Welcome to beta land..

[PeakIV]

For the OP, try this:

Neighbor: Wow, you live alone? Don't you get lonely?

Peak: Yea sometimes, but then I just order a couple hookers.

classic - must tell that to my 90 yr old neighbour couple!

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Peak,

How's it going? Just wanted you to know that what you're hearing is pretty normal. People are usually set in their ways and many never question anything. They just accept traditions without asking themselves "Why am I doing this?". Some traditions are useful and good, others are limiting and create slaves or people that are living only 1/10 th of the life they could be enjoying.

My uncle married once about twenty years ago. Before that he had girlfriends and live-in girlfriends. The woman he married was attractive but they divorced and she took him for half of everything he'd worked his whole life to accumulate. They'd only been married for maybe 3 or 4 years TOPS. No more than that. He never remarried but he enjoyed being the consummate bachelor.

He lived comfortably and was good at saving money. He enjoyed being alone and his privacy and he also enjoyed female companionship whenever he wanted it. I think that there were probably a lot of guys his age that would loved to have traded places with him. Men in unhappy marriages who have ZERO freedom. Men who are slaving away to support an ungrateful wife who don't even have freedom to do anything on their free time (because they allowed their balls to be cut off).

Anyway, when he died about 3 or 4 years ago, women came out of the woodwork to his funeral. He was close to 70. I think he was 67. He'd had a heart attack. I'm just telling you about him because he didn't do what everyone else was doing and was pretty happy with his life. And he got to enjoy certain freedoms that most men give up.

Of course, it doesn't surprise me that most of the comments you're hearing are from women. I bet a lot of your male friends secretly wish they were in your position.

This is awesome! How I would like to be minus losing half-of-my-sh1t.

OP -- Brotha, I see this sh1t already at age 27. Most of my friends whom I've known a long time are already getting married, having babies, in very serious LTRS and putting down the 'framework' to buckle-down the next X decades with their woman. That's cool--some of them seem genuinely happy--others I know have their balls on a dish and the woman controls.

Some of them maybe needed it -- they were reckless, crazy, did obscene things. These women tell them to drink less, do less crazy things -- a lot of men seem to want a 'mommy' to tell them what is best for them. Maybe that is why the stereotype of 'helpless Male' comes about.

It's unfortunate. I don't see too many guys taking charge of their lives or their women. These men choose slavery because they know nothing else. They're nothing but a shell of their former selves. Actually, this reminds me of a short video I saw on YouTube. It cracked me up!

http://youtu.be/zN7tF8W1B2E

:crackup: :crackup: WTF this dude is in mental prison!! Married the wrong woman and just suffers through it!!!

 

[origin138]

Someone please Explain?
Am I a freak? I have a successful business , own my own home and live alone (got out of a LTR 10 months ago - (bit gun shy, cluster B , you know the score)

Working on myself , happy with myself ,being on my own etc... realised that if you are not happy with yourself love yourself you can't be happy with someone else bla bla bla...

All the people in my street and friends who I know are in relationships either marriages or pretty sad relationships most just bumbling along very co-dependent types. seems like they can't survive without the other.

The thing is everybody keeps saying things to me like...

"What, you live on your own?"

" I can't believe you don't have a girlfriend?"

"why don't you have a girlfriend?"

"what's it like living on your own? you must get really lonely? !!"

WTF is happening out there ? It seems that if you are over 40 and single there must be something wrong with you.

I am 6ft - 12 stone, ( in other words not short or fat) above average looking and believe it or not happy doing my own sh*t.

I refuse to compromise on seeing someone if we don't click or I don't fancy them just to get some sex.....

If and when I meet someone to compliment my life and have fun with then so be it...

I sometimes ask my male friends if they want to do something on the weekend (like play a game of tennis) and they always say il get get back to you because I have to check with the wife or girlfriend!

It seems they can't make a decision for themselves...

Like I said welcome to beta-land....

This is a good post, we must live in the exact same place.

Rollo made a great post about this a while back and for the life of me I can't find the link. But he essentially said that the average beta male goes from mommy to wife with no time in between to really establish themselves as strong, independently-minded men. So they let their women dictate the terms and they just follow along just to keep the peace and get some vag.

Your life shows you've taken another road, and you're stronger because of it.

Men will judge you far less for your decisions simply because we don't really give a fvck.

Women, because of their hamsters, will ALWAYS ponder the "why's" in your life. My longest relationship was 5 years. And even in the last year, she was STILL asking WHY? Remember, you don't owe anyone an explanation for the decisions you've made and the paths you've taken. At the end of the day, you answer to yourself. If you're satisfied with that answer, that's all that matters.

To deal with the women, come up with some strong, clever responses because you know they'll be asked. Solid game will shut them up. If they can't let go of the "why", then you let them go because of the "why".

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Her: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

You: "Because I practice polyamory"

IDK, lol, there's gotta be other posters who could give you some solid responses to these dumb questions...

Origin hit it on the head, "why", "why"...I have had this first-hand and its' all just BS so they can try and 'peg you'

THey want to sniff out your reasons and label you...suck away your power and pigeon hole you....avoid answering their BS AT ALL COSTS

 

[Aristippus]

"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

A few answers:

"Because I'm picky."
"Because I value my freedom."
"Because I have high standards."
"Because I don't want to commit to one woman."
"I love women and don't want to make promises that I can't keep."
"Because I don't want a girlfriend. I'd rather just date around for a while."

The truth is that a long-term relationship is a form of commitment. You're usually committing to be just with that person while you're her lover. That's the standard for most romantic relationships. The truth is that you are picky. You really do value your freedom. You wouldn't just jump into bed with some woman who made you sick to your stomach or who had a repulsive personality. You DO have standards. All of these statements are absolutely TRUE.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Peak,
You are one of the new Pathfinders......Sure in the past A Man could live without Women,but it took a lot of mazooma....Take Lord Curzon a well known rake of the Post WW1 era.....Things started getting a bit tight for his Lordship and his accountant told him to cut down on his personal staff...First in the gunsights was his Pastry Cook!....GodFathers he cried,"It's come to something when a fellow can't have a biscuit with his Sherry when he comes home after a night out!"....He had a horde of flunkies....Read your Sherlock Holmes....He had Mrs Hudson prepare breakfast,lunch and Dinner....Do all the domestics....Why!because just basic living took a lot of time and energy those days...Prior to the Whitegoods Revolution of the late fifties,there were no refrigerators,washing machines,dryers,microwaves,blenders Few cars...These all basically derived,from the mass production methods of WW2 and the US influence...And so one really did need servants or a wife, to do for you...Today this is no longer the case...I am able to access a standard of living my Parents could only be amazed at....In 20 minutes a week I do more efficiently all the washing,that took up my Mother and Sisters,Mondays... I could go on,ad nauseum...But the point is,that Socialogically speaking we lag behind the technologies that create our life styles...Unless you want Children,or are incapacitated,you simply don't want a Woman cluttering up your home!

 

[PeakIV]

careful scaramouche - you will put crazy ideas into the guys heads out there.....there will be guys as we speak reading this looking accross at their ball and chain working out how to take the red pill and get rid of her....

how many guys are sitting in unfulfilled relationships married or otherwise thinking - is this it?

to Aristippus -

"Because I'm picky."
"Because I value my freedom."
"Because I have high standards."
"Because I don't want to commit to one woman."
"I love women and don't want to make promises that I can't keep."
"Because I don't want a girlfriend. I'd rather just date around for a while."

Ditto the above.....

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Living alone is on the rise all over the world.

Peak IV just in time man: http://www.economist.com/node/21560844

Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After
http://www.amazon.com/Singled-Out-S...igmatized/dp/0312340826/ref=cm_cr_dp_asin_lnk

Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone
http://www.amazon.com/Going-Solo-Extraordinary-Surprising-Appeal/dp/1594203229

:rockon:

 

[Burroughs]

how many guys are sitting in unfulfilled relationships married or otherwise thinking - is this it?

I often laugh and think to myself what if there was an annual get out of marriage free day for a man...

one day where any married man can pack up and leave with no consequences from the law or anyone...the man could never see his wife or kids again, he would have to give up the house, but he could take all his money and just run

I'd bet 50,000 dollars that half the men in so called 'happy marriages' who 'love their kids' would take this option.

most men are so resigned to the slavery that is western marriage that they have to invent reasons to get up in the morning and not blow their brains out...I see it in my married friends...its sad.

oh and i would give the same right to women but they wouldn't take it....first because the biatches couldn't keep the house...two because most women marry men faaar wealthier than they are and the woman could never live off of her own earned monies in the style they have become accustomed

what you shouldn't be is deluding yourself, like saying you don't give a crap about finding a wife but are always thinking about a family.. you get the point.

most men want marriage...until they are married...then they want out :kick:

Now where the hell do you get one of those!!??

1912

 

[st_99]

when it comes to being single the only thing that matters is that you're honest with yourself.

do i want a girlfriend? a wife? want to be dating a handful of girls? don't care about girls?

then with your honest answer you can say how do i get to where i want to be.

what you shouldn't be is deluding yourself, like saying you don't give a crap about finding a wife but are always thinking about a family.. you get the point.

 

[PeakIV]

Honest.....I don't want a wife . I have 1 child -26 ( I was young and stupid and got trapped) - left home a long time ago and happily married.

I don't want any more kids - no.
a girlfriend? sure, I aint a priest...

someone who can compliment my life and to have fun with who is articulate, intelligent, speaks well, beautiful, a who*e in the bedroom and a lady in the kitchen.

Now where the hell do you get one of those!!??

 

[Buddha_Mind]

someone who can compliment my life and to have fun with who is articulate, intelligent, speaks well, beautiful, a who*e in the bedroom and a lady in the kitchen.

Now where the hell do you get one of those!!??

lol -- you inform us younger men when you figure out the answer to that question.

 

[Colossus]

Something I've figured out in the last year is that women really are the most judgmental of the sexes. They are pervasively judgemental, about everyone. That's where the "whys" come in. Like Buddah said they have this innate need to peg you...they subjectively piece together bits of information to explain why you arent living like them.

Never apologize for the way you are living your life. You owe nobody an explanation. All you have to say to that annoying question is that you enjoy your life the way it is. Let them think whatever they want.