Went through my girlfriends cell phone to a big surprise.

[baurman]

It all started in August of 2006...I was fed up with my girlfriend and the problems between us. I had let her use my car because her car broke down and since I didn't have a job at the time I let her use my car. When it was time for me to get my car back she kept giving me excuses like "Why? Where you going? Your other girlfriends house?" bullcrap like that. So I took my car back and told her we are through...It was easy for me because I went on Vacation for a month and so it was easy to keep her out of my life. She kept calling me and asked "Is this it?" I told her yes. But stupid me, 2 months later I decided to call her back and we met up and got together again.

Now fast forward a bit to today, long-story short.. I looked through her phone while she was sleeping and saw that she was having some sort of instant message cyber sex thing with some other guy with very explicit content and it was sickening. She tells me that it was happening when I broke up with her. But just today I saw a message from that guy saying "Wow, I feel so special..have you ever had phone sex before?" She has never met this guy but she claims that she knows his brother. I just want to be through with her but I don't know what to do. It's my first girlfriend and I've been with her for a few years now. Everytime we both say "It's THROUGH!!" WE ALWAYS get back together. But deep down in my heart I honestly just want it to be over, but something is still holding me to her and I don't know what!? She's not even fvcking hot!!! It's like she's a part of my life because I guess it's my first girlfriend and everyone says it's super hard to move on. IT feels like I need to have another girl in my life in order to let go because I Don't have any friends for companionship. I just want to move on and I don't know why I always get an urge to call.

What upsets me is that my own family HELPS her all the time. They give her companionship, like she told me that when I broke up with her she was heart broken and my family comforted her! Then she reveals that my cousins wanted to have sex with her I guess thats why they kept comforting her all the time. I just don't know what to do and I feel very sick because of all this. Any help I would greatly appreciate.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Obviously you are a lonely man with no other options and thus take the easy way out!!! She is obviously horing with other dudes so you are no one special to her - you were just the next pimp in line!!! Get used to it kid - there will be many hors to come ---- PIMP THE HOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Raikojo17]

move on man. i kno it wont be easy, but the girl is obviously only hurting u. go find a girl that wont make u feel bad all the time.

 

[sav]

going through cellphones saves the day agian...!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=114435

be through with her... from the sounds of it she's a whole lot of trouble.. dont surround yourself with negative people like her...


move on, improve on urself, get a hobby, through this hobby make friends, perhaps even a new gf.... good luck and stay strong...


u are at a breaking point... which is good, you realize that you cant be with this person and that they drag you down... if your not at this poitn like i think you are... then this cycle will just keep on going...

good luck!

 

[jamescr73]

about a year and a half ago, i noticed my girlfriend (at the time, we broke up 4 months ago) was acting real weird around her phone. She was constantly hiding it, wouldnt leave it sitting around, and was constantly checking it (most likely cause it was on silent). I used to stay the night at her house all the time, and then all of a sudden she wanted me to leave and not stay. She would try and have me out of there by 11 or so. So one friday night, she fell asleep on the couch, and left her phone sitting on the floor in the living room. I got up off the couch to go to the bathroom, and scooped it up off the floor and headed to the bathroom. I started looking through it, and noticed text messages from one, guy, and calls from another that were coming in at about midnight. nice. So i wrote her a note telling her to eat **** (for the most part), and left it on her desk and quietly left her place. She woke up shortly after she realized i was gone, and she started calling. Crying, screaming, terrified of what just happened. Well, I told her where i was, and she came to meet me. I put her in her place hardcore right then and there. She told the guys to piss off, and deleted their numbers. Things were great after that. No more bullsht like making me leave at 11 or anything. And after that the sex was fantastic. For the next year and a half.

 

[baurman]

that kind of sounds like my situation. She would always look at my phone, I have nothing to hide, so I let her. What pissed me off is when she would start deleting phone numbers off of my list (like old co-workers and such) so then I would grab her phone to look at it but she would grab it away from me and struggle for me not to look at it. It was so obvious she was trying to hide something but she's the stupid one to of kept it all in there. She has one of those fancy Sidekick phone but the only thing that's different is when I found all of those e-mails and messages on her phone and I confronted her about it she isn't crying and it doesn't seem like she's trying to gain my trust. Sometimes I feel like I want to get revenge, I guess that's why I still want to keep in contact with her, but on the other hand I've been with her so long that I feel weird being single because it feels like she is apart of my family.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Here's the thing, even when you guys know that there's a problem with your relationship you can't handle the reality of what's going on. You stay in a bad situation searching for things to make it seem even worse.

You guys are masochists and probably won't ever have a viable relationship because you are forever searching for problems. No wonder these women search for other guys. I said in the thread referenced earlier that guy's like this are probably inexperienced in qualifying women but if you act like this no matter if she's qualified or not, you have bigger issues.

 

[DJDamage]

I was fed up with my girlfriend and the problems between us

When you are fed up with someone, you get rid of them. Its amazing what sort of hell some guys create for themselves so they can have access to a woman's pvssy. Right from the first sentence I knew you are to blame for this mess, you and only you.

I had let her use my car because her car broke down and since I didn't have a job at the time I let her use my car

Never ever lend your girlfriend your car. What is this marriage?? If her car broke down it's because she probably didn't take good care of it, so you think your car will be any different??. It doesn't matter that you don't have a job, if she's got a job she can always rent-a-car, if she is that broke she can't afford one, she shouldn't be driving one.

Now fast forward a bit to today, long-story short.. I looked through her phone while she was sleeping and saw that she was having some sort of instant message cyber sex thing with some other guy with very explicit content and it was sickening.

She tells me that it was happening when I broke up with her. But just today I saw a message from that guy saying "Wow, I feel so special..have you ever had phone sex before?" She has never met this guy but she claims that she knows his brother. I just want to be through with her but I don't know what to do. It's my first girlfriend and I've been with her for a few years now.

What is more sickening is that you are putting up with her behaviours and lies. This girl knows that you are a doormat and she is using that against you.

What upsets me is that my own family HELPS her all the time. They give her companionship, like she told me that when I broke up with her she was heart broken and my family comforted her! Then she reveals that my cousins wanted to have sex with her I guess thats why they kept comforting her all the time. I just don't know what to do and I feel very sick because of all this. Any help I would greatly appreciate.

Again this is your fault because she is in the picture. Cut her off out of your life and grow some balls.

 

[Phyzzle]

Cut her off out of your life and grow some balls.

Ah, but he can't:

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105845

It looks like I made some rather drunken, obnoxious responses to that thread . . . I stand by all of it, though.

 

[Kev07]

your girlfriend sounds like a bvtch, sorry, no other way to put it

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Ah, but he can't:

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105845

It looks like I made some rather drunken, obnoxious responses to that thread . . . I stand by all of it, though.

Damn, I was wondering why this thread was irking me. :woo: I had a good ol' rant myself but I was sober. Yet, I too stand by all of it too. Luckily I can't sling a sack of bricks through the web.

So Phyzzle, since you do so well digging up thread references, are you the forum librarian now?

 

[Kev07]

Ah, but he can't:

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105845

It looks like I made some rather drunken, obnoxious responses to that thread . . . I stand by all of it, though.

lol... break it to her hard.

somewhere along the lines of: stfu bvtch ic an't stand your sh1t anymore. that's the only way, block her number, don't bother telling your family. it's your life.

 

[drjekyll]

Jesus fvcking Christ on a motherfvcking tricycle, gentlemen, this is a human fvcking being here.

Dude, first and foremost, that's so fvcking nasty. This woman is poison. No matter how good she looks, nor how good she fvcks, she is scum. She is a lying, soulless sack of pigsh * t, and is and will be an irrelevance to you.

As far as your family go - forget them. They're acting like b * tches. Let them. You have bigger fish to fry.

This whole situation is a car wreck.

There is only one thing you can do to turn this sh * t into gold.

Get angry. Really angry.

Don't get angry at her. She, as we have discussed, is scum. She's nothing. She's not even on your radar. She's so far from being on your radar that she wouldn't be able to get on your radar even if she got a technical map of how your radar works and snuck into your HQ.

And don't get angry at your family. They're idiots (no offence) and they're probably trying to help you in some dumb, misguided way. Also - this girl sounds like a good manipulator (aka scum) so they're falling for her ****. It's ****ed up, but true.

Whatever.

Last but not least, do not get angry at yourself. Treat yourself with some respect. You've had enough people putting the boot in to your self worth, what with this despicable witch and your misguided family - as well, I am ashamed to say, some of the people on this thread.

Read my posts - they focus on a lot of inner game work.

But more than anything else, get angry. Yes, you heard me. Cultivate your rage. Your righteous indignation. Get angry at the situation. Get angry at your life, such as it is. Get angry at your skills with women. Get angry at what holds you back.

And do you know what holds you back? What always has? What made you go back to this witch in the first place?

Yup, you guessed it. Insecurity. AKA fear.

Get angry at fear. Get totally furious. Rage against it. Fight it. Face it.

There is only one reaction you can take from this situation, as far as I can see, which will transmute this car-wreck into a positive.

Resolve never, ever to be in this position again. Determine to put your problems with women beyond use. Go out there and destroy them. And do not lose yourself to this - hold to your principles. Keep yourself moral - but make yourself strong. So strong you'll never have this occur to you again.

Ever.

All you need to do to be strong is to annihilate the things that make you weak.

And ultimately, there's only one thing that makes you weak.

Your fear.

Hate it. Rage against it. It is what has done this to you. Fight it down.

PM me if you need more direction.