dated nearly every background of woman, but most have been white though. I imagine if I was growing up today Id have dated less white girls. Where I live now though, most options will be white...but even with that said my current gal is black like me. My family actually acted surprised she was black when they met her lol

But yeah, I never had an issue with my folks. I have had a couple of girls I dated have parents who disliked my ethnic background and one who disliked how I dressed weird back as a teen.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Never by anyone of any significance in my life. Most often it's by people who give lame justifications as why I shouldn't. The interesting thing is that they never actually knew the woman.

The thing is that even though a lot of negative stereotypes may have some measure of truth, it was always my job to discern the good ones from the bad regardless of their affiliation. Typically, the good ones will do the same.
 
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