"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well... Being a pervert has finally gotten me in trouble with the law.

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I hope to God (and have prayed that) nothing will actually come of this, but let this be a lesson to everyone - young and old.

I was on OkCupid last night - browsing horny and without sense, and I send a message to a girl that I had exchanged a couple messages with. It said: "give me your phone number and I'll send you nude pics" (I'm one of those perverts that gets off on sending/receiving pics). She immediately messaged me back her phone number, and I sent a confirmation text saying: "if I send my pics are you going to return the favor?" Her response being: "sure." I send my pics, and she responds with: "sending to police."

I honestly thought she was just f*cking with me and trying to scare me, but the next morning I have a message in my cell from a deputy at a sheriff's department about an hour away: "This is deputy so-and-so. Give me a call back at (number)."

Now, I've researched this cvnt thoroughly and have found her full name, Facebook, twitter, and other dating site account, and her age on everything is 20 (birthday December 1992). If something bad does happen, hopefully the charges won't be too serious because she's over the legal age. She also gave consent for the pics two different times (on OkCupid and through text). With her age and consent, I should technically not be charged for anything, since sexting between two consenting adults is perfectly legal, but you know our terrible legal system...

Oh, and I returned the deputy's call but couldn't get a hold of him. Probably a good thing, because I've sought out advice on the matter and just about EVERYONE has said to ignore the police completely until/unless they arrest you, then ask for an attorney before answering any questions (if it comes to that).

I've also screen-capped her profile to prove her age. Unfortunately I deleted the texts because I thought it was a joke and she wasn't seriously going to do it. I wonder what she told the police? And I wonder why a department an hour away is contacting me? There's literally a police department right down the road...

I know my behavior was stupid. I've already deleted every pic on my phone and in my e-mail. Literally EVERY picture that could be considered even the slightest bit obscene. I will NEVER send another picture.

Anyways... Advice is appreciated if you think it would help me. And yes, I know what I did was idiotic, but in my defense she's 20 and asked for them and we all do stupid sh!t once in a while...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Slickster said:
How old are you?
25.

bradd80 said:
John, legally speaking statutory rape and child protection laws are very strict in the sense that you mistakenly thinking that the girl was of age is not a viable defense. It's generally an absolute liability offense, and even if the girl lied to you this will usually not absolve you of the crime.

That being said, I think the cop will just have a word with you and issue a warning. Next time, build a little bit of rapport before send nude pics of yourself. On second thought why the hell are you sending nude pics of yourself to a girl first?

You should always be the one getting nude pics, and NEVER the one sending them.
Hopefully that's the case. I'm not a criminal nor a sexual predator in any way, shape, or form. Just a horny idiot. And it's always possible that she's underage (God I hope not...), but even her Facebook said 20 (December 1992 birthday) and I don't think you need to lie on there to make an account. Her PoF also said she has an Associates Degree.

F*cking sigh this is such bullsh!t. What kind of a sick and twisted person would do this to someone for no reason?
 

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Lol this is bullsh!t. She probably just got a random dude to call you and act like the police. There's no way in hell you're gonna get in trouble for this. However if you showed your face in the pic then yes you're a massive idiot.
 

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JoeMarron said:
Lol this is bullsh!t. She probably just got a random dude to call you and act like the police. There's no way in hell you're gonna get in trouble for this. However if you showed your face in the pic then yes you're a massive idiot.
I sent one non-nude pic where my face was visible from the side. The others had no face showing.

And I don't think it's fake unless she knows a guy at the station. The number he gave was legit (for the station) and the guy who picked up put me on hold to look for the deputy. Not only that, but I called the number the deputy called me from (with another phone) and the person who picked up said: "blah county sheriff's department."

Once again, I don't see how they could possibly prove I've done anything "illegal" or "wrong." Even if they did look at the texts on her phone they'd see that she gave consent.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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had to be a guy trolling you
 

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JoeMarron said:
Lol this is bullsh!t. She probably just got a random dude to call you and act like the police. There's no way in hell you're gonna get in trouble for this. However if you showed your face in the pic then yes you're a massive idiot.
My brother is a cop. He said no way in fcuking hell would a police officer CALL someones personal cell and leave a message LOL!!!!! Are you kidding me? If you were truly in trouble you would get a knock on your door. Also if your gonna send **** don't send it with your face lol
 

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spiegel549 said:
My brother is a cop. He said no way in fcuking hell would a police officer CALL someones personal cell and leave a message LOL!!!!! Are you kidding me? If you were truly in trouble you would get a knock on your door. Also if your gonna send **** don't send it with your face lol
He also said the department that called him is an hour away. Why would a department an hour away be doing the investigation?
 

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I gotta agree with Brad here. It's pretty fvcking weird to be sending nude pics to unknown chicks on the Internet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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spiegel549 said:
My brother is a cop. He said no way in fcuking hell would a police officer CALL someones personal cell and leave a message LOL!!!!! Are you kidding me? If you were truly in trouble you would get a knock on your door.
That's not true. I sold a car and the person apparently didn't transfer the title over so the VIN still traced back to me. Something happened involving the car and a detective from the city police called my cell phone a couple times bugging me about it. No police ever came to my home. Police and detectives don't always come out in person when they chase down every lead.

I think it's pure BS that if a girl identifies herself as being over 18, that you should still be charged for sexual contact with a minor.
 

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I think it's pure BS that if a girl identifies herself as being over 18, that you should still be charged for sexual contact with a minor.
Me too, but after looking at her pages (including Facebook and Twitter), I'm quite positive that she IS, in fact, 20 years old, and I'm thinking she filed a complaint with the police saying that I sent her the pics without consent (which isn't true). If this is the case, which I would bet (and at this point hope) it is, she is technically guilty of entrapment and filing a false police report.
 

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Stagger Lee said:
That's not true. I sold a car and the person apparently didn't transfer the title over so the VIN still traced back to me. Something happened involving the car and a detective from the city police called my cell phone a couple times bugging me about it. No police ever came to my home. Police and detectives don't always come out in person when they chase down every lead.

I think it's pure BS that if a girl identifies herself as being over 18, that you should still be charged for sexual contact with a minor.
A cop can call and leave a message about something like a car vin sure because its not a big deal.

A cop will not call and leave a message about something pertaining to child protection laws...you will get a knock on your door lol.
 

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spiegel549 said:
A cop can call and leave a message about something like a car vin sure because its not a big deal.

A cop will not call and leave a message about something pertaining to child protection laws...you will get a knock on your door lol.
How do you know the car owner thing wasn't a big deal? It depends on what the matter was involving the car-vehicular manslaughter, felony hit and run etc. I agree if she was a minor, they wouldn't just call but would probably show up and arrest him. Why are you assuming she's a minor and it pertains to child protection laws, though? There's no evidence she is a minor. The point is cops do sometimes call people to chase down leads and for minor issues, etc.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That was me on line at the courthouse, you bastard! I'll never forgive you for that!!
;)
 

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JoeMarron said:
Lol this is bullsh!t. She probably just got a random dude to call you and act like the police. There's no way in hell you're gonna get in trouble for this. However if you showed your face in the pic then yes you're a massive idiot.
this.

Most women online looking for sex are dudes, and probably bored dudes who are going to play people like you and make you think you are cops.

Even worst case this broad sent a picture to a police officer, what can they charge you with? you have not committed any sexual acts, nor have you broken the law. **** man, they don't even know who you are. Tell them to press charges or fvck off.
 
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