"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well...crap.

Mr. Sarcasm

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So about two months ago, I visited a friend at home and met his sister. She's hawt, has a great personality and is a pervert. 9/10. One problem, she's younger than me.

So anyway, a couple of days later, I add her on facebook and MSN. We chat every day, mostly due to me starting our convo's...anyway. At the beginning, she was pretty flirty, telling me her favourite pose during sex (69) then the stuff she'd do to me and all...so, last thursday, we met up, made out, and split up. Ever since that day, she's been acting different. Not flirty, constantly puts my ****y act down... She's acting pretty distant...

Worst thing of all is, I think I'm getting oneitis for her.

Any help?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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You were chatting every day and you were the one initiating every time? First mistake. After that, perhaps making out with her killed all the mystery, and she's over the whole thing. What made you not escalate further than that given all your sex talk? Maybe she saw that you were a big talker online but couldn't back it up in person.
 

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how do u get a girl to start a convo on msn and stuff?? i always start mines which is bad and i wanna know how to get the girl to start it
 

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Ectomorph said:
how do u get a girl to start a convo on msn and stuff?? i always start mines which is bad and i wanna know how to get the girl to start it
I have this problem alot as well.
 

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Hahaha! Supreme and Ectomorph do i really have to be an arsehole and point out the obvious??? yes i do. You can't just get a chick to start it

To get them to start conversation, they are going to have to WANT to talk to you. so yes you were thinking right they most likely don't want to talk to you.

Just as a tip wait maybe 5 minutes at least give them a chance to initiate MSN conversations.

Then again they could be waiting for you to initiate so after that 5-10 minutes initiate you really have nothing to lose they aren't going to like you less or more for initiating, they either do or they don't and if they do you can get away with initiating just don't do it all the time. Just leave it up to them sometimes and by the way don't go on MSN too much you'll look like a loser just appear offline until someone interesting comes on.

Anyway enough about MSN tips i'll try help you.

By what you said it sounds like someone had the balls to talk a lot about sex and stuff over MSN and not enough balls to do it in person. Could be you could be her, i don't know you decide. But if your excuse is "but, she didn't escalate herself, she didn't put herself out there" you failed dude, you missed your chance. She said that stuff over MSN which means she does want it just doesn't portray it in person but trust me if they say it on MSN/Txting ect... they WANT it, just ain't got the balls to do it in person. Get used to this like every single girl does it and don't go thinking "maybe she's changed her mind" because she hasn't but if she says "no" thats completely okay, just back off. You've lost nothing, you weren't going to get anything.

Other then that i don't think she like you anymore man, hard luck. Just move along bro forget this girl cut all connection. That should get you over her.

Good luck
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheBucketOfTruth said:
You were chatting every day and you were the one initiating every time? First mistake. After that, perhaps making out with her killed all the mystery, and she's over the whole thing. What made you not escalate further than that given all your sex talk? Maybe she saw that you were a big talker online but couldn't back it up in person.
Oi, I might be open to open-air sex, but she, sadly, ain't...

Anyway, we did talk about sex in person. Hm, you might be right about me killing the mystery... But I think I've still got a shot. I won't see her for about two months, or hear from her, cuz she's out for the summer. I can use this to eradicate my oneitis, move on, and be prepared for her, xD.

Just kidding, I still have the oneitis, but I'll get rid of it. Still, after the summer ends, she's mine, I don't give a fvck.
 

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You chatted with her every day and it sounds like you made your self too available, thats where you slipped up. If she is as " hawt " and as flirty as you say she is, she probably has plenty of other guys tying to get in her *****.
 

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Castrate yourself with a kitchen knife.

That's probably the easiest way to kill oneitis.

And well, forget about her, turn the page, meet someone else.

You don't have oneitis, you're just excited. I have a girlfriend and I sometimes get excited with other girls. It's fine, just move on.
 
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