"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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well, did i F*ck up again?

kevin1198

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After a failure with a HB in second block. (all i did was smile and give her a whats up nod, to which i received a nasty look that i tried to play off)
I talked to a girl in 3rd whom expressed interest in me. we made some conversation and convinced her to try out a new hairstyle for me. she did, but i wasnt around to see it. skip to the next day.

I decided to make a move. me being me i waited till the end of class hoping i wouldnt have to hit on her in front of her friends (and EX) and hesitation grew within me. I decided to go balls out and as i tried to contain my nervousness, went up and put my arm around her and negged her for not having the hairstyle for me that day. I dont think it went well with her but she said she would date me.

next day, being the last day of spring break, i said F*ck it and asked what she was doing over spring break. I then invited her to go to the shooting range. I gave her my number and she texted me. This is how it went.

HB: Kevin?
Me: Good guess. whose this?
HB: It's HB
Me:haha, did you think i gave you the wrong number?
(No response) and hour later after my workout i texted
Me:If i dont have work sunday we can make some noise on the range.
HB:i thought you did.
HB: sorrii i didnt text back sooner. i misplaced my phone.

where did i screw up and how can i fix this if i did? i dont know why but i feel like im slowly digging myself into a hole here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Brotip: Calm the **** down.

To me it seems you did perfectly fine. Don't let your anxiety about ****ing up, well, **** you up.
 

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DJ_Hero said:
The one thing that sticks out for me is that face that you're taking a girl to a shooting range. It's not necessarily bad, just a pretty "unique" place to bring a date. :p
haha. well theres not much to do where i live. and i remember reading a post about how action dates are the best. So naturally my first option is the gun cabinet. i thought it was pretty creative haha
 

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Lol, that actually is a pretty creative date. Completely out of the ordinary as well. Tell us how it goes.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Good luck, sounds better than some instances I've heard bro! She's just playing coy. :D
 
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