"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Went to a lounge last night... Man its been a long time...

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Ive been in a relationship for a year and a half. i havent been to a bar, club or lounge in a long time and last night i went with two of my friends who wanted me to go and...... Damn... Its like my DJ world was shaken up again. the site of hot girls everywhere was like a breath of fresh air.. only problem is, i feel like i lost some of my skills since ive been away from the game for a while. Girls were eyeing me but i didnt approach or anything because i just went to hang out and have a good time with friends but damn did i wanted to talk to all of them. One point i knew my skills were slipping,.. I was sitting at a table by myself while my friends went to buy a drink and the bar and here comes two blondes (8 and a 7.5). the 7.5 sits down by me and smiles, the 8 had some huge tits and comes next to me, they both lay their beers on my table and the 7.5 says Hi so i responded with hey cutie, she smiled and offered some of her beer to me. I took a sip and then started some small talk with the 8. Afterwards though............... I didnt know what else to say. my mind was blank. a while back i would have had these two on my lap already but damn i cant believe i couldnt continue the "gaming" finally my friends came back and we all started talking. i layed back and wondered to myself... Whats happening to me. I might go back again, any advice on a slipping DJ? Anyone been in this type of situation?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Advice is rather than saying "I might go back again" be determined to go back again and again until you get it right.
 

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You may have done better if the idea to go wasn't so spur of the moment. None the less, DJism is a lifestyle and it shouldn't be stowed away because you are in a relationship. You're still a DJ but you only have one target. Besides, how do you expect to sustain the relationship if you stop being a DJ and revert to AFC traits?
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
You may have done better if the idea to go wasn't so spur of the moment. None the less, DJism is a lifestyle and it shouldn't be stowed away because you are in a relationship. You're still a DJ but you only have one target. Besides, how do you expect to sustain the relationship if you stop being a DJ and revert to AFC traits?
Thanks fo the advice Francisco. AFC traits is something i never want to be a part of and i guess i have to keep my skills sharp. I'll admit i stopped going out with friends and speaking with girls as much since ive been with my G/F but i never thought my "Game" would suffer that much. Looks like i have some brushing up to do on my Gaming skills.
 

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In2theGame said:
Thanks fo the advice Francisco. AFC traits is something i never want to be a part of and i guess i have to keep my skills sharp. I'll admit i stopped going out with friends and speaking with girls as much since ive been with my G/F but i never thought my "Game" would suffer that much. Looks like i have some brushing up to do on my Gaming skills.
When I came out of a LTR about a couple of years ago I was in a similar state of seemingly confusion but I had remembered that I was still a DJ, just a single one. It only took a couple of weeks to get back into the stride of spinning plates but it wasn't difficult.

What you have going for you is that you have someone to brush up on. No spinning of plates but you can still sarge her and and engage other women. You're situation would make you a great wingman, even more-so a great Kamikaze. :up:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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