Weirdo Korean girl-giving me advice via Facebook-oh pleaseee

[joe45]

ok i met this K girl at holt renfrew. gave her my card and she texted me and we went out for coffee at Tim Hortons. i had to carry the conversation and try to make more conversation. After the 3 weeks i asked her to go ice skating with me on robson square(since its free) and she said busy. she messages me back via facebook with her so called advice with the the message shown below. ok how bout the time we first met ,and i had to wait for 20 minutes for you. you didnt see me complain. ah no. i tried to make the most out of it. and whats wrong with it being FREE unless shes a golddigger. whats next i have to pick her up in a SL . sheesh K girls . uhh

`hey, I'm writing message to give you advice. you know?
your behavior is strange. if you are interested in someone or if you wanna make some friends, you have to change your behavior.
women like just small gentel or considerate actions.
after we met, you should have sent message that is asking if i am safe. and before you suggest another meeting, you should have sent some texts. just ask about my normal life.
but you had done nothing and then you suggested meeting.
it's so strange. it sounds that you wanna meet me only whenever you're bored.
the worst thing you did is 'the fee is free for you.'
it hurt women's confidence. never say that.
if you wanna pay for me, just pay at the time. probably women expect that.
Learn about women more. Learn about manner more.
I know you're not a bad man. you just don't know well.
I hope my advice works for you.``

 

[Warrior74]

Someone's been thinking about you eh? LOL. Sounds like she loves it.

 

[mustfirstregister]

F0ck it.

 

[betterthandead]

After reading your date interaction and communication I wouldn't call her weirdo.

Why did you wait 3 weeks?

Why ice skating? God that is so gay if a guy to bring a girl out for an lame ass ice skating date. Those are places where I'd go for myself, friends, or family. Not a date.

I would listen to the girl though and chalk this up as experience and move on. Be glad she said something before letting you go.

ok i met this K girl at holt renfrew. gave her my card and she texted me and we went out for coffee at Tim Hortons. i had to carry the conversation and try to make more conversation. After the 3 weeks i asked her to go ice skating with me on robson square(since its free) and she said busy. she messages me back via facebook with her so called advice with the the message shown below. ok how bout the time we first met ,and i had to wait for 20 minutes for you. you didnt see me complain. ah no. i tried to make the most out of it. and whats wrong with it being FREE unless shes a golddigger. whats next i have to pick her up in a SL . sheesh K girls . uhh

`hey, I'm writing message to give you advice. you know?
your behavior is strange. if you are interested in someone or if you wanna make some friends, you have to change your behavior.
women like just small gentel or considerate actions.
after we met, you should have sent message that is asking if i am safe. and before you suggest another meeting, you should have sent some texts. just ask about my normal life.
but you had done nothing and then you suggested meeting.
it's so strange. it sounds that you wanna meet me only whenever you're bored.
the worst thing you did is 'the fee is free for you.'
it hurt women's confidence. never say that.
if you wanna pay for me, just pay at the time. probably women expect that.
Learn about women more. Learn about manner more.
I know you're not a bad man. you just don't know well.
I hope my advice works for you.``

 

[powpow]

pretty sure youre friendzoned. dont worry about it. but she really does sound really asian. like more asian than american style. they do things differently in asia, like the guys give them gifts and stuff to try to woo them. dont stress it.

 

[Htienvu]

Sound like you didn't create enough rapport and went straight in. Different girl likes to be chased differently I guess, she doesn't sound weird to me.

 

[seagull]

It sounds like she was into you but you ****ed it up. But when dealing with Asian women (from Asia) it is a different game, a lot of the rules that apply to Western women do not work. It sounds like you fell into that trap.

 

[ArcBound]

Well you definitely got her thinking about you but you overshot. Why did you wait 3 weeks before initiating another date?

If a woman went out on a date with you, then she disappeared for 3 weeks everyone on this forum would be calling her a b!tch or would tell you to next her. She probably thought you dumped her and when you contacted her she tried to save face by giving you a list lol.

 

[AAAgent]

this guy is fvcking weird. I've read many of his posts. He doesn't take any advice and creeps girls out.

all he does is post something bad that happened everyone gives him this advice and he never responds. He also asked for advice on his appearance and clothes which we gave but he never bothered to change probably.

This guy isn't a troll but might just as well classify him as one

 

[Jack-Torrance]

It has nothing to do with her culture...

Relationship =/= fling. Sometimes the "rules" are a bit different, make sure you understand her personality. When going for a relationship sometimes you'll find that women want you to show them that they are special to you and that you like their personality. But again it comes down to the sort of girl she is.

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

Well you definitely got her thinking about you but you overshot. Why did you wait 3 weeks before initiating another date?

If a woman went out on a date with you, then she disappeared for 3 weeks everyone on this forum would be calling her a b!tch or would tell you to next her. She probably thought you dumped her and when you contacted her she tried to save face by giving you a list lol.

wait, wait, wait!

Isnt that what we were supposed to do? Sorta just show interest and then give her plenty of space? Indifference etc. (after almost a month of lurking in this forum I read some posts that are like that)

 

[SharinganUser]

wait, wait, wait!

Isnt that what we were supposed to do? Sorta just show interest and then give her plenty of space? Indifference etc. (after almost a month of lurking in this forum I read some posts that are like that)

Waiting three weeks and then asking her to go figure skating is not how things get done.

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

Waiting three weeks and then asking her to go figure skating is not how things get done.

true, but then what about the whole cutting off contact thing? plus, what if you have a legit reason? e.g. school?

 

[SharinganUser]

true, but then what about the whole cutting off contact thing? plus, what if you have a legit reason? e.g. school?

The no contact rule is generally just for break ups/rejections, or getting over oneitis.

If you have a legitmate reason for not seeing the girl for three weeks, then you can keep in contact with her with facebook or texting I've heard is popular. Or you can just put her on the backburner and move on to a new girl when you actually have time to date.

 

[JohnnyStrabler]

The no contact rule is generally just for break ups/rejections, or getting over oneitis.

If you have a legitmate reason for not seeing the girl for three weeks, then you can keep in contact with her with facebook or texting I've heard is popular. Or you can just put her on the backburner and move on to a new girl when you actually have time to date.

Oooooohhhhhhh ok, I get it now.

Just FYI; Tom Leykis says leave ASAP after you bang her, idk what thats about

 

[cordoncordon]

While I agree she is probably a b!tch. she is Asian. And unless they are fully Americanized, they think VERY old school, especially the ones that came to the US after age 16 or so. Men should lead, be considerate, etc etc. keep that in mind when dating an Asian. They are super to date and fvck, and would make great wives, but you have to treat them a little differently.

 

[SharinganUser]

Oooooohhhhhhh ok, I get it now.

Just FYI; Tom Leykis says leave ASAP after you bang her, idk what thats about

I've never read his stuff but my educated guess would be that it helps keep either of you from getting to emotionally attached. It also shows her that you have other things to do.

 

[Warrior74]

Oooooohhhhhhh ok, I get it now.

Just FYI; Tom Leykis says leave ASAP after you bang her, idk what thats about

Remember. ASAP means As Soon As Possible. But you have to determine what possible is.

What it doesn't mean is bust a nut and be out the door in 30 seconds like the house is on fire.

And it doesn't mean leaving the next morning after fixing her breakfast.

It means leaving soon enough that she doesn't get too deep into pillow talk and attachment, but no so soon that she feels like a slut. How do you know? You have to use your judgement of the girl and pay attention. (and probably make some mistakes)

After a while, throw out the "I gotta get up early..." and get dressed.

 

[scribblec]

Waiting three weeks and then asking her to go figure skating is not how things get done.

figure skating ROFL