Went out last night for my sister's birthday and met about 10 new people

[HankHill]

Still waiting to hear what YOU think is the reason you can't date? But even more importantly how are you planning to fix it?

These are the ONLY two things you should be focusing your energy on if you want to make changes.

 

[17 shots]

I'm arguing with her because I get very annoyed by people who tell me that my whole life focus is getting a woman

I live a VERY balanced lifestyle. I focus a lot on making a lot of money, having great relationships with my family and friends, trying to be a good person and help out anybody I can and then just trying to have as much fun as I can have

You made a thread once crying about how sad you are because you're letting down your mother by not finding a wife and having a family

... and literally every single one of them was shocked that I was single. They all said that I was a very good looking dude, a genuinely super nice person, they were all impressed by my fashion sense, my drive/ambition in life

Did you tell them that you're scared of rejection and place all your dating hopes on online dating because you don't have the balls to approach, and go after the women you want

I'm sure they would of understood, if you had said that

 

[bigdave17]

You made a thread once crying about how sad you are because you're letting down your mother by not finding a wife and having a family

the sadness is because I'm disappointing my mom

Family and friends is everything to me. I'm old school Armenian values where loyalty is everything

Did you tell them that you're scared of rejection and place all your dating hopes on online dating because you don't have the balls to approach, and go after the women you want

because there are tons of cute, single, decent body Spanish/Italian/Middle eastern women, with no kids in their mid to late 20s with good personalities walking around

and they're definitely all single and in easy approach scenarios. Not like they're usually working or out with 50 friends or some other ungodly difficult approaching scenario

 

[mrgoodstuff]

the sadness is because I'm disappointing my mom

Family and friends is everything to me. I'm old school Armenian values where loyalty is everything




because there are tons of cute, single, decent body Spanish/Italian/Middle eastern women, with no kids in their mid to late 20s with good personalities walking around

and they're definitely all single and in easy approach scenarios. Not like they're usually working or out with 50 friends or some other ungodly difficult approaching scenario

Take one of these beautiful intelligent scraps who has a child already. She's proven she can put someone ahead of herself.

 

[bigdave17]

Take one of these beautiful intelligent scraps who has a child already. She's proven she can put someone ahead of herself.

fukk no

the last thing I want is some douchebag male (baby daddy) involved in my life permanently. I don't even want kids myself until 5 to 7 years down the line

 

[mrgoodstuff]

fukk no

the last thing I want is some douchebag male (baby daddy) involved in my life permanently. I don't even want kids myself until 5 to 7 years down the line

Just date her never get her pregnant.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

fukk no

the last thing I want is some douchebag male (baby daddy) involved in my life permanently. I don't even want kids myself until 5 to 7 years down the line

And he could be a responsible loving man that couldn't keep putting up with her crap. This day and age it's not all the man's fault.

 

[Gan]

the sadness is because I'm disappointing my mom

Family and friends is everything to me. I'm old school Armenian values where loyalty is everything

Are you, by any chance, a mommas boy? That might be where your problems lie. Stop trying to meet your parents standards. You're old enough to live your own life the way you want to. You shouldn't be trying to satisfy anybody else but yourself.

 

[17 shots]

the sadness is because I'm disappointing my mom

Family and friends is everything to me. I'm old school Armenian values where loyalty is everything




because there are tons of cute, single, decent body Spanish/Italian/Middle eastern women, with no kids in their mid to late 20s with good personalities walking around

and they're definitely all single and in easy approach scenarios. Not like they're usually working or out with 50 friends or some other ungodly difficult approaching scenario

You cant wait until your 30, and then complain that all the good women are taken. You're late to the party, so you need to make the most of what's available. You're only getting older

 

[bigdave17]

And he could be a responsible loving man that couldn't keep putting up with her crap. This day and age it's not all the man's fault.

you're missing the point

I don't want another man involved in my life like that in any shape or form....and last thing I want to do is take care of another man's offspring

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You cant wait until your 30, and then complain that all the good women are taken. You're late to the party, so you need to make the most of what's available. You're only getting older

The more years go by the worse it gets.

Bigdave17 take some college or masters level classes with a high amount of babes. You'll meet receptive ladies there.

I think you'll find a woman wanting to complete her life and marry there.

I'm going to take this advice.

 

[bigdave17]

The more years go by the worse it gets.

Bigdave17 take some college or masters level classes with a high amount of babes. You'll meet receptive ladies there.

I think you'll find a woman wanting to complete her life and marry there.

I'm going to take this advice.

I already have business degree bachelors. I work 50 to 55 hours a week man. I'm not trying to add more to my workload. My free time is for me to relax

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I already have business degree bachelors. I work 50 to 55 hours a week man. I'm not trying to add more to my workload. My free time is for me to relax

Your employer may do tuition reimbursement, just add one class in an area of Interest. We can learn till we die and folks bond in those classes.

Just throwing ideas.

You could build yourself up to a physical trainer in your part time. You'd be the Alpha and you will be submitted to by ladies.

 

[bigdave17]

Your employer may do tuition reimbursement, just add one class in an area of Interest. We can learn till we die and folks bond in those classes.

Just throwing ideas.

You could build yourself up to a physical trainer in your part time. You'd be the Alpha and you will be submitted to by ladies.

I've helped 5 or 6 people get in awesome shape. I really enjoy it. I love helping people in general

the problem is the people who ask for PT help are fat old people. Hot, fit 26 year olds don't need a PT

 

[corrector]

no, they were all very attractive but all married/older




lol, you really think that's how I talk to people in real life?

Of course not. We are talking about how you are vibing. That means you are sharing or expressing a side of yourself here that you would not express out there. However, that carries-over in your overall aura and how women out there could be seeing you. You can't be one way here or have a mindset here and expect that will not spill-over in subtextual communication, aura, and vibe out there.

90% of the conversations last night was me focusing on the other people's interests and life in general. I only talked about myself when they asked

Guys I'm not socially retarded, I make friends everywhere I go

You could be doing perfect socially and making friends, but people can pick up something about you that isn't that right. Maybe you seem too much like a try-hard on the type of girls you want.

 

[zekko]

I'm not trying to make friends with any of you guys

So you're showing your true self here, and you sound like an arrogant egomaniac. You're not funny/c0cky, you're straight up arrogant. When you're out "trying to make friends", you put up a fake front to get people to like you, but most likely your true self comes through. As Tyler from RSD says, "The self is always shining through". Plus you're trying to hide it, so you come across as inauthentic.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So you're showing your true self here, and you sound like an arrogant egomaniac. You're not funny/c0cky, you're straight up arrogant. When you're out "trying to make friends", you put up a fake front to get people to like you, but most likely your true self comes through. As Tyler from RSD says, "The self is always shining through". Plus you're trying to hide it, so you come across as inauthentic.

I also think his sexual side is turned down. So whole they might like his company it doesn't turn them on.

 

[zekko]

I also think his sexual side is turned down. So whole they might like his company it doesn't turn them on.

Despite his protests, it doesn't sound like he has a sexual side. He only wants sex with this LTR girl that he wants to find, but you don't pick out an LTR girl in one night. So he may not even get around to wanting to bang her for about six months, which is usually the time you date someone before it even starts to get serious. Therefore, he brings no sexual edge in initial encounters. So I think you're right.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Despite his protests, it doesn't sound like he has a sexual side. He only wants sex with this LTR girl that he wants to find, but you don't pick out an LTR girl in one night. So he may not even get around to wanting to bang her for about six months, which is usually the time you date someone before it even starts to get serious. Therefore, he brings no sexual edge in initial encounters. So I think you're right.

That's why I asked him to start at the male fundamentals level. coming from adolescent to young male hood a man had to get laid it's that simple.

I've been in his position. My sex life dead and trying this "sniper" approach on a perfect LTR. That did not work

It was almost overnight after I started fvcking the pvssy I had available like a man... And I started being noticed and sexually attractive to others women.

They can see it, in the way you move, your timing, your lack of urgency and calmness.

 

[zekko]

I've been in his position. My sex life dead and trying this "sniper" approach on a perfect LTR. That did not work

It can work, but it might take years. It's a very inefficient method.