"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Went out with the boys instead of her

AlexTheGreat

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So it was my friend's birthday a few days ago, and he invites me out with a bunch of friends to unofficially celebrate. I readily agree to come!

Today, a few hours before I'm meeting my friend, this girl I've been seeing gives me a call. We've been seeing each other for about a month, and the last time I saw her, she told me "she didn't like this non-exclusive relationship" that we have, and that she's "starting to really like me", to which I reply "I really like you too, but I'm not looking for anything serious or exclusive". She seemed bummed at that, but nothing more; we talked the next day like nothing had been told.

So anyways, she calls me today and invites me to her place, and tells me that her roommate was gone. I let her know that I already had plans, but I'll call her after she gets off work to let her know what's going on and if I can maybe drop by.

Turns out that I can't make it to her place after all. As I let her know that, she turns relatively cold.

Now, I'm not saying that I should've ditched my friend to go see her, cuz I had no intention of doing that. But I've been putting very little effort into her, and I'm not sure exactly whether I should be working more or less for her. I think this chick is cool, and it would suck if she lost interest because I'm not giving her enough feedback.

My question is: how busy can a guy become before a girl starts losing interest from lack of feedback?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's noble that you didn't ditch your mates for her.

If you were smart you could have killed two birds with one stone.

She feels rejected and it seems like she might have wanted you to go to her pad for jiggy, jiggy happenings, but you said no.

You probably made her feel ugly, cheap and unbangable LOL.

If she is still interested, remember the kill two birds with one stone.

You can manage an hour in your day for jiggy, jiggy surely?
 

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your doing good, in here eyes your probably a hard to get prize girls want things they cant have. Don't overdo it though or she will find someone else.Put a little bit of effort next time around though.
 

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AlexTheGreat said:
My question is: how busy can a guy become before a girl starts losing interest from lack of feedback?
Push and pull. You won't always have time for her because of work, school, or other friends. This is actually attractive to alot of women.

Make sure the time you DO spend, especially just after you blow her off (or she takes it that way), is extra memorable.
 

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She might've not been so cold if she knew that it was a friend's birthday or something. It's not technically her business but a simple explanation can go a long way toward thawing out the ice.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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AlexTheGreat

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I should've precised that I did let her know it was my friend's birthday.

She's out of town for the day, but she said she'll give me a call when she comes back. I sent her a quick text, and she answered promptly ... I guess we'll see what will happen!

Thanks for the input guys :D
 

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when you go to marineland, you see the dolphen jumping through the hoops right? what happens then? the trainer rewards him with a fish to eat. Throw her a fish. take her out, treat her well, and do her up when you get her home.
 
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