mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You gotta prime yourself hitting a few easier targets first. He's completely knocked out of the game as long as he's out of the saddle.It can work, but it might take years. It's a very inefficient method.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.