Thank you for any advice or criticism. Just got back in the game, and i'm looking forward to getting pointers. I tried posting earlier, but my message got deleted so if you see this story twice, forgive me.
I closed with two girls i knew to be friends on back to back nights. I was friends with the second one, and the sex was so good i thought id keep her around. I came clean about her friend. Told her I wouldnt have slept with the other one had the order been reversed, and she was cool. From then on, she saw me as having high value, and i got pretty much whatever i wanted. This lasted for a few weeks, and then I had to go abroad for two months. She told me not to come back with a girlfriend, and with a wink and a node i left.
We kept in very heavy contact while i was overseas. She would invest, invest, and invest more time into me. She would make promises, tell me how she misses me, and go on to tell me the most personal of things. I didnt want to catch deep feelings, but after about a month of this i started to. I even sent her a postcard from every city i went to while abroad, and bought her about 5 inexpensive gifts (2 gifts under $2, and 3 gifts under $20). I think it was a mistake to buy her gifts at all without giving her an opportunity to reciprocate. Then came the **** tests, and because i was abroad and didnt want to mess things up i failed some and passed others.
About a week out from coming back she was distant, but we still had a nice sex vacation over the weekend. Then more another **** test, and i failed it. We started arguing and although i didnt take much more **** after that, but i took too much. I was too willing to make it work, and too compromising. She even called me a nice guy. We were broken up within a week. Here"s what i did right. When she broke things off, i was cool and collected with no hesitation. She said, "This isnt working," and i replied in a chipper and upbeat voice: "baby, you are right. You are going to find a better man, dont you worry about it. Btw, where is my car charger". She was shocked. I got the charger out her car, came back smiling, asked where my stuff was, quickly got it together and said "Laters". She clung on to me, and even kissed my neck. But i didnt take the hint, i was too pissed on the inside. The next day i went out with her now estranged girlfriend for a friendly lunch, but before the lunch my ex hit me up and started giving me bs. I checked her hard, and she apologized.
The next week i realized i forgot an expensive item at her house, returned to get it and was greeted with hugs and compliments. We said goodbye, and then she snapchatted me a picture of a post card she had just gotten, which i thought was a little messed up, because we were still talking at the time that i wrote the card. Either way we talked for the next two days. I sent her a picture of my new bar, and she responded that it made her want to drink. I replied with a picture of a bottle of wine, and the caption "Bam!". NO response from her that day. The next day she writes on facebook that she has to cut ppl out of her life that make her unhappy. OK, so i cut her off entirely, but she persists for about 10 days to send me the most random SnapChats ever.
I reckon, i dont respond to a single random snapchat that isnt directly and obviously addressed just to me. Ten days later she sends me an sms about how she broke something, and a snapchat about how her dog ate some construction workers sandwich. I responded by insulting her. Something along the lines of, "two peas in one pod? Guess you do look the same on a bad day". She responded with, "Wow, that just happened," and i finished it with a "lol".
No response for 3 days. Figured we were done. Then i go out to the bars, meet a friend, put up a new facebook profile picture, and this girl is back to randomly snapchatting me. The first came minutes after i changed my photo at close to midnight (photo of her new Halloween decorations), and the next came at 230 in the morning (picture of her male friend passed out on her couch with him tipping over onto her shoulder, and her with a shocked expression- the friend is a small, skinny, nice, hopeless dude that her other girlfriends have already disqualified). Complete rubbish. Today i get a snapchat of bad mannequins at marshals. Wtf is going on?
Ive been killing it at the gym, and have two dates lined up this week. I feel good about moving on from crazy, but the sex was exceptional. Do i have a chance at getting her back at least to where its just sex, should i cut her off completely, or should i go back to no-contact?
I closed with two girls i knew to be friends on back to back nights. I was friends with the second one, and the sex was so good i thought id keep her around. I came clean about her friend. Told her I wouldnt have slept with the other one had the order been reversed, and she was cool. From then on, she saw me as having high value, and i got pretty much whatever i wanted. This lasted for a few weeks, and then I had to go abroad for two months. She told me not to come back with a girlfriend, and with a wink and a node i left.
We kept in very heavy contact while i was overseas. She would invest, invest, and invest more time into me. She would make promises, tell me how she misses me, and go on to tell me the most personal of things. I didnt want to catch deep feelings, but after about a month of this i started to. I even sent her a postcard from every city i went to while abroad, and bought her about 5 inexpensive gifts (2 gifts under $2, and 3 gifts under $20). I think it was a mistake to buy her gifts at all without giving her an opportunity to reciprocate. Then came the **** tests, and because i was abroad and didnt want to mess things up i failed some and passed others.
About a week out from coming back she was distant, but we still had a nice sex vacation over the weekend. Then more another **** test, and i failed it. We started arguing and although i didnt take much more **** after that, but i took too much. I was too willing to make it work, and too compromising. She even called me a nice guy. We were broken up within a week. Here"s what i did right. When she broke things off, i was cool and collected with no hesitation. She said, "This isnt working," and i replied in a chipper and upbeat voice: "baby, you are right. You are going to find a better man, dont you worry about it. Btw, where is my car charger". She was shocked. I got the charger out her car, came back smiling, asked where my stuff was, quickly got it together and said "Laters". She clung on to me, and even kissed my neck. But i didnt take the hint, i was too pissed on the inside. The next day i went out with her now estranged girlfriend for a friendly lunch, but before the lunch my ex hit me up and started giving me bs. I checked her hard, and she apologized.
The next week i realized i forgot an expensive item at her house, returned to get it and was greeted with hugs and compliments. We said goodbye, and then she snapchatted me a picture of a post card she had just gotten, which i thought was a little messed up, because we were still talking at the time that i wrote the card. Either way we talked for the next two days. I sent her a picture of my new bar, and she responded that it made her want to drink. I replied with a picture of a bottle of wine, and the caption "Bam!". NO response from her that day. The next day she writes on facebook that she has to cut ppl out of her life that make her unhappy. OK, so i cut her off entirely, but she persists for about 10 days to send me the most random SnapChats ever.
I reckon, i dont respond to a single random snapchat that isnt directly and obviously addressed just to me. Ten days later she sends me an sms about how she broke something, and a snapchat about how her dog ate some construction workers sandwich. I responded by insulting her. Something along the lines of, "two peas in one pod? Guess you do look the same on a bad day". She responded with, "Wow, that just happened," and i finished it with a "lol".
No response for 3 days. Figured we were done. Then i go out to the bars, meet a friend, put up a new facebook profile picture, and this girl is back to randomly snapchatting me. The first came minutes after i changed my photo at close to midnight (photo of her new Halloween decorations), and the next came at 230 in the morning (picture of her male friend passed out on her couch with him tipping over onto her shoulder, and her with a shocked expression- the friend is a small, skinny, nice, hopeless dude that her other girlfriends have already disqualified). Complete rubbish. Today i get a snapchat of bad mannequins at marshals. Wtf is going on?
Ive been killing it at the gym, and have two dates lined up this week. I feel good about moving on from crazy, but the sex was exceptional. Do i have a chance at getting her back at least to where its just sex, should i cut her off completely, or should i go back to no-contact?