"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Welcome the Approach Anxiety

Kev07

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Approach anxiety is a good thing.

What?!

No really.

I was in a relationship and started getting, you could say, a bit "settled?"

well anyways that ended but there was a end effect of it too.

I lost approach anxiety, or a want to approach at all.

For example, I would see a HB, and think to myself, "hey she's pretty", and that's it. after that thought i would just go on with my day, sometimes I would still go and approach but it wouldn't really feel like I was doing anything and end up bailing too soon because I just didn't care.

Well as you would imagine I didn't really get much done, yeah every now and then I'd interest a girl enough for them to get my #, but it wasn't often.

Fortunately, this spell didn't last too long and I'm starting to feel approach anxiety again, back to step one when I first found out all about this, but I'm hoping to move fast.

So moral of the story? WELCOME That approach anxiety, it's a challenger and over come it :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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