"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So lastnight had a great time with the girl, we went karaoke bar and sang our hearts out.

Went back to her flat, she has a light switch in the hallway which was faulty, last time I was there she joked about how I should fix it for her. I didn't reply and she said she will do it. Well, I bought the stuff needed and fixed it for her lastnight, she was moved by it and told me she thought I didn't really care, I gave her a back massage then whatever came after....

As a was driving to work from her flat this morning I went a bit soft and texted her.

"you sang great lastnight, one song moved me. Even though we just saw each other I am already thinking about you, missing you already"

Had this reply.

"I am really moved by what you've done for me lastnight, thank you. You're always on my mind"

Her reply seems ok, I don't know why I am bothered by it though. Maybe because I went soft so it bothers me instead of her reply. I am over analyzing this ain't I? I'll relax after posting this.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Showing your sensitive side can be a good thing that separates you from the obnoxious d1cks who usually repel women...but it MUST be in small doses!

I've found myself going way too soft lately too. I started to realise how well women respond to a bit of affection and sensitivity, and how willing they are to return it, and like with many great discoveries I took it to an extreme - to a point where it scared them off, portrayed me as too much of a "nice guy" and not enough of a challenge.

It sounds like you're at a point where she still considers this charming and appreciates it, but now you should ease off. I'm not talking about going cold or mean with her, but it's time to pull back and let her come chasing you. Once that happens, feel free to reward her with more attention/affection.
 
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ya slow down on the mushy talk.

plenty of time for that MUCH later...

Instead let her do it....any chika thats way into you will.
 
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It should bother you. You forgot to mention that you can do more then fix broken flashlights. You should inform her, no matter what her needs are, plumbing, electrical, even to drive her around, you'll do anything for her and give her a free massage too just for the priviledge of doing errands for her. Did you ask her if you could buy something for her too? If I forgot to include these things, I'd feel AFC too.
 
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corrector said:
It should bother you. You forgot to mention that you can do more then fix broken flashlights. You should inform her, no matter what her needs are, plumbing, electrical, even to drive her around, you'll do anything for her and give her a free massage too just for the priviledge of doing errands for her. Did you ask her if you could buy something for her too? If I forgot to include these things, I'd feel AFC too.
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I get your point through the sarcasm :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Showing a sensitive side isn't a bad thing, I mean who wants to be with someone as wooden as an oak tree? However, to be going sensitive in the dating stage is a bad thing.

You're fortunate that she seems into you that she let it slide and feels the same way about you as you do about her. That's great, but reign in your emotions for the time being and remain calm, collected and composed.
 
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