I never told her it was due to the fam. Just that I couldn't make it. She hardly caught me in a lie, and I didn't feel like I was lying. Given the options available to me, I preferred to do something else. As for her saying her fam wouldn't be there, she said it before I refused.. So there was no. "change of mind" on my part.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Well, this is a first
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think Peaks and Valleys hits it on the head.. with one minor quibble- although you are right that not calling her out for lying was a beta move I should have caught (honestly my mind was just exhasuted by that point) I tink her problem was most definitely the fams reaction to me.
I work at a hospital with a lot of Filipinos, and I asked them today, and they almost all said the same thing- family is VERY important and in the culture meeting the family and having your bf accepted by them is extremely important.
Despite our quick hookup she was obviously looking for LTR. So she was playing me as "just dating" and meanwhile setting me up for TR consideration. Maybe sensing if she approached ltr topic this early I would walk, she chose to lie.
I also asked my friends if they think a typical fillipina family would like me, they all laughed. They said what they wanted to see was someone who worshipped thier daughter and tried to impress them and showed he had serious intentions with her.
YEah, It's what PeaksandValley said.
I work at a hospital with a lot of Filipinos, and I asked them today, and they almost all said the same thing- family is VERY important and in the culture meeting the family and having your bf accepted by them is extremely important.
Despite our quick hookup she was obviously looking for LTR. So she was playing me as "just dating" and meanwhile setting me up for TR consideration. Maybe sensing if she approached ltr topic this early I would walk, she chose to lie.
I also asked my friends if they think a typical fillipina family would like me, they all laughed. They said what they wanted to see was someone who worshipped thier daughter and tried to impress them and showed he had serious intentions with her.
YEah, It's what PeaksandValley said.
Silence is always the path....
S she just sent me a very long text. Essentially, she was embarassed about what she did, and wrote an apology.
She says she did it because she just wanted to see me, and that once I got there she'd find a way for us to get away from them, but that once I got there she couldn't figure out how to be alone without making it weird. Admits it was a stupid thing to do and that she knew I was angry so she was scared to reach out and embarrassed
Haven't responded.. suggestions?
For the record, the goal is to make her a plate, not an ltr.
S she just sent me a very long text. Essentially, she was embarassed about what she did, and wrote an apology.
She says she did it because she just wanted to see me, and that once I got there she'd find a way for us to get away from them, but that once I got there she couldn't figure out how to be alone without making it weird. Admits it was a stupid thing to do and that she knew I was angry so she was scared to reach out and embarrassed
Haven't responded.. suggestions?
For the record, the goal is to make her a plate, not an ltr.
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That's a bull $hit excuse(which you probably know), she knew exactly what she was doing. Tough call. I'd sleep on it.6stringer said:
If you do see her again, she is going to have to make it up to you....and aplogize some more.