"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, this is the weirdest thing I've ever done.

The Pedantical

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I was in the mall today and I ran into a girl who was my classmate in college a couple of years ago and she was with some girlfriends.

So she's like "wow how are you?" but I felt kind of strange when I saw her, kind of like some kind of hangover.

So I'm like fine, whatever, yeah it's been two years how you doing, etc.

Then I'm like "you know, I don't really feel like talking to you. the only reason I was your friend back then was because I wanted to fck you but I was too chicken**** to admit it." She looked totally speechless, and I felt like a dumb idiot but it just came out like that in the middle of a a bull polite conversation.

Anyway I excused myself and walked away after a half-assed "good bye" feeling like a total idiot, but for some reason when I got back I actually felt pretty good about it... like, some kind of liberating feeling as if I had beaten the crap out of a punching bag. I'm not sure if it's the dumbest thing I've ever done or what, but it just came out like that... it's so unlike me tho because normally I'm shy as a kindergartner in an army boot camp. Looking back I'm pretty sure she knew the whole time what I wanted but hearing me saying it was probably the last thing she expected considering how shy I always am
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Splendidostring

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Haha, I can relate to that, it's something I like to call a "perfect moment". No mental barrier, just being true to yourself. Think of it as a special moment. It's funny when you think of it.
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

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That was great. Revel in your new contempt for weakness.

And you never know, you might run into that one later and hear "I was just like 'ohmygod!' when you said that!" with her eyes racing around and heart beating. I've been surprised in this way more than once
 

librito

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good job bro,,,,,, dont regret it at all cuase you didnt lose anything...you just gained some valor for the next challenge.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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