"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well, I think I effed this one up

slitherjef

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Today at work, the girl I had been talking to and got her number 2 days ago, well, I think I put an end to that. Over our previous chats she mentioned she was going to transfer to another store, but was now having problems because she needed a couple days off to get her stuff in another state, she had already made the plans, got the tickets and so on. Now the store she was going to transfer to decided not to give her the time off.

She seen me in the backroom today and said hello, I asked what was up and she proceeded to tell me she was probably just going to quit and not even transfer since the other store went back on what they said. We chatted a few and went our seperate ways. A bit later a buddy comes into the store and I decide to show him my camera. While I was showing him my camera, I pointed it at the girl I was talking to and said smile. She told me she was not into smiling because of the job situation. Okay, I can respect that. What I do next is proceed to f**k up

I head back to her department see she had just finished mopping up. I tell her she left a wetspot on the floor, to which see replied that was the point and kind of smiled. I proceed to screw things up:

Me: so what time you out of here?
Her: Right now
Me: Right now right now?
her: Yup
Me: hmmm, well Im out at 6:30, if you want to wait around till I get off, I could walk a bit that way with you since I am going in that direction
her *hesitates* I think I can manage by my self
Me: *knowing I just f**ked up, trying to make a save* Well, I can't *then I kind of grinned at her*
Her: *starts to smile*
Me: I knew I could get you to smile
Her: *smiles a bit more*
Me: Okay, well are you here tomorrow?
Her: yeah
Me: I guess I will see you tomorrow. Have a good one
Her: you to.
Me: Have fun *and I walk away kicking my self*

So there you have it. Im not sure what to do. I got her number and right now I am not sure how much damage I did. Maybe she just wanted to be alone so she could figure out what to do. I don't know. If I see her tomorrow (her last day) I will just play it off, still say hey and talk with her and stuff.

Right now I am not sure if I should just trash her number, or hang on to it and call in like a week then try to call.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yapper

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It doesn't sound to me like you screwed up that bad... Calm down buddy.
 
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