"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Were you forbidden from dating outside your race, religion, social status etc?

El Payaso

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How did it go? Just curious.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Masculinity

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Good question, as long as some users don't start race-bashing. I was never officially forbidden from dating other races, but I did see a trend in a family member's behavior as it related to my plates' races. When I had a White girlfriend, he really favored her. Once when I was seeing an Asian girl, he made derogatory comments about her. The same thing happened when I talked about having a Black girlfriend. As much as I dislike to admit it, this family member is prejudiced. I do not discriminate any race, but I have seen others do it. It infuriates me and I called them out immediately.
 

Jaylan

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I grew up in a diverse metropolis, so it was never really an issue. I know my parents would have preferred I only date girls from our ethnic group, but my interests growing up were not typical of a non-white city kid.

And Im just talking 10 to 15 years ago, so this wasnt super long ago. But it doesnt take a super long time for kids to change. Today so many different kinds of kids have all sorts of hobbies and interests that I wouldnt be much unique if I grew up today. And Ive dated nearly every background of woman, but most have been white though. I imagine if I was growing up today Id have dated less white girls. Where I live now though, most options will be white...but even with that said my current gal is black like me. My family actually acted surprised she was black when they met her lol

But yeah, I never had an issue with my folks. I have had a couple of girls I dated have parents who disliked my ethnic background and one who disliked how I dressed weird back as a teen.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Never by anyone of any significance in my life. Most often it's by people who give lame justifications as why I shouldn't. The interesting thing is that they never actually knew the woman.

The thing is that even though a lot of negative stereotypes may have some measure of truth, it was always my job to discern the good ones from the bad regardless of their affiliation. Typically, the good ones will do the same.
 
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