jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
No matter what anyone told me, or what I studied in books, this is a personal thought based on my life experience.
When I was told to walk away from toxic people, I did.
When I was told to create things for myself, I did.
Yet, all of this failed to create a sense of “purpose” in what I was doing.
So I started observing the people around me. I realized that everything they experienced was simply a succession of events that pushed them forward in life, allowing them to discover new senses of purpose as they grew up.
It’s not the “blue pill”; it’s how we are programmed to feel “satisfied” with what we do.
A typical path often looks like this: find a good job, build a family, have children, share responsibilities, make plans together, watch your children grow up, support them in their activities, studies, and development. Later, find meaning again by working less, traveling more, helping others, pursuing further education, and so on.
Life is a succession of phases. There will be many moments of difficulty, and most of them occur when we feel “lost” along the way.
This is why many families seem to “renew” themselves after events like the birth of their grandchildren: they now have someone to care for and commit to, giving them a renewed sense of purpose, while the grandparents can once again experience the joy of raising young children and enjoy a more relaxed phase of life.
In the end, it’s our own programming that makes us feel like we lack purpose when we choose paths outside the expected ones.
We are stepping into the unknown, while still aware that there exists a more familiar path we could follow.
It’s not about being afraid to build things together, such as marriage, shared debts, or joint projects.
Even if failure happens in the future, it will change us for sure, we will now owe commitments and debts, but it won’t necessarily be wrong..
What feels wrong is that, in many cases, the burden tends to fall disproportionately on us men..this is why many men in modern times feel lost, and for us, the challenge of finding purpose becomes even more difficult.
So what makes a man purpose?
When I was told to walk away from toxic people, I did.
When I was told to create things for myself, I did.
Yet, all of this failed to create a sense of “purpose” in what I was doing.
So I started observing the people around me. I realized that everything they experienced was simply a succession of events that pushed them forward in life, allowing them to discover new senses of purpose as they grew up.
It’s not the “blue pill”; it’s how we are programmed to feel “satisfied” with what we do.
A typical path often looks like this: find a good job, build a family, have children, share responsibilities, make plans together, watch your children grow up, support them in their activities, studies, and development. Later, find meaning again by working less, traveling more, helping others, pursuing further education, and so on.
Life is a succession of phases. There will be many moments of difficulty, and most of them occur when we feel “lost” along the way.
This is why many families seem to “renew” themselves after events like the birth of their grandchildren: they now have someone to care for and commit to, giving them a renewed sense of purpose, while the grandparents can once again experience the joy of raising young children and enjoy a more relaxed phase of life.
In the end, it’s our own programming that makes us feel like we lack purpose when we choose paths outside the expected ones.
We are stepping into the unknown, while still aware that there exists a more familiar path we could follow.
It’s not about being afraid to build things together, such as marriage, shared debts, or joint projects.
Even if failure happens in the future, it will change us for sure, we will now owe commitments and debts, but it won’t necessarily be wrong..
What feels wrong is that, in many cases, the burden tends to fall disproportionately on us men..this is why many men in modern times feel lost, and for us, the challenge of finding purpose becomes even more difficult.
So what makes a man purpose?