Welcome to beta land..

[PeakIV]

Someone please Explain?
Am I a freak? I have a successful business , own my own home and live alone (got out of a LTR 10 months ago - (bit gun shy, cluster B , you know the score)

Working on myself , happy with myself ,being on my own etc... realised that if you are not happy with yourself love yourself you can't be happy with someone else bla bla bla...

All the people in my street and friends who I know are in relationships either marriages or pretty sad relationships most just bumbling along very co-dependent types. seems like they can't survive without the other.

The thing is everybody keeps saying things to me like...

"What, you live on your own?"

" I can't believe you don't have a girlfriend?"

"why don't you have a girlfriend?"

"what's it like living on your own? you must get really lonely? !!"

WTF is happening out there ? It seems that if you are over 40 and single there must be something wrong with you.

I am 6ft - 12 stone, ( in other words not short or fat) above average looking and believe it or not happy doing my own sh*t.

I refuse to compromise on seeing someone if we don't click or I don't fancy them just to get some sex.....

If and when I meet someone to compliment my life and have fun with then so be it...

I sometimes ask my male friends if they want to do something on the weekend (like play a game of tennis) and they always say il get get back to you because I have to check with the wife or girlfriend!

It seems they can't make a decision for themselves...

Like I said welcome to beta-land....

 

[blindnowisee]

Two scenarios here:

1- You're happy with life. If so: who gives a shiz what other people think?
2- You're unhappy with life and you're ranting. Change / Adapt and see 1.

Whilst you're figuring out which one applies to you:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zB9LBFDXiQU

 

[PeakIV]

number 1 - and the reason it's number 1 is that it is only now with my eyes open and that much older that I am looking at other people with a fresh perspective having lived in beta land myself for so long.

didn't mean it to sound like a rant , it was just more of a question really and an observation of what was happening around me.

No I don't give a shi* what they think , I am just finding it a bit wierd, as if I am not conforming to society ( all the questions are coming from women by the way..)

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Peak,
Early days yet....If you have your own home,a reliable car,earn enough to survive?What else is there?.....whatever it is trading your Independence to own it isn't worth the candle!....A guy like you,once he knows the Ropes will find the World is his Oyster...Who wants a Woman under his feet?

 

[Aristippus]

Peak,

How's it going? Just wanted you to know that what you're hearing is pretty normal. People are usually set in their ways and many never question anything. They just accept traditions without asking themselves "Why am I doing this?". Some traditions are useful and good, others are limiting and create slaves or people that are living only 1/10 th of the life they could be enjoying.

My uncle married once about twenty years ago. Before that he had girlfriends and live-in girlfriends. The woman he married was attractive but they divorced and she took him for half of everything he'd worked his whole life to accumulate. They'd only been married for maybe 3 or 4 years TOPS. No more than that. He never remarried but he enjoyed being the consummate bachelor.

He lived comfortably and was good at saving money. He enjoyed being alone and his privacy and he also enjoyed female companionship whenever he wanted it. I think that there were probably a lot of guys his age that would loved to have traded places with him. Men in unhappy marriages who have ZERO freedom. Men who are slaving away to support an ungrateful wife who don't even have freedom to do anything on their free time (because they allowed their balls to be cut off).

Anyway, when he died about 3 or 4 years ago, women came out of the woodwork to his funeral. He was close to 70. I think he was 67. He'd had a heart attack. I'm just telling you about him because he didn't do what everyone else was doing and was pretty happy with his life. And he got to enjoy certain freedoms that most men give up.

Of course, it doesn't surprise me that most of the comments you're hearing are from women. I bet a lot of your male friends secretly wish they were in your position.

 

[Burroughs]

I'm 20 years younger than you and I see this all around me....everyone fearful...scrambling to get hitched to the nearest warm body.

The thing to remember is most people live their entire lives in a fear based paradigm...never bothering to figure out their own path for success.

You have done that...naturally the closet haters around you will wonder how you did it 'without a wife' lol. the fear based sheeple don't realize they are in fact sheeple. They look at you as an anomaly...'hey i got married how come he didn't get married!'....

..you are lucky to be older....in my generation every dude is a beta, facebook plugged in faggot...men have become biatches unable to wipe their azz unless they have a wife...the wife might even hate their guts...but 'at least i have a wife.'

 

[disgustipated]

Buddy of.mine, the guy that took him and his brother in was like this. I would spend a lot of weekends there. He would always take us to dinner and a sporting event. Great guy! Divorced. But I never saw him with or speak about women. He didn't need them it appeared. At that young age it intrigued me. My guess is he hooked up when he was out of town. Both his boys grew up to have their affairs in order, dictate terms to their women too. I get it now. Or get him now.

As with me,.maybe these people are generally intrigued? Respectfully intrigued. Not like how dare he think he can't supplicate but rather, how can he do the things he does by himself? A lot people don't have that confidence to do things solo.

 

[Aristippus]

Burroughs,

It almost seems like a good share of people have this need for things to be laid out for them. I wonder if it isn't an evolutionary thing, on a behavioral level. They simply have the rules already laid out and don't have to think. It almost reminds me of how instincts work. You don't think. You just compulsively engage in the instinctive behavior.

When people have to create new rules or figure things out for themselves, they're entering into new, unknown territory. It takes a lot of thought to change the rules or to determine a path that hasn't already been mapped for you.

 

[Burroughs]

@Aristippus

I agree....the need is like an instinct....but i look at it this way....in the western world we have affluence such as never been fathomed in human history....easy access to food, leisure, transportation. This should give us the time to think, but as an instinct it doesn't happen

it does take a lot of thought to think of new ways.

but if we refuse to think we open ourselves to real horrors.

Media, television is a powerful influence....the fact that 99% of western women are plugged into facecrack at all times cannot be underemphasized. And for most men having women around is a big deal...but women don't think...they group think women are creatures of society...true men are individualists who pay society no mind...but modern man has become follower to women and in that way lies nothing. Nothing but shopping at target, honey do lists, and beta-tude

 

[Aristippus]

Burroughs,

Yeah. I agree. And we can also choose which instincts or which predispositions we choose to develop and encourage. Humans can be fearful and subservient or independent and free. People can be violent and ugly, or peaceful and creative.

You can choose which parts of human nature you want to develop. Which parts you want to encourage. People can think negatively or positively. Be empowered or disempowered. Again, it's the same thing. What are you feeding your mind? What you feed your mind will determine whether you are a positive or negative person. Whether you're empowered or disempowered. Happy or sad.

If you're not the master of your own house, your house will control you. You have to tame your wild horses and lead them in the direction you want them to go. Most people don't do this.

 

[PeakIV]

all you guys - Kudos , sort of what I was thinking but until I came out of the beta fog I never really thought about it or thought it was really that bad.

great posts guys especially Burroughs -

"but modern man has become follower to women and in that way lies nothing. Nothing but shopping at target, honey do lists, and beta-tude"

so true..


I don't do facecrack or ****ter - lots of people posting and writing rather than doing - "oh look at what a great time i'm having!" .....not

 

[georgie24]

be careful where you live in wich the High functioning Sucessful Beta male is popular or the " standard"

Examine your surroundings you be suprised how big of a percentage of the guys in town are beta phaggots whom sometimes wear a " bad boy" jacket mostly on weekends

the more you look or pay attention to other beta males you can start your transformation from that point

YOU HAVE TO SEE IT AND SPOT IN OTHER MALES BEHAVIOR FIRST !

 

[HalfAddict]

I am not nearly as successful as you and yet I get the same **** when I say I'd rather work out....****em buncha leashed up chumps.

 

[sodbuster]

FUNNY, right after my Divorce, all the women I knew were trying to set me up with their fat friends, crazy friends, etc. They seem to have given up after 5 years. I told them "IF I ever marry again, it's going to be a good deal for ME,not the other way around"

 

[Burroughs]

be careful where you live in wich the High functioning Sucessful Beta male is popular or the " standard"

Examine your surroundings you be suprised how big of a percentage of the guys in town are beta phaggots whom sometimes wear a " bad boy" jacket mostly on weekends

the more you look or pay attention to other beta males you can start your transformation from that point

YOU HAVE TO SEE IT AND SPOT IN OTHER MALES BEHAVIOR FIRST !

very good point.

the good looking beta does MUCH better than the slightly handsome alpha in the numbers game

actually the high functioning well trained beta faggot is what most young hotties want....they want the harvard rower or football player, with a trust fund who will do anything she wants including buying her numerous pairs of gucci and prada...this is what most hotties think they deserve...and many hb10 dudes aspire to be this dude...just because you are a 10hb male in looks doesn't mean you are an alpha and can control frame.

but it doesn't matter

a good looking beta will get far more attention than even a 8 or 9 alpha male..this is one of the disturbing parts of society...women because of media brainwashing actually want tight jeaned, faggots with trust funds, who look justin timberlake and kiss their asses (until they get bored and cheat on them lol)

this is why most dudes play the beta game and enslave themselves to chicks....they just want a women even if she despises him to keep him company when old age comes...LOL...of course she'll divorce him and take his $$ long before old age comes...but the beta faggot doesn't see that far ahead

 

[Colossus]

Yeah few phrases are more annoying than "I gotta ask the wife/gf". One of my gym buddies is like that. Guy wont even come out for a night of beers unless she is at work. Love the guy but that is such a puss frame.

 

[Night-hawk]

Colossus, I find guys who talk like that annoying too. What's lame about it is that the guy comes across like he's 'mature' cause he has a woman, or that he thinks it cute, but usually it's a way for a guy to cover up his needing his girl's approval, because he's worried he will go out and will have to be on full reserve to avoid any hassles with his girlfriend, and therefore feeling like a wuss because he knows he doesn't like to but will have to appease his girl and seek her approval. Hahaha, I find the most annoying one is when guys call their gf's "the 'ol lady', "Gotta check with the 'ol lady'.

Many of us have went down the girlfriend experience route and seeing where it took us, we step back and question the conventions around it and decide rather than following the typical male persuits we choose to grow in our own rules. In a way many of us rebel against the conventional relationship, and dispel the labels and stigmas that surround it that have kept many a guy finding his role as man in relationship dictated by social standards, media, etc, and the illusions that crept upon us by living under them. This, ultimately forms the identity of your fellow male who becomes drapped in a woman so much he forgets what life as a signle entity is like, therefore projecting his beliefs and conditions on other guys to justify his choice in being with one woman and in a relationship.

Do your thing, man.

 

[Aristippus]

It's unfortunate. I don't see too many guys taking charge of their lives or their women. These men choose slavery because they know nothing else. They're nothing but a shell of their former selves. Actually, this reminds me of a short video I saw on YouTube. It cracked me up!

http://youtu.be/zN7tF8W1B2E

 

[georgie24]

It's unfortunate. I don't see too many guys taking charge of their lives or their women. These men choose slavery because they know nothing else. They're nothing but a shell of their former selves. Actually, this reminds me of a short video I saw on YouTube. It cracked me up!

http://youtu.be/zN7tF8W1B2E

the guy in vids wreaks of ALPHA ! :rockon:

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Here's my take:

Women are programmed to pair bond (at least long enough to raise Jr. to a decent age), men are programmed to fvck.

However, unless men actually reach MANHOOD, which means they FULLY REALIZE they, and only they, are responsible for their lives, there's still an unconscious remnant of the need for MOMMY.

For most men, after their women's pvssy loses it's luster, she still fulfills his not yet outgrown need for MOMMY. That's why these guys need to ask their wife for permission for everything, WITHOUT QUESTION.

Back in the wild, men who didn't reach MANHOOD simply died off. For the rest, when the pvssy lost its luster, they'd simply move on to next willing muchacha. (At least the dudes that were high enough up in the social pecking order).

Nowadays, unless a man spends considerable effort over enough time to reach MANHOOD on his own, he's trapped in the beta world.

There's certainly no escape for dudes who get married in their twenties or early thirties.

Unless, the dude is so incredibly focused on what he wants to create with his life, (Say, Mick Jagger, for example) he just plows through women like in the good old days of hunting/gathering.

Kind of like a rocket needing a certain escape velocity. Unless you've got it, you're orbiting BETA PLANET for life.

Guys like Jagger have so much escape velocity that despite how many women try and hang on, he just cruised by planet after planet, devouring all the pvssy that's available, and then leaving a trail of families.

That's the lesson for the day, kids:

You are a ROCKET, chicks can hang on for as long as they can, but when they let go, you ain't coming back to get them.

For the OP, try this:

Neighbor: Wow, you live alone? Don't you get lonely?

Peak: Yea sometimes, but then I just order a couple hookers.