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Went Nc on a girl for 3 days and she thinks I'm mad at her

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I broke it to ask for her to pay for half of this trip we're going on because I feel like she does not deserve the right for me pay for the whole thing. She also asked to come see me since she was near where I live at and I said no. She kept sending me texts and I just replied with one word responses and she asks if I'm mad at her or something.
 

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Why are you going nc on a chick youre about to go on a trip with?
 

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I don't get this

If she offers to pay the whole thing, let her do it. Why should you pay for half when she offers to pay? Why would you be going NC and giving one word answers?
 

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SirFratserlot said:
Because she pvssed me off prior
Then make her pay for the trip. Why did you contact her to offer to pay half?
Not sure why you would do that. Your trip doesn't sound like it's going to be much fun.
 

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Valentino14 said:
Then make her pay for the trip. Why did you contact her to offer to pay half?
Not sure why you would do that. Your trip doesn't sound like it's going to be much fun.
Just don't worry about the trip. That's a whole different story. I just added that because the reason I broke it was to ask her to pay half. I guess I should have been more straightforward in my op. Is it good or bad that she thinks I am mad at her for going nc and sending short texts.
 

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Well it was not suppose to be a permanent NC, but I just withdrew my interest for a few days. It would have been stupid to do that.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
Just don't worry about the trip. That's a whole different story. I just added that because the reason I broke it was to ask her to pay half. I guess I should have been more straightforward in my op. Is it good or bad that she thinks I am mad at her for going nc and sending short texts.

You said she pissed you off, so you shouldn't break your NC for any reason. NC is NC period. No reason to contact her when you go NC. Now you are playing games with her. Makes you look petty. Get over it.
 

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I am curious at why you are acting like a woman and being passive aggressive

Like seriously this mind game stuff is "how to handle things like a petulant teenager"
If she pissed you off, tell her that _____ was disrespectful and move on. Making her guess what she did and doing this whole avoidance and low interest mind game is a great way to have a really immature relationship. (also if she doesn't correctly guess what made you all butthurt she will do it again unless you tell her like an adult.)
I'm curious what she did to piss you off. You didn't say in the original post.
 

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pinkfl said:
I am curious at why you are acting like a woman and being passive aggressive

Like seriously this mind game stuff is "how to handle things like a petulant teenager"
If she pissed you off, tell her that _____ was disrespectful and move on. Making her guess what she did and doing this whole avoidance and low interest mind game is a great way to have a really immature relationship. (also if she doesn't correctly guess what made you all butthurt she will do it again unless you tell her like an adult.)
I'm curious what she did to piss you off. You didn't say in the original post.
Toook the words outta my mouth.
 

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Not to bash you op but do you understand what is NC and for which purpose is used?

You can use it to take a girl out of your mind, or attempt to renegotiate the frame of the interaction but not as a passive aggressive manouver if you're bvtthurt.
 

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Ive dealt with probably the most passive aggressive bvtch in the world, and giving them a taste of their own medicine brings them down. I told her no when she asked whether I was mad or not, so I do not get all the fuss.
 

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pinkfl said:
I am curious at why you are acting like a woman and being passive aggressive

I'm curious what she did to piss you off. You didn't say in the original post.

my best bet is she didn't give him a bl0wj0b...now he is all angry and sh!t

:crackup:
 

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JoeMarron said:
Well if she pissed you off enough for you to go NC then you shouldnt be responding to anything. Read this so you'll do it right next time.

http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread....tions-and-answers-to-questions&highlight=Soft
Wow I did this without even knowing it once to a girl I was dating that acted up at a party. I just stopped talking to her and walked away. She threatened to leave and I just said "Ok goodbye" and looked at her. Then she was all over me apologizing.
 

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