Well, I'm a boring person!

[KillingTime]

Anyone else? Seems like everyone my age (21) loves to party... not me amigo!
I find partying, going to bars, going to clubs etc. to be about as fun as having a root canal.
I like to stick to routine, I like to sleep early on weekends, maybe go watch a movie or something but still be back in pretty early, stay at home & watch tv or read a book etc. That's my idea of fun

Definately genetic b/c my dad is EXACTLY the same, I remember on new years when I was little they would always throw a big party at my familys place and he would always just go up to the tv room to be up there by himself, he looked so bored and annoyed.... I now understand b/c I've turned out exactly the same.

I don't like clubs, I don't like to travel, I don't like waterparks... man im boring lol, I just like to take it easy and be relaxed all the time.

I'm in a minority so I'm guessing this has a big negative impact with most women but oh well, that's me and that's what makes me happy.

 

[BlahBBlah]

i experience sort of the same thing. but I do like to get out and party or go to a bar once in a while too. yet i consider myself pretty boring. i mean i think of myself as an interesting person but most people don't seem to want to talk about what i usually like to talk about. and so yeah it can really hinder your social life in some ways. it's like you're almost forced to conform in order to have many friends and a gf, etc. i won't give into all of that though.

 

[KillingTime]

Yea, and it's not me even trying to be all "proper" or stuck-up or anything, I just literally find going out, partying etc. to be straight-up boring as all hell

 

[BlahBBlah]

well i think if you go with the right people then it can be a great experience. i've realized lately that there needs to be some sort of balance with social life and just chilling out, being alone, etc. but yeah it can be tough to have a good social life when you're considered boring by a lot of people.

 

[SamePendo]

Ok, I also am kind of like you, but reading a book is NOT my idea of having fun. I like parties in which you just talk, and in general I don't like any social reunion unless I am in a spotlight. Do you excercise?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You need to stop your wining and find something that you are passionate about; more than likely you are going to meet other people who enjoy the same thing. At least you'll have something positive to talk about instead wining like a woman....

The difference between winners and losers is that winners will do the things that losers refuse to do until they achieve what they want.

 

[THIAGO BRAZIL II]

and who wrote the rule

THOSE WHO DO NOT GO OUT AT NIGHT ARE BORING.

?????

thats a belief you must change in your mind.

I go out, go to bars and I can tell you, most of the ppl who visits these places are boring and stupid. It is absolutely rare to find a person in such places that can talk about a book, that can actually discuss about important subjects.

Any way, you can try going out.. just try it. Who knows what can happens? What if you like eletronic music and become a music DJ!

 

[Wiesman44]

it seems to me that he doesn't like social settings in general ? is that true, or am i reading too far into this ?

 

[KillingTime]

As far as exercising is concerned, well I'm an amateur bodybuilder so yea I workout juuuust a little lol

I don't think it's so much social settings that bother me,at least not that much, I'm just really really overly relaxed and like I said it runs in my dad's side of the family.
I mean take being at a club, I'm just standing around doing nothing, it's really loud so I can't even hear myself think.... I'd rather be at home in a nice, comfy chair watching something good on tv... or, grocery shopping even, as crazy as that one may sound at least I can look around at things, browse new magazines etc. It's almost like the things that relax most people have the opposite effect on me, and the things that most would find really boring really cheer me up and relax me
Back to my dad, his wife is always wanting to go out somewhere... where does he take her EVERY weekend? To Target or Wal-Mart to browse around, he loves doing that.. and I turned out that way too.

And I don't see how i'm whining, I'm just sitting here calmly talkin with ya'll

 

[BuckwildNYC]

You need to stop your wining and find something that you are passionate about; more than likely you are going to meet other people who enjoy the same thing. At least you'll have something positive to talk about instead wining like a woman....

The difference between winners and losers is that winners will do the things that losers refuse to do until they achieve what they want.

Honestly he really didn't sound like he was whining. He's just accepting the fact that he doesn't like being too social. That's OK, there are tons of introverted people in the world. Now granted, the girls aren't going to be beating down your door, but I'm sure there's a girl out there who would rather stay home and read a book just like you. Now, I'm not quite sure how you guys are gonna meet because you'll both be home reading books.

Don't they have book clubs or something? Maybe you should join one of those. Or maybe try internet dating. Just don't expect to be dating Jessica Alba look-a-likes any time soon. You have accepted your life and what you like, but understand that your likes are NOT mainstream. If you want a girl with a tight little body, she's probably not going to be the one reading books on a Saturday night.

 

[PumpNightmare]

I know what you mean, sort of. The few times my frined have take me to a party, I've had a ton of fun ,but I don't get out that often. I'm introverted myself, but the alchoho at the parties make everyone more interesting . But I do have problems coming up with something interesting to talk about when I'm around people I don't know. When you do nothing but study Japanese and play Pump It Up and watch anime/read manga, there's not that much bring up to a "normal" conversation. Plus I never can come up with anything funny. It took me a while to realize my jokes are lame...I'm one of the few students who'll genuinely get the professors jokes that no one else laughs at. ^^;;

 

[BlahBBlah]

i find that the less i care about what other people are thinking, the better time i have at social gatherings of any kind. it's hard for me to break out of the habit of overanalyzing everything, but i've been improving and i notice that i've been having a better time each time i go out. however i still don't like going out to places like clubs or bars too often because i just get bored of the shallow conversations after a while (i don't mind at all for a while but then it starts to get old).

 

[Duke]

Google "Myers Briggs personality" and take the test.

It sounds to me like you're an Introverted Thinker... which is totally cool, I'm the same way. If I go out to parties or whatever, it's usually a conscious effort from me so that I can develop my Feeling side and strengthen my other weak areas. It's not something I ever jump at.

I'd like to know you results after you take the test.

 

[El MonoLoco]

So what are you trying to get out of this post?????


just curious...

 

[Freewheelin Frank]

I kinda have the same problem. A lot of my interests aren't mainstream..

my ideas of fun:

-cooking(im going to be a chef)
-reading
-listening to music(this WOULD be mainstream except i dont listen to current mainstream music, i prefer classic rock, reggae, blues, bluegrass, and indie rock)
-working out(okay well this is fairly mainstream)
-languages. yes languages I already speak Spanish, some Italian, a little French, and a little Arabic.
-photography

I like to drink and do other things of a "recreational" nature, but I don't like to "party" per se.. if that makes sense. I guess you could say I dig the bottle, but not the bar lol

 

[KillingTime]

Dig the bottle but not the bar... haha, I couldn't have said it better

I'll take that personality test tomorrow and see what it says, introverted thinker definately sounds like me though.

I wasn't really trying to get much out of this post, just shootin the sh*t, but yea like someone else mentioned it IS a little harder to meet people with my personality type.

 

[El MonoLoco]

Well just figure out what you're trying to achieve and I'm sure someone around here can help you get there....


Cheers..

 

[Freewheelin Frank]

In my case before I can do anything else I think I need to conquer my fear of intimacy. Kino is the key so I need to learn how to do it before I can really move along I think..

 

[Sometimes]

Ummmm just a word of warning... if you keep saying im boring im boring im boring its gonna turn into a self fulfilling prophecy.

Instead why dont you focus on things in your character that are NOT boring. ie Likes to think, wide interests, likes to meditate in solitiude. Because seriously, your NOT boring. Your holding yourself back

ps im INTP yay

 

[onyx]

at the end of the day its who you are out with

before the last 8 months i used to go out just to get pissed...i would'nt even consider most of the guys i went out with my friends, then started going out with some other guys which were good friends but boring as **** to go clubbing with..

since i've been at uni i've been at uni met new friends and had so much fun, i mean now approaching girls aint even about having the confidence to do it, it just seems natural, even though i didn't have it before.

its strange but true

AT THE END OF THE DAY...
IF YOU WANNA BE SUCCESSFUL WITH GIRLS, ITS WHO YOU ASSOCIATE WITH, THE REST DOESN'T MATTER AS LONG AS YOU DRESS YOUR SELF DECENTLY, AND DONT BE OVER SHY