"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Weird walk?

Ziggy

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Lately a few people have told me I walk "differently". And I'm wondering if I should change the way I walk or if people just aren't used to someone that doesn't hunch over while walking. Generally when I walk I have my shoulders thrown back and I lead with my hips. I notice most people lead with their chest but to me that doesn't seem to convey confidence.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ace of Flames

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Sounds like how a girl walks. They swing their hips as they take a step.

I'd say forget what you think about the chest thing not being confident, and give it a try. If people stop commenting on your walk, or point out how you seem so confident, then stick with it.
 

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you swing your hips? lol im not laughing at you but the picture in my head im getting is like a guy with a lollipop sticking out of his mouth and gay as hell
 

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Skel said:
you swing your hips? lol im not laughing at you but the picture in my head im getting is like a guy with a lollipop sticking out of his mouth and gay as hell

Nah, I don't really swing my hips. Maybe I'm not explaining it very well. Go watch John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever, that's pretty much how I walk.
 

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Ziggy said:
Go watch John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever, that's pretty much how I walk.
LOL at you:rock:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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penkitten

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are the people saying this girls? good they noticed you out of the crowd.
just smile and say i walk normal whats wrong with all these other people walking like they are 80?
 
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