"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Went on a solid 9 date from match tonight. But.....

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Urban Dictionary gives a pretty good description of this region in general.

 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Never did hear back from her after I texted her a couple days later so that was a ghost. I mean, isn't that a bit rude, unless the date is uber rude wouldn't it be polite to at least text back saying thanks for the dinner but I'm just not interested? I guess this shows her true character.
 

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Never did hear back from her after I texted her a couple days later so that was a ghost. I mean, isn't that a bit rude, unless the date is uber rude wouldn't it be polite to at least text back saying thanks for the dinner but I'm just not interested? I guess this shows her true character.
What? It took her not replying back to show you her "true character"?

So her being rude,condescending,narcissistic,stuck up,and snobby....
Her LAUGHING at you and making snide remarks when you told her your line of work....

None of that clued you in.........It took her not responding to show you who she was?

Wow. That's MINDBOGGLING.

After reading what all you said about this chick,I initially thought you dodged a bullet by not getting involved with her. Now I'm not so sure.

Now,I'm starting to think that SHE was the one who dodged the bullet by not getting involved with YOU.
 

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What? It took her not replying back to show you her "true character"?

So her being rude,condescending,narcissistic,stuck up,and snobby....
Her LAUGHING at you and making snide remarks when you told her your line of work....

None of that clued you in.........It took her not responding to show you who she was?

Wow. That's MINDBOGGLING.

After reading what all you said about this chick,I initially thought you dodged a bullet by not getting involved with her. Now I'm not so sure.

Now,I'm starting to think that SHE was the one who dodged the bullet by not getting involved with YOU.
I knew she was insulting me and that of course I did! I was saying it would have been common courtesy if she replied to the text. I knew I wasn't likely going to get a second date let along screw her, but I figured I should have at least texted her saying thanks for the time. She did drive a ways here though so I figured I should have said thanks for the night anyway despite how lousy she acted.

Would you have texted her saying thanks for the date if she acted this way towards you? What would you have done? Would you have called her out on it?
 
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