Well...

[B0SS MAN]

I took a long break from the forum to try and figure out things on my own but I have seen no success. I really don't care too much anymore. A lot of girls have been calling me an ******* lately because I make fun of them or because I refuse to do what they tell me to do. I haven't received any interest from any girls I am interested in and one I had a lot of interest in has had boyfriends and has talked to other people over the past couple months so I obviously was just a number to her and it was probably a good thing it didn't work out. Aside from my best friend, no girls even text my phone or hit me up, so I wouldn't even say I'm on somebody's radar.

I ran into a girl I used to have a thing for in ninth grade (two years ago) the other day and she is still with the same kid she left me for and she asked me if I was talking to anybody since her or have I had a girlfriend and the sad answer is no. I was talking to another girl who used to be my bestfriend a couple weeks ago and she was saying that she thought I would have at least had a girlfriend by now.

My life is pretty much consumed by track and schoolwork anyway and by the time the weekend rolls around I'm exhausted but anytime I'm alone to myself and have time to reflect I just feel alone. Im beginning to feel like everybody has somebody and I have nobody but I guess thats just life. What could I possibly be doing wrong?

 

[Amo]

You're not adapting. What you're doing isn't working. Adapt.

 

[SpaceKingLolipop]

My life is pretty much consumed by track and schoolwork anyway and by the time the weekend rolls around I'm exhausted These sound like excuses to me. My friend at school named Mitchel has to juggle schoolwork, wrestling and being the senior president and he still has a girlfriend (although they do breakup every other week, but that's not the point). What I'm trying to say is if you really do want a girlfriend, you already have the means to get one. All you need is to get motivated enough to play the field and have enough confidence in yourself. but anytime I'm alone to myself and have time to reflect I just feel alone. Im beginning to feel like everybody has somebody and I have nobody but I guess thats just life. Being single isn't a bad thing. When I'm single is also when I have enough time to think clearly about what I want out of life. It gives me time to pursue my hobbies and passions like practicing guitar and bboying. Seriously, when you feel like you MUST HAVE a girlfriend to be happy, your actions come from a place of neediness which girls automatically sense with their built-in radars. Then when you finally find a girl, she makes you happy for a while, but the hole you thought would disappear after getting a girlfriend is still there. My advice to you is you should first learn to be completely happy with being single, even borderline euphoric. Then when you do find a girl, having her in you life just adds to your happiness instead of temporally filling in the hole created by feeling lonely.What could I possibly be doing wrong?

-SKLolipop

 

[B0SS MAN]

You're not adapting. What you're doing isn't working. Adapt.

How?

 

[B0SS MAN]

These sound like excuses to me. My friend at school named Mitchel has to juggle schoolwork, wrestling and being the senior president and he still has a girlfriend (although they do breakup every other week, but that's not the point). What I'm trying to say is if you really do want a girlfriend, you already have the means to get one. All you need is to get motivated enough to play the field and have enough confidence in yourself. Being single isn't a bad thing. When I'm single is also when I have enough time to think clearly about what I want out of life. It gives me time to pursue my hobbies and passions like practicing guitar and bboying. Seriously, when you feel like you MUST HAVE a girlfriend to be happy, your actions come from a place of neediness which girls automatically sense with their built-in radars. Then when you finally find a girl, she makes you happy for a while, but the hole you thought would disappear after getting a girlfriend is still there. My advice to you is you should first learn to be completely happy with being single, even borderline euphoric. Then when you do find a girl, having her in you life just adds to your happiness instead of temporally filling in the hole created by feeling lonely.

I don't even really want a girlfriend I just want someone who I genuinely like to reciprocate interest. But I wouldn't say I want one to make me happy, I'm not unhappy by myself its just that I have never even had my first kiss or anything and it bothers me that all of my other friends are hooking up with girls and I'm still alone.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

I don't even really want a girlfriend I just want someone who I genuinely like to reciprocate interest. But I wouldn't say I want one to make me happy, I'm not unhappy by myself its just that I have never even had my first kiss or anything and it bothers me that all of my other friends are hooking up with girls and I'm still alone.

It sounds like you want a better social lifestyle. Me too!

You will not get one unless you try. All the time you've spent alone could be time spent getting to know new people, trying new things, and making new friends. Man, I really wish I'd listen to what I say.

Get out there and create a new lifestyle for yourself. Get to know yourself and create your own life like nobody else has done before.

I don't even really want a girlfriend I just want someone who I genuinely like to reciprocate interest.

This will never happen unless you put yourself out there and learn how to get the girls that you like. It doesn't come overnight, but each and every day you try brings you closer to discovering and getting what you really want...

 

[SpaceKingLolipop]

I don't even really want a girlfriend I just want someone who I genuinely like to reciprocate interest. But I wouldn't say I want one to make me happy, I'm not unhappy by myself its just that I have never even had my first kiss or anything Wow! I've been in your situation, and in some ways, I still am. There are many girls I consider as just friends because they aren't my perfect image of a super sexy girlfriend, so I just joke around and fool with them. Throughout junior year (cause that's when I gained major self confidence) some of my girl friends were asking me out on dates, to sadies and to homecoming, but i denied them all which was stupid of me now I look back because they all had great personalities and were all cute just not "superhot." Most of the girls I found insanely beautiful made me tongue-tied or sweat a little, and when I did get to know them better, a lot of them were stuck-up and had only partying and getting drunk on their mind (haha, one even pissed all over her boyfriend). I'm not trying to say all hot girls are *****es, many aren't, but maybe you should try looking a little closer to home if you want a truly genuine person or relationship. and it bothers me that all of my other friends are hooking up with girls and I'm still alone.

~KingLolipop

 

[B0SS MAN]

It sounds like you want a better social lifestyle. Me too!

You will not get one unless you try. All the time you've spent alone could be time spent getting to know new people, trying new things, and making new friends. Man, I really wish I'd listen to what I say.

Get out there and create a new lifestyle for yourself. Get to know yourself and create your own life like nobody else has done before.

I'm not sure my social lifestyle is the problem. I have plenty of friends, I can go out whenever I feel like it and have a good time. I even have plenty of friends who are girls too but they are just that, friends. The ones I have interest in just want to be my friend too. Plenty of my friends even wonder why I'm not with anybody.

This will never happen unless you put yourself out there and learn how to get the girls that you like. It doesn't come overnight, but each and every day you try brings you closer to discovering and getting what you really want...

True. I've been trying to apply myself more but I still haven't seen the results that I'm looking for. I've been at this since seventh grade and not much has changed. When will it work?

 

[B0SS MAN]

Wow! I've been in your situation, and in some ways, I still am. There are many girls I consider as just friends because they aren't my perfect image of a super sexy girlfriend, so I just joke around and fool with them. Throughout junior year (cause that's when I gained major self confidence) some of my girl friends were asking me out on dates, to sadies and to homecoming, but i denied them all which was stupid of me now I look back because they all had great personalities and were all cute just not "superhot." Most of the girls I found insanely beautiful made me tongue-tied or sweat a little, and when I did get to know them better, a lot of them were stuck-up and had only partying and getting drunk on their mind (haha, one even pissed all over her boyfriend). I'm not trying to say all hot girls are *****es, many aren't, but maybe you should try looking a little closer to home if you want a truly genuine person or relationship.

Lol. You sound exactly like me. I'm a junior now and while I could have had some girls by now they weren't the ones I wanted like you were just saying. I do tend to get a little nervous when dealing with girls I like, mainly along the lines of just analyzing everything that I am doing. I guess my thing is that I want to be in control and be able to have the girls that I want instead of being the one picked by them. And about the looking a little closer to home, I get bored with those really easy. I've tried talking to girls who I knew liked me but I didn't want anything more than friendship and eventually they just all got annoying to me.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

I'm not sure my social lifestyle is the problem. I have plenty of friends, I can go out whenever I feel like it and have a good time. I even have plenty of friends who are girls too but they are just that, friends. The ones I have interest in just want to be my friend too. Plenty of my friends even wonder why I'm not with anybody.



True. I've been trying to apply myself more but I still haven't seen the results that I'm looking for. I've been at this since seventh grade and not much has changed. When will it work?

OK, so tell us what have you been doing so far?

Rule #1 to success with women is to apply yourself...

 

[B0SS MAN]

OK, so tell us what have you been doing so far?

Rule #1 to success with women is to apply yourself...

Trying to keep everything lighthearted instead of being outcome dependent, more teasing, not texting back all the time, acting indifferent, trying to be more sexual, trying to connect to them on a life level, etc.