Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Went on a date last night and

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So i met up with this girl from my gym, I spent quite a bit of time talking to her before hand and what not. I thought that the date went well and we made plans to hang out today. At the end of the date she told me to send her a text letting her know I got home safely, I said okay. When I got home I sent her a text and said that I made it home and had a good time with her. she texted me back and said "good :). Thank you for your time." What the hell does that mean?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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that's a good thing I think.
 

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Obsidian said:
It means, don't let girls tell you what to do.
Look man I don't let anyone tell me what to do, I do what I want to do..
 

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Don't get too much into it. try to set up a second date and see how she reacts.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Exactly... action speak louder than words. see her actions.

Joe.
 

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MountainSlide said:
Look man I don't let anyone tell me what to do, I do what I want to do..
Texting a girl to tell her that you've gotten home safely is silly. If you die on the trip home, she can read about it in the obituaries like a normal person. She told you to text her. I would not have complied with her request -- for future reference.

I agree with the people, though, who say that you shouldn't read too much into it. Maybe try ignoring her for about five days before you set up something else.

Finally, my view is that you shouldn't make plans for a later date while you are currently out on a date. Make her wait for you to call. Make her worry that she failed.
 

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Thanks for the feedback guys, I talked to her a bit today but she does seem much less interested than before. I guess I ****ed up the compliance **** test. Ahh well learning experience, got too caught up in the moment. Anyway I have been learning a lot since I got back into the dating game and the people on this site have helped me a lot. I'm just going to keep moving forward, I live in a city filled with beautiful women, and I'm sure that if I can gather the courage to keep on approaching that it won't be long at all before I get what I'm looking for.
 

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I would wait 2-3 weeks and try her again. In the meantime, try to find others.
 

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She's got low interest. I wouldn't hit her up till next month.

The text that you got home shows she can have you. Now she's more interested in you just being friends.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I already have something else and am hoping to get even more. Actually this was a back to back date with another HB7. I just made a mistake on the second one by failing compliance test. my other date is nearly sexting me already. So will be moving on and probably won't bother to talk to her again, ever, and if I do, it is going to have to be her that pursues me. There are too many sexy women out there that I don't need to deal with this bull****.
 

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She's from the Gym. Check.
Wanted you to text her, and was so adamant about it. Check.

She's likely an attention seeker who is used to excessive amounts of male attention, and wants to make you another orbiter.

Word of advice. Don't bother with gym chicks. VERY VERY FEW of them aren't shallow attention seekers.
 

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EveryPostHere said:
She's from the Gym. Check.
Wanted you to text her, and was so adamant about it. Check.

She's likely an attention seeker who is used to excessive amounts of male attention, and wants to make you another orbiter.

Word of advice. Don't bother with gym chicks. VERY VERY FEW of them aren't shallow attention seekers.
You know what? I think you are bang on. I think she is trying to create a little army of orbiters, because she told me that most of her friends were guys and that "women are too much drama". She made all these promises and did everything she could to try and make me feel like she wanted me, just to swtich it a little later and turn totally cold (mixed signals); a classic trick used by women that are screwed up in the head. She was pursuing me more than I was her, and when I began to show interest -- poof -- cold. She was so good at pretending like she has a level head on her shoulders, but that type can never hold down the act for very long. It's funny what you said about gym girls wanting attention because that is exactly what my buddy said about her, he said, "that girl is drawing way too much attention man".
 
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You know what? I think you are bang on. I think she is trying to create a little army of orbiters, because she told me that most of her friends were guys and that "women are too much drama". She made all these promises and did everything she could to try and make me feel like she wanted me, just to swtich it a little later and turn totally cold (mixed signals); a classic trick used by women that are screwed up in the head. She was pursuing me more than I was her, and when I began to show interest -- poof -- cold. She was so good at pretending like she has a level head on her shoulders, but that type can never hold down the act for very long. It's funny what you said about gym girls wanting attention because that is exactly what my buddy said about her, he said, "that girl is drawing way too much attention man".
She wanted your attention and when she had it, gone. When you weren't giving it she was interested.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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But don't most girls go to the gym at least sometimes?
 

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After drunkingly hooking up with a few fat or even slender so so girls I've noticed a big difference in the majority of them and girls who are adanent about keeping up their looks....

that the better a girl looks odds are she's not really a cool person or has really anything to offer besides looks. There are exceptions but it seensvto be rare. Good looking girls with super firm bodies past the age of 18 bodies for the most part tend to try so hard to look good only for the attention in the first place therefore already being attention *****s.

There's a few legit naturals that are more down to earth, but they are rare. I agree completely that if a girl works out all the time she's usually a major attention *****. Too bad those are the only ones I'm really sexually attracted to...
 

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Why would you do what she said? You failed a test. Women don't like being with men they can boss around.

You should joked with her and said something like, "What? Are you missing me already? You know I don't have to go home yet if you want me to hang around." Then tell her she can call anytime she wants to see you.
 

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Yes mommy I made it home safely
 

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Haha No.Danny! Ok so I was just like screw her you know, deleted her number and quit talking mid conversation. Now she keeps ****ing texting me lol, I reply with a cold closed response about 1-3 hours after receiving her message, because if there's one thing i've learned about dating, is that you just got to keep moving, opening up more options, and building confidence. If I make a mistake and **** up a **** test, that isn't my problem, it's hers. On a brighter note, got two chicks numbers today cold pick up! I'm getting better at this ****! Also a date laid out with another girl for thursday. The people on this site have helped me a lot coming out of my rut, and I give you all my thanks!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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