"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well, I think I effed this one up

slitherjef

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Today at work, the girl I had been talking to and got her number 2 days ago, well, I think I put an end to that. Over our previous chats she mentioned she was going to transfer to another store, but was now having problems because she needed a couple days off to get her stuff in another state, she had already made the plans, got the tickets and so on. Now the store she was going to transfer to decided not to give her the time off.

She seen me in the backroom today and said hello, I asked what was up and she proceeded to tell me she was probably just going to quit and not even transfer since the other store went back on what they said. We chatted a few and went our seperate ways. A bit later a buddy comes into the store and I decide to show him my camera. While I was showing him my camera, I pointed it at the girl I was talking to and said smile. She told me she was not into smiling because of the job situation. Okay, I can respect that. What I do next is proceed to f**k up

I head back to her department see she had just finished mopping up. I tell her she left a wetspot on the floor, to which see replied that was the point and kind of smiled. I proceed to screw things up:

Me: so what time you out of here?
Her: Right now
Me: Right now right now?
her: Yup
Me: hmmm, well Im out at 6:30, if you want to wait around till I get off, I could walk a bit that way with you since I am going in that direction
her *hesitates* I think I can manage by my self
Me: *knowing I just f**ked up, trying to make a save* Well, I can't *then I kind of grinned at her*
Her: *starts to smile*
Me: I knew I could get you to smile
Her: *smiles a bit more*
Me: Okay, well are you here tomorrow?
Her: yeah
Me: I guess I will see you tomorrow. Have a good one
Her: you to.
Me: Have fun *and I walk away kicking my self*

So there you have it. Im not sure what to do. I got her number and right now I am not sure how much damage I did. Maybe she just wanted to be alone so she could figure out what to do. I don't know. If I see her tomorrow (her last day) I will just play it off, still say hey and talk with her and stuff.

Right now I am not sure if I should just trash her number, or hang on to it and call in like a week then try to call.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yapper

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It doesn't sound to me like you screwed up that bad... Calm down buddy.
 
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