"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well, i need some help here

crazyman11

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But not the normal kind of help that you guys would give. The first paragraph is gonna be about this girl i met on a cruise, and the second one is what the problem is. Feel free to skip the first paragraph if you want.

Alright, well after dinner on the cruise, i took a flower from my table. I thought it would be a good way to pick up a girl. I had the flower for about 2 hours(Yes, i'm picky) until i saw HB9, i don't think i could have done any better than her. So i meet her in a club, give her the flower and we talk for about 5 minutes(the club was horrible for talking to people). After that, i did the robot(like from the chapelle show) and everyone wanted to talk to me, so i went out and walked around with my new amigos for a while, and they were damned funny. We ended up in the buffet at the cruise, and then i see HB9 again, with her 2 friends, a girl and a guy. I wasn't interested in the other girl and the guy was cool, he wasn't really trying to make any moves on the girls. So we talk from about 1:00 a.m to about 4:00. The next day, i did my normal stuff and then it was back to the club(I went there almost every night on the cruise) and then i saw her. I approached, and asked her why she wasn't dancing, she said she was waiting for me, but unfortunately i can't dance. I asked her to teach me, but she said no :( . Anyways, after the club closed, we went around with about 15 people and we were going to pull an all nighter. It was about 2 in the morning and everyone was going to try and stay up until 8, when the cruise was over. So eventually it is 5 in the morning, and it's me the girl, my cousin and the other guy i met the night before. We're trying to stay up, but eventually HB9 goes to bed, and i give her a hug. I feel like i should have asked for a good night kiss. The cruise was coming to an end, and every 5 minutes(is that bad?) i would check the buffet for her, to ask her for a kiss goodbye because we live about 7 hours away from each other, and we're probably never going to see each other again, besides on myspace.

Now, for the problem. I know i'm never going to see her again, and i feel bad that i didn't get to get my kiss goodbye. I couldn't be any more proud of myself with her, because it's a step up from what i usually do. I don't feel like doing anything, besides thinking about her, and i feel kind of sad. I need some words to cheer me up. So help me out you guys
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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penkitten

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what can i say man... what's done is done.
next time you find yourself in a situation like that, you can do things differently.

no sense in crying over spilled milk.
 

crazyman11

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Thanks for the help, but you know what really helps out? Just going outside, to the mall. It helped me realize that HB9 wasn't the only good looking girl out there. I just realized that i should move on, like penkitten said. She isn't totally off my mind, but at least i know that there are a lot more fish in the sea. Thanks for the help
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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