"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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ok met chick at bar was all over me all night brought her back to my place.... made out messed around no sex. should wouldnt let me. both passed out. she drops me off next day. now she hates me for some reason. I dont really care but it's odd what could it be? I did make out with her friend the night before maybe thats it? is that bad though?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Could be that her friend and her compared notes. Or what is common is these girls start feeling guilty after they do things like this. They hate you instead of hating themselves.....its how their fragile ego's protect themselves.
 

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does it look bad on my part to be making out with her friend or is it a good thing
 

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Could be that her friend and her compared notes. Or what is common is these girls start feeling guilty after they do things like this. They hate you instead of hating themselves.....its how their fragile ego's protect themselves.
their loss
 

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if you really want to know, take on the caring dude angle and text her and say you seem upset is there something we need to talk about? She might actually respond and tell you the truth and then you would know
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I cant tell if your being sarcastic or not? haha
im serious, what's it going to hurt? im not saying to pander to her but, if u know she's legit upset, send her a text saying "you seem upset, is there something we need to talk about?" and see what she says.

Maybe it is the friend you smacked on, maybe she IS feeling remorseful about slutting it up with you and is employing ASD, maybe it's something totally different like you didn't text her for a FULL hour after you guy parted ways.

This is a situation where, since you have outcome independence, it's not going to hurt to ask
 
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