"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well...I messed up.

Moneytalks

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And I'm feeling a little sorry for myself.

Last night I met up with 2 old friends (2 of my best friends I haven't seen in 8 months or so) and another friend I don't know so well (Girl, HB8 or 9). I talk to her a lot on MSN but not so much on the phone or RL. It was her idea for us to hang out.

I went down to the meeting place and the girl got there first. I helped her up onto the top of the ramp. (Kino and general gentlemanly going on. +1 for me).
Whilst waiting for my 2 other mates, we just spoke a bit; she seemed to laugh a lot and I asked her how she was doing, if she's found a job yet, told her there're jobs going where I work (My current boss bought out the place I work at, and it's under refurbishent so I'm at their older hotel for "training"). She's kind of shy when you first meet up with her so I thought it went ok.
My mates turned up and we stayed on the ramp talking for a good 15 minutes before heading off.
She suggested that her and I go to London one day when we both have money as we could crash at my dad's.

So we all came back to mine and played on the wii. I got some kino going on with it by showing her what to do whilst playing tennis on wii sports. +1 point for me. Then I got a wee bit drunk and put on my gloves and had a go at the punch bag. She decided to come and have a go at it with me. "Great", I thought. Was I in there? Time would tell.

So after some drunken fun on the wii my mum kicked us out- because I have work in 4 hours from the time of writing this. That was 10:40pm.
We all left and I went with them. We sat on a bench, just talked for 25 minutes or so and drank some vodka.
We started walking and the 2 guys went their own way and I walked the girl home. +1 for me again. When we got there I was going to say hi to her mum because I work with her but she was asleep. I got a hug before she went in and I tried to kiss her but I think I was too drunk or she wasn't interested. I'm not sure.

Sorry for the wall of text. I'm just frustrated because I know if my 2 other mates weren't there I would've been ok with her. I just wanted them to be there because she's good friends with them to and I didn't want her to feel awkward about coming back to my room the first time we hung out together, well...properly. We've hung out and talked at parties and such.

Rant over. Sorry if it didn't make sense. I'm a little drunk still and only had 3 hours sleep. :eek:
 

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